Hi NKB,
Welcome to this mad-house Td gr. I'm sure you'll have loads of fun ranting & chatting with all of us. Well, I agree with you that that Love, Trust & Respect are imp for marriage but then how can you be so sure that the sweet guy you are in love or dating will be good all the time, maybe he may have an elephantine ego & may be a complete jerk or may be 2 timing you then what?? On the other hand this so called bad boy may be a sweet romantic & a softie from inside like our DK, the tough exterior is just to hide his soft/shy self from the bad world! Marriage is a gamble, sweetie!! I feel that being with the bad boy is like taking a roller coaster ride. There will never be a boring moment! It doesn't matter whether it's a good guy or a "bad" guy...what matters is that he falls for you...you love him and he loves you. It's not important whom you lose your heart to, what counts is that you lose your heart and he loses his heart...and even though the road is uphill with a "bad" guy...but if you can manage to pin him down, he can lay down his life for you and so can the good guy in those rose-fields.
Communication was missing b/w 2 D's coz it is a drama, and miss-communication leads or helps the drama to drag & move ahead! According to me good marriages are based on chemistry, commitment and communication and of course optimism which Disha had in abundance! It helps to look at your marriage as half full rather than half empty. Above all don't expect your marriage to satisfy all your emotional needs. Realize that good marriage has intimacy and independence. It pays to cultivate a network of friendship & interests outside marriage, that why I keep pottering at IF making new friends every minute!!😉😆
Now, why did you want Disha to end up with Vedant coz he was a sweet friend. And how could he fall for his Bhabhi (SIL)?? Huh, Disha did not love him there was no chemistry and it was wrong to fall for his own SIL. Well, if he thought that his bro was a complete jerk could have taken him to a therapist & communicated with him but no he thought that he can give D all the happiness in the world. But there was no love, from the word go, so how can that relationship survive. Disha was right in trying to work her relationship with DK though they both committed mistakes but readily accepted their mistakes. So were trying to work things out. We all know it is drama so bit extremes are shown but in the real world things so drastic don't happen!!
Sim, I can understand your PMS Pretty Major Stress abt finding the right guy hon, always listen to your heart when deciding abt the love of your life! As for brain's involvement…….Dimaag se shuru ho ya dil se….rooh roshan honi chaahiye….bas yehi pyaar hai!😃