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Hello lovely people of the YHM forum!!!!
I realize that a lot of us are upset with and confused about how Aditya acts and his apparent indifference towards Ashok but severe criticism for Raman. Aditya and Shagun are two characters that I fail to understand time and time again, but I wanted to take a look at Aditya to really try and understand him. I also know that a lot of us are disgusted at Raman's attempts to constantly clarify his relationship with Ishita, but I hope we can take an objective look at his actions too and hence I am offerring my two cents on this father-son duo.
Aditya :
Yes, we see a child who is holding an unwaranted, and to a slight extent, unjustifiable grudge against his father. But Aditya IS a child who is broken by the harsh realities of life, who is deprived of a meaningful relationship with his father. I can't imagine that Aditya has not grown up with his own share of fears and insecurities, especially about his father. That, I feel, is the reason why Aditya reacts to Ishita the way he does, while he shows absolutel nonchalance about Ashok and Shagun's relation.
I feel like Aditya is a child who is longing for his fathers attention and love, and so cannot stand the inteference of a third person in that relationship with his father. Aditya already has his mothers undivided attention, so he doesn't care that Ashok is in that equation. Yes, this is an extremely flawed, unimpressive imprint of childish conclusion on Aditya's part, but I will not be surprised if this is the motivating factor behind how Aditya reacts towards Ishita.
Raman:
Yess, his constant reminder to Adi that Ishita is just Ruhi's mother is absolutley unsolicited and in doing so, Raman relegates Ishita to a dead end! I don't agree with the need for Raman to contantly assure Adi, but I find this particular father-son interaction very intriguing.
Aditya needs this constant verbal acknowledgement as much as Raman does. Raman has to remind himself, as much as he needs to remind Adi, that he is not guilty or to be held accountable for the web of broken relationships around them. Adi and Raman are men who are equally broken by the circumstances that surround them, with each one of them displacing their guilt and anger in whatever way they can find. In both the instances that Raman has tried to clarify the stance of his relationship with Ishita, you can clearly see the internal turmoil, the guilt AND the DEFENCE that Raman is putting up. Raman needs to do it for his sake, and less for Adi's...he needs to do it to remind and assure himself that there is no dearth of love for his kids, that despite what Shagun and Ashok make him out to be, Raman is still a father who loves his children, regardless of the people who come in and out of his life.
Having said all that, I do not, in any way, condone any of the actions these two people commit. I only want to try and offer an alternate look at WHY they do what they do...
What do you all think? Agree? Disagree? Your two cents are welcome :D :D
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