Raman is ALL ALONE at the end of the day

Almost two months ago, I made a post : At the end of the day Raman is ALL ALONE. After seeing all these dramas of Ishita last two months and today's SBS it is evident that my conclusion was right.

Reality of Raman's life: Shagun is Adi's mother and Ishita is Ruhi's mother. But there is NO wife of Raman.

Raman's married twice. First Shagun then Ishita but none of them was his wife in truest sense. His present equations with his ex and current wife can be regarded as the most suitable one- Shagun is Adi's mother and Ishita is Ruhi's mother.Raman's first wife regarded him a failure, cheated on him and eventually left him over materialistic things. The betrayal hit the once Happy Bhalla hard. He transformed himself into everything that he wasn't once. This is the price he paid to attain the pinnacle of success. His second marriage with Ishita was a marriage of convenience. Both of them got married for their own selfish reasons. Initially they hated each other, both had wrong images about each other on their minds. Once the view got cleared they became friends. But neither of them wanted to work on their marriage which was fine since it's a contract marriage only. Now suddenly Mani came into the picture, tagged Raman as a failed husband and reprimanded him for not working on his marriage? Did Mani for once speak to Ishita what had she done to progress their relationship? Some may argue she brought Raman-Ruhi close, wanted Adi to get reformed, took good care of his family members. But Ishita herself agreed many times she did it for Ruhi's happiness. She wanted her daughter to have a good relationship with her father and brother. She wanted to ensure a loving family atmosphere for her daughter. She openly declared after DNA fiasco, she exposed the truth to bring the happiness back for Ruhi. She didn't do it to relief Raman's pain. Ruhi was the main intention of all her actions and Raman was the by product beneficiary which was fine as it was the sole purpose of her marriage. But she didn't do much to work on her marriage other than making Palak Paneer, Chola Bhature and a marathon fasting during Varalakhsmi puja. She's always busy either in social services or jagga jassosi work for others. Now all of a sudden Raman is ONLY responsible NOT to work on his marriage? Actually he gave more meanings to their marriage than Ishita did. He of course did lots of things for Iyers but that wouldn't count as Ishita too did her part for Bhallas even if it's for Ruhi only. But Raman wanted to make new memory with her, she didn't respond. Raman wanted to get close with her, he got a "CHEE" from Ishita in return. Raman didn't think once to resign from his presidentship to get back her dental license. He put a nameplate of her in front of Bhalla house where he himself didn't have this privilege. These are clear signals from his side that he wants to move on with her but every time he got cold shoulder from Ishita as a response. Then why blaming Raman? If anyone is to blame, it's Ishita.

Another interesting fact the Mani track brought. Ishita and Shagun are very different in nature but their expectaion from Raman is same. They both want Raman to behave in their own likings. If he behaves as per their likings, they would shower love to him and if he doesn't he's not worthy of their loves. Had Raman been this successful as he is now, Shagun would never leave him rather she would shower all her love to him.Similarly, Ishita wants Raman to behave as per her likings only to shower her love. When Raman behaves the way she likes she says " aaj aap mere Raman ho gaye" and bestows all her love to him. When he doesn't, he is rude, insensitive, careless according to her. Can we call it LOVE? Does love come with a "shaart" (clause)? She surely would've some expectations from him but behaving so extremely is not love, at least to me. If you want to change your lover, want to behave only the way you like then you're not in love in the first place. Raman in his all life searched for the elusive love but he didn't get it from any of them. At the end of the day, Raman is all alone and he'll always will be...

I said it earlier. Shagun is too selfish and Ishita is too selfless.
But they both have (had) no time for Raman.
Raman needs someone who is REAL.

diya n monal...BANG ON posts frm u both...👏👏👏

Superb Post Diya
LM has taken always raman for granted , never worked on her marriage. She always put raman down in front of Mani and rubbed mani on his face calling him hero and savior.
hats off for bringing out ugly truth of this story. She has never shown possessiveness for raman that she shows for ruhi.
and she keeps every one above raman. Slave bana ke rakha he raman ko.

I had read that post. That time I agreed and unfortunately my opinion stays the same. I would like to borrow a sentence that I read in this forum some days ago "Ishita is NOT matured enough to be a wife".

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

I said it earlier. Shagun is too selfish and Ishita is too selfless.
But they both have (had) no time for Raman.
Raman needs someone who is REAL.

Diya, if I'm not mistaken you wrote that previous post at the beginning of Mani track when Ishita ignored and criticized Raman after the fake accident fiasco at the park. Many members here bashed you but they couldn't deny your valid points. After this, we saw overly touchy-touchy scene between Ishita and Mani, so I don't think there will be many to bash you this time. LOL. 😆😆

On a serious note, even in past two months, Raman is tired of giving hints after hints to his biwi but Ishita seemed oblivious. Well, I can't say "oblivious" per se. Because Ishita knew Raman wanted to take the FIRST STEP and she wanted to take the step first. I thought for the first time she would try to progress their relationship. But after three weeks, she did nothing. I wonder what's stopping her to make that FIRST STEP that she blushingly so wanted to take?

I agree. It feels so sad to see that Ishita hasn't done anything for this relationship. Yesterday when I was watching the episode Ishu was giving lectures to Mihika about love and I was like "Idiot, you too have your love by your side, value it" Ishu has time for everyone but she hasn't time for Raman and her relationship. From the past two months, Raman has showed Ishu his feelings, he tried to take their relationship to next level but Ishu doesn't pays heat to it and is more into her MAHANATA. I want to see the possessive site of Ishu like she has for Ruhi. It feels so sad to see only RKB putting effort in this relationship. It's high time that Ishu realise the importance of this relationship.

Originally posted by: ankitasen

On a serious note, even in past two months, Raman is tired of giving hints after hints to his biwi but Ishita seemed oblivious. Well, I can't say "oblivious" per se. Because Ishita knew Raman wanted to take the FIRST STEP and she wanted to take the step first. I thought for the first time she would try to progress their relationship. But after three weeks, she did nothing. I wonder what's stopping her to make that FIRST STEP that she blushingly so wanted to take?

Exactly. That's what I said, in last two months Raman was all explicit but I don't understand what's stopping her. I read ony WU these days but in last episode Ishita gave a lecture to Mihika about "love"!! It's like a blind person helping another blind one to cross the street.

I have been feeling the same since Mani's entry and Ishita's over-adulation of Mani. She completely ignored her husband then, didnt even try to understand him (and people say she's so samjhdaar!!!!) and again she's all busy only in solving in other people's prob. She actually causes more troubles this way but is still adamant to interfere. Mihika did the same!