When will bhalla start respecting ishita - Page 5

Originally posted by: Heema22

<font size="3">Sas and Bahu equation is very complicated. Specially this relationship has lots of dynamics. Every Bahu goes though adjustment. .Inshita is new Bahu and she needs some time . It's only 20 days old marriage. There is no love in this marriage, Mrs Bhalla never liked Ishita who insulted her son on live tv . Extremely difficult for mother to respect this kind of women . I give mrs Bhalla lots of credit that she accepted this cross culture marriage for her granddaughter .</font>

<font size="3">I am not found of either mother on the show but respect is earned its Two way street . Ishita knew about Mrs Bhalla eccentricities, she is an educated women she knew what she was getting into .she knew that mrs Bhalla cannot tolerate any criticism from Ishita specially about Simmi her daughters. (Mother's weak point ). Inshita know mr Bhalla is very understanding and sympathetic man .she should have approach him and not Mrs Bhalla . . So she sets herself up for this conflict . We need to know how to avoid conflicts in poor relationships .( education teaches us this )</font>

<font size="3">I personally think , knowing all the problems between two family Ishias is tolerated well by Bhallas .</font>

Originally posted by: aimf

@ Heema

You make very valid points, and I like how you have worded them. I also like that this show is not really focusing on kitchen politics in a typical sas-bahu way. Instead, at least till now, we have some layers and nuances in various relationships that you point out, such as the control issue, and and also the fine-tuned egos of the personalities involved.

@asha

I liked your observations also.


I think that adjustment takes time, especially since 2 hostile families have got together, and two people who absolutely detested each other got married. Let us not forget all that happened between the neighbours, specifically between Ishita and Raman before the wedding, even leading right up to it. Further, there are continued misunderstandings even as people are trying to adjust to one another. Ishita herself has been quite high and mighty and only now is she slowly learning to relate to the various bhallas. I also think it is a cultural issue. South Indians do not tend to be very vocal about their thoughts or feelings in general and can be rather private, giving off the vibe to non-southerners that they are aloof and snobbish. North Indians, on the other hand might be more expressive and demonstrative both of positive and negative feelings. It will take some time to plumb through the depths of baggage of cultural morass that each person carries and to take steps to understand the other.

• they already had acrimonious baggage and hurts due to each other prior to the marriage; just because they are married all of sudden, they won't forget because the subconscious remembers.

• cultural morass - yes we inherit a lot of it from our parents and the community we live - a fish doesn't realize it is swimming in water until it is pulled out of it and gets perspective

• the Toshiji-Ishita equation is only a typical saas-bahu relationship on the surface
  

• when people have positional views or a need to be right, they back themselves into a corner and their ego makes them respond with akad and fights out of the blue

I guess its not a simple situation and will take time to unravel itself

@inferno - vary valid point re: "Mrs. Bhalla nor the family is mentally prepared to have a daughter-in-law...So, in their minds they have a mother for Ruhi, but not a daughter-in-law."

Originally posted by: --mancityfan--

that's an interesting point and different perspective but then I am saying that they could acknowledge her atleast but ya watching last night she did not have proof against simmi so reaction of mrs bhalla was perfect

Originally posted by: Heema22

<font size="3">Hi mancityfan 🤗Sorry I do not know your name but you as a thread maker I really appreciate your response . I know our opinion on topic are very different but you were polite to acknowledge it . I appreciate this .thanks .</font>

<font size="3"> I am frustrated with this forum . I think as a thread maker ( anyone ) , person should respect others opinion and respond to posts on that thread . Most posts with different opinions are ignored by thread maker . This is very rude in my opinion . . Learn to recognize posts when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable. Every one doesn't not agree with every thing you say .. It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. . . Learn to recognize others posts ( when they are expressing different POV) when you read it, even if it


means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable</font><font size="3">This is not directed to you as thread maker . I think you have done well . I just wanted to express my frustrations that all. .</font>

<font size="3">. Everyone wants to see Brainless romance and leads falling in love. But this show is about mature love not about teenage romance . It will be very boring if mrs Bhalla starts loving Ishita at this time . It's not her personality . Lady does not talk behind anyones back she is upfront and loud . They both need time to adjust .</font>