I can't have children n today's episode did hurt me

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Posted: 11 years ago
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I can't have children, but that's not the end of the world. It was difficult for a few days to accept it but then life moves on. My husband is very supportive and he is handling it well for me. When I saw today's episode I felt it was very disturbing, if I was ishita, I would have maintained good distance with the man who can't understand a women's helplessness in such situations and also the social, emotional and mental trauma she goes through. Raman's statement that he won't get that happiness again to shagun was not acceptable. It is now his and ishita's personal topic n involving shagun in it is very un thoughtful. If he would have said all this to his mum or dad, it could have been different. Here we see shagun trying to establish her superiority over ishita just because she gave raman 2 children. It's hurt me a lot

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Sorry for your state but as you said life continues though initially it is difficult to accept but everyone of us has to face some difficulties in some other forms, way then again we continue to live leaving the problem behind.
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It was the phrase that he can't become a father again which disturbed a few viewers.. he should not have said it, as he's targeting Ishita indirectly but he's targeting her biggest pain...He should not talked about it with Shagun and by the way he knows his ex wifey with whom he was getting emotional a bit I think...
Again I'll add Ishita is a character which Cv's makes a joke of she never reacts, she's never angry ,she never feels bad...Cv's makes her a character who does not respect herself as if an easygoing lady.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Me to its been 15+ yrs we are not lucky but u know what my hubby says we enjoy without kids .
Kids are necessary but not to extent of obsession .
I can feel the pain that ishu is facing .
It took me ages to realize that it's not end of the road life moves on and if u life partner is supportive it feels comfortable to live on .

But Raman didn't mean that way of ishu it was meant that he will never go physical but ishu took the other way round .
Edited by rockstar29 - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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totally agree..even if he said that because their marriage is not consummated ..it is none of shagun's business to know ..and she is the last person he needs to share that thought with ...why give her that superior feeling of bearing two kids ...enough fuel to taunt ishita about that later on! ...

Originally posted by: Pardesindian

I can't have children, but that's not the end of the world. It was difficult for a few days to accept it but then life moves on. My husband is very supportive and he is handling it well for me. When I saw today's episode I felt it was very disturbing, if I was ishita, I would have maintained good distance with the man who can't understand a women's helplessness in such situations and also the social, emotional and mental trauma she goes through. Raman's statement that he won't get that happiness again to shagun was not acceptable. It is now his and ishita's personal topic n involving shagun in it is very un thoughtful. If he would have said all this to his mum or dad, it could have been different. Here we see shagun trying to establish her superiority over ishita just because she gave raman 2 children. It's hurt me a lot

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Posted: 11 years ago
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I completely agree with you, that Raman should not be sharing details about his marital life with SHAGUN!!!! He is well aware that Shagun will use his words against him and he knows the type of woman she is, SO WHY THE HELL WOULD HE SHARE SOMETHING WITH HER, ESPECIALLY ABOUT ISHU! If Raman shared his inner feelings with Mihir, or his family members its understandable but with Shagun 😡! The fact that he shared that with Shagun doesn't sit well with me and makes me question Why Raman finds it important to ALWAYS advertise his marital relationship with Ishita, first to Adi and then to his family (including Param) and now Shagun.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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why will he think he won't go physical?? that is worse ..because once he's been physical with shagun and can't get over it? ...and it was not his right to share his physical intimacy with his current wife with his ex...very humiliating!

Originally posted by: rockstar29

Me to its been 15+ yrs we are not lucky but u know what my hubby says we enjoy without kids .
Kids are necessary but not to extent of obsession .
I can feel the pain that ishu is facing .
It took me ages to realize that it's not end of the road life moves on and if u life partner is supportive it feels comfortable to live on .

But Raman didn't mean that way of ishu it was meant that he will never go physical but ishu took the other way round .

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: vandana21

why will he think he won't go physical?? that is worse ..because once he's been physical with shagun and can't get over it? ...and it was not his right to share his physical intimacy with his current wife with his ex...very humiliating!






He is complex his inner feelings can't get it
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Sh*t happens!!! That is life. Raman is not a very sensitive guy, he is your average joe who will say stupid stuff to feel superior. He will keep kissing Shagun's ass as she gave him that bimbo Adi who refuses to even acknowledge him as his dad.

You are very lucky to have an understanding husband. It sickens me that Raman only acts stupid for Adi and not Ruhi...coz he is a boy child? I hate this Male obsession with Male child. I feel half of the women will prefer a girl child but they pray and hope for a boy coz they know it will make them look good in the eyes of the inlaws and husband. Its not only in India, I live in US and I have seen this among white and Mexican families.




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Posted: 11 years ago
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U know what thosji and Raman are obsessed with adi because he is male .
I hate the fact that male child still considered as superior and family rulers bullshit few male kids leave there parents in a bay when they are old leave them to die alone crap .
in this age also such attitude .
Edited by rockstar29 - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Raman fell into Shagun trap. i was even upset and only because he made a comment about a personal issue to his ex wife who accused him of beating adi 😕 it felt all wrong why he should tell Shagun he can never be a father again even if its a known fact, in real life this would never happen but for drama it happened

It touched my heart when ishita said it her life problem,how alone she is with her issues, really want the cvs to gives us more on ishita and her emotions.
Edited by momb24 - 11 years ago

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