Today's Epi: Positive Message Through Symbolism

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anonee

@anonee

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Posted: 10 years ago

Today's Epi: Positive Message Through Symbolism

The key message in today's episode was conveyed via symbolism. What is it that I am talking about?

The images of white ants or termites eating away Anshuman's keepsakes and framed picture.

What is the symbolism behind this?

White ants or termites are insects which generally conjecture images of erosion, attack, change, sabotage, subterfuge, stealth, and destruction.

These pests bring about destruction over a large period of time silently, unnoticed by anyone. Their destruction remains unnoticed because they work in the background, hidden beneath the surface leaving the exterior to look the same or intact. So basically everything within a structure is hollow (because of termite destruction) and, suddenly one day the structure collapses under its own weight.

This symbolism of termites on Anshuman's picture and keepsakes tells that Pakhi's relationship with Anshuman is and has been slowly eroding internally or in the inside without her knowledge. --- Just as the termites make a piece of wood hollow from the inside without their destruction being noticed from the outside.

The symbolism also indicates that in some sort of sudden impact Pakhi will realize that internally she has no feelings for Anshuman - OR perhaps her feelings for Anshuman may come to a slow end because she gradually realizes the influence of Veer in her life.

The termites are gnawing at the core of her psyche where feelings for Anshuman have been entrenched by years of "mind control" or brainwash following her child-marriage. Until their influence on Pakhi's psyche is broken.

Edited by anonee - 10 years ago

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@lovely_lady

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Posted: 10 years ago

Idk. I don't like the idea that Pakhi never loved Anshuman. To me, that negates the whole point of the show.

Pakhi loved Anshuman with everything she had. Idk about "brainwash," but yes she had an idealized image of Anshuman in her head that she loved. It was like an enduring childhood crush. Later on, when she got to know the real him, she realized he wasn't her idealized love. But despite that, she still loved him. She got to know him and saw his ugly side. And yet, she loved him despite all his faults. And Anshuman loved her for that as well, along with all her other good and bad faults as well. Their love story was amazing because it evolved to absolute unconditional love.

To me, the Pakhi-Veer love story track, is about showing that not only can you move on after the love of your life dies, but that love can take various forms. The love Pakhi will have for Veer (although romantic in nature) will be very different for the one she had for Anshuman. Anshuman and Veer are different people, thus the love she will have and share with each other will be different as well. And just because its different, it doesn't mean that its not love.

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abhiyaswaron

@abhiyaswaron

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Posted: 10 years ago

I respect ur views ...
But Paakhi loved ANshuman truly..

It was clearly evident..

If they show that Paakhi realizes that she never had feelings for Anshuman, the show will go deeper in its grave as it already has gone for a toss.

The only thing I like about it now is that she hasnt forgotten Anshuman and still loves him, she has said it and thats what I loved it..

Just becoz he died, doesn't mean that she can forget that he was her everything and still is..

Just my views..

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Vinnie79

@Vinnie79

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Posted: 10 years ago

Nice post on symbolsym. It is brinign change and that change will not come easy. I agree with Lovely_lady, about the brain washing part. I know you use the term alot, but I mean I don't think she was so much brain wahsed , which would mean I think following him blindly, and Paakhi for all intents is a very smart woman.
Yes she fell for an image, but in the beginning b4 she met him her brother was in the process of trying to convince her to move on and she was willing, all she wanted to know as she stated was if he wanted her or not, but she was WILLING TO MOVE ON!!!
Then she met him and recognised him by the Sarsh ka Bhasha, and by his own lie, got her to come back with him. She saw the bad side of him and choose to let it go., and Paakhi herself said she probably loved AAyan more than Anshuman.
She left him twice in the show, once when he told her he wanted Tanya and then when he called her a characterless, she choose her self pride over her love.
Those actions are not of a brainwashed person. But of some one who was willing to sacrifice and give her marriage a try because even if he did not she took that commitment, her parents made , then her as an adult after hearing his story seriously but at the same time she was not going to stay some where where there was unhappiness and if he was unhappy with her she was not staying.
Yes in the end , he realized he loved her and her waiting seemed to have paid of. The love they shared it was true tht went through various tests.
The thing is Paakhi probably feels cheated as she did not get the time with him. To her Anshuman is her one true love.
And if every one starts to crowd her now, as they have been doing with the baby talk, and rasams, she is going to start to feel like she did with the remarriage, cornered. And I am afraid just like then the person she will blow up on would be none other than Veer.
That being said given the time frame he had time to heal she did not. Could she have fallen in love with Veer naturally on her own with out being pushed, maybe possibly...
But change is not always easy and we are about to see that.
Again Love is Love...and what she felt for Anshuman was indeed real and true...and what she will eventually come to feel for Veer will be real and true as well. But she has to get there on her own...

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payal7

@payal7

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Posted: 10 years ago

WOW Anone

That is some physiological analysis. That never occurred to me. I saw the scene and though this is just another scene to reinforce the conflict - she was with Veer and his family one moment and was pulled in the next towards Ansuman. I did find Pakhi's reaction more muted than I expected. She clean things, ask Maji to call the pest control but I was expecting her to be completely distraught, blast the help for not taking care of his things, demand everything is moved to a new room and instruct them to clean it on a daily basis so nothing like this happens again else.

So in context of your analysis it makes sense although I agree with Lovely-lady that Pakhi absolutely loved Ansuman (the man he was/became). But unfortunately lack of Ansuman's physical presence means that love cannot grow/evolve as she moves forward in her life. IMHO Ansuman will always have a special place in Pakhi's heart, soul and memories.

For me this about showing that its fine to move on and live again. That its not a taboo or being unfaithful or replacing the person who has died if you care/love someone else because the memories of the person who died never fade . As I said her reaction was a lot more muted than I expected but I think its not because she no longer loves Ansuman or did not love Ansuman but because as time passes the sheer agony of losing someone you love fades into a dull pain and you are left with their memories and a realisation that their possessions can provide solace/comfort but cannot bring the person back.

As I have said before no 2 individuals are the same and therefore no 2 relationships can be the same. So will be the case here.

Pakhi-Ansuman had "traditional" love and romance (2 people of similar age, who after marriage get to know each other and learn to love and respect the person they are married to, support them).

On the other hand PakhVeer are 2 people who have got to each other very well and have become best friends with whom they can share anything (their strengths, weaknesses, fears, worries) say anything (she was able to say outright "they thought I was pregnant without embarrassment"). They care about each other and are now starting to have feeling for the other that are beyond friendship. Veer is older and therefore has the maturity to be able to handle the responsibility of taking on someone else's child and business without feeling like he is living in Ansuman's shadow/losing his identity.

I agree that change is not easy and this is a huge change. Pakhi feels cheated out of her time with Ansuman and anything or anyone including herself who tries to "take away" what little she has left of him - she will fight tooth and nail.

Like the wedding fiasco she will feel Veer is responsible for the predicament she now finds herself in (if he had not brain washed Aayan, then she would not have to marry him, and if that had not happened then she would not be having to deal with marriage rituals, baby talk and now his feelings for her) so once again he is in the firing line. And as I have said above as they are very comfortable with each other she will say what she thinks and feels without restraint/sugar coating/holding back.

Veerji get ready 😆- you were scared of Pakhi during the mock fight, this is for real !!!!

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anonee

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Posted: 10 years ago

I use the term brainwashing because of Pakhi's behavior and her reference to Dhola-Maru.

Now let me briefly elaborate why:

Her behavior was typical of a "brainwashed" person - as a child bride she waited for 18 years repeating the mantra "tumhari pakhi" even though the society in which she lived never did the same to Anshuman by brainwashing him to say "tumhara Anshuman" and remain loyal to Pakhi.

Anshuman committed bigamy not once but was willingly to do it twice. He would have happily married a second time but for the media's interference. He knew then that if he married anyone other than Pakhi he would land in jail. So he reluctantly, with the sole aim of divorcing, married her. Of course even then Pakhi true to the "mind control" (or brainwash) inflicted on her looked at Anshuman with love in her eyes as she always did throughout the show and put up with it.

It is impossible that in this day and age (we are no longer living in the 15th century of the Dhola-Maru story) that Pakhi was never aware of what was happening in Anshuman's life. The very fact that she rebuffed her brother's sensible advice and waited with love in her heart for Anshuman is proof of the extent the "brainwashing" damage was inflicted on her.

Anshuman to add salt to the injury flaunted openly with Tanya - even then Pakhi true to the "mind control" inflicted on her looked at Anshuman with love in her eyes. Need I say more to prove my case of the extent of her brainwash? Will you put up with your husband bringing in his lover to your house?

It is a pity that "televised romance" makes people believe that such practices on the psyche of a girl child is acceptable. The burden these child-brides carry - for such "mind control" tactics take lifetimes to erase.

It is reported that similar mind-control practices are and were employed during war times on prisoners of war.

I realize that many in this forum believe that what child-brides are trained to believe for their child-husbands (example: what Pakhi felt for Anshuman) is the real thing or true love.

I realize from many comments on this forum that many feel that child-brides whose husband never bring them to their marital home, or whose husbands commit bigamy, or who are widow should never even think of marrying another man.

I realize that many in the forum want the child brides to remain true to the deep psychological teachings ingrained in them as a child and remain loyal to their child-husbands under all humiliating circumstances. But I consider this wrong thinking and hopefully so do the CVs. So I hope that Pakhi comes out of the delusion that she "only loves Anshuman" - imposed on her since childhood in the most demeaning way to all womanhood!

I realize that many in the forum reflect a segment of society.

To me your posts of Pakhi's love for Anshuman are an indication of the depth to which society has become numb to some of the humiliating practices to the girl child. I realize that building awareness in society takes time and repetition is important. That is why I repeat Pakhi was from childhood subjected to mind-control (or brainwashed) and made to believe that she loves Anshuman.

Fortunately voices like mine cannot be silenced even if they are a minority!

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@lovely_lady

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Posted: 10 years ago

Anonee, I respect your views, but disagree.

First off, I don't think anyone is saying that child marriages are right. No one, or at least I, don't think that practise (child marriage) and its psychological ramifications on the children are right. I'm 100% against child marriage.

Secondly, I while I do not agree with your usage of the term "brainwashed," I do agree with the idea that she definitely had an idealized version of Anshuman that she loved before and even for a time being, during, the time she lived with him.

But she eventually started to love him for who he was. Pakhi didn't just accept Anshuman the way he was. He changed A LOT through spending time with him. If she was "brainwashed," then wouldn't she love Anshuman for the way he was? She wouldn't attempt to change him or anything. But Pakhi did change him. She forced him to be kinder, more opening loving, less conniving, etc. She actively orchestrated events to not only make him realize how much of a shitty person he was sometimes, but also show him how much better he could be. If she was "brainwashed," why would she take the time to do that?

Also, the biggest indicator that she loved Anshuman for who he was/ became eventually, was when she left him. She put her self-respect over her love for him. If "brainwashed," Pakhi would've believed that whatever Anshuman did was right. But she didn't. And when he raised questions at her self-respect, she left. She refused to take that shit from him. She put herself above him and her love for him (opposite of what "brainwashing" would've made her do). While she did love and respect Anshuman to an almost fanatic degree at times, she also had her head on her shoulders, and refused to be insulted so badly. So I don't think she was brainwashed at all.

Also, in order to be "brainwashed," Pakhi would've needed to have been influenced by someone. But in fact, from what we could see, her family did the opposite. Instead of supporting her in her wait for Anshuman, they told her to get married. They didn't "brainwash" her to think that Anshuman was her ruler.

I think, more likely, Pakhi had an enduring crush on Anshuman, based on her idealized version of him, that eventually morphed into love. She met him and saw that while he initially appeared to be her idealized version, he wasn't. Thus, she took it upon herself to change him and make him a better person. She fell in love with his entire being. But she still was not blind to his faults or words. When he attacked her character, she packed up and left, refusing to take his shit. And then he came back and begged for her, and she did not return until putting him through a test, to see whether or not he loved her/ was worthy of her love.

The reason I continually refer to Pakhi's love for Anshuman as all-ecompassing, it because it was all-encompassing. It began as a crush and morphed into true love. Yet, even before and during this time, Pakhi thought about Anshuman. He filled her entire being. Everything she had, she gave to Anshuman and Ayan. Hence why it's all encompassing.

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