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One thing like about today's episode.
When Ishita was made to apologize to Adi and Shagun, we were all upset, myself included.
But she chose to apologize, albeit Ruhi ke Liye. Perhaps she shouldn't have, but once she chose to, she gave a clean, factual but effective apology. She did it with dignity, all things considered.
Today, Shagun, when talking to Ashok, admitted that Ishita handled the situation well. She wasn't expecting her to apologize. At minimum the trio had gone in with the intent of causing a tamasha, humiliating Ishu and Adi/Shagun wanting a rift between IshRa.
So, even though begrudgingly, Ishita earned Shagun's respect. Dignity won Respect.
I just read Heema22's (thank you Heema) recent response to my post "Majboori or Choice". She explained that Raman was in a power struggle with Adi and that he needed to disengage to make effective choices with regards to Adi. - that's my translation - she explained it more eloquently.
It was an Ahaa moment for me to realize that, the reason Ishita was effective in the restaurant scenario is that she didn't engage in the power-struggle with Adi/Shagun.
It also makes me think...when Shagun left Raman, he lost his wife, marriage and son and he had no say, no control over what happened. He must have felt incredibly out of control.
To avoid feeling the pain/failure/out of control, he seems to have become chidchida, defensive, controlling, needing to be right, needing the last word etc. He also got into a revenge/power struggle with Ashok - all supposed ways to gain control (NOT!)
His defensive behaviour seems to show up in the constant attitude with Ishita. Allowing himself to open up to Ishita, be vulnerable, would likely feel like a threat to survival so to speak, likely feel like wayyy outta control to Raman. No wonder he is resisting.
My thoughts.. What do you think??
Sampoorna
