Unfair message being sent out

Nice to see the forum active considering the show is still relatively new :)

I've been tuning into THHBST from it's inception and I have a few observations to vent/share. I really mean no offense to anyone here and apologize if anyone's sentiments are hurt. The purpose of this post is to generate some healthy discussion on the points I'm about to note below.

1) Only girl childs are selfish

- I don't know if this is intentional or just a by-product of the character sketches how ever I'm noticing that Shreya's background aka being an only child is the reason behind her selfishness. I think this is highly unfair to say - selfish people are selfish as a result of their nature, the environment they grow up in but that doesn't mean that ALL only child's are selfish because they didn't have to "share" or never learned how to share. This is portraying only children in a bad light - i feel. More so in this day and age where most children are either only childs, come from nuclear families or have one at most 2 siblings - that's just an evolution - change of times.

2) Girls that come from different environments can't adjust to joint families

-Again this is unfair. EVERY newly wed bride needs some time to get adjusted to her new home. With that said I think its the responsibility of the HUSBAND to show more consideration, compassion, understanding - he knows his family best and he should be able to give her pointers on how to conduct herself in this new environment.

Now in regards to the joint family - again this comes back to the individual and her soft skills/inter personal skills. Every person in a new enviornment takes time to adjust but Shreya is shown to be making it a power play - that's a recipe for disaster.

3) Bhushan is being unreasonable

This part is specific to Bhushan's character - I have a few issues with his character sketch. First off going for a love marriage - that's great but how did he NOT understand Shreya's true nature in all their years of dating etc? Shouldn't he have figured out by now if Shreya is the right life partner for him or not?

Clearly he's not the kinda guy to separate himself from hsi family - from what I see family is his no 1 priority and wife comes second. Most women (in this day and age) are not ok being no 2. Shreya is clearly not.

Now - he has married her and he clearly suffers a complex as his father pointed out that he feels the need to make Shreya look perfect to justify his love marriage. So wrong - the family accepted his choice - he needs to accept that and not feed into his complex. Likewise he needs to also realize that Shreya is in a new environment he needs to give her time and needs to guide her.

4) Love marriages are detrimental to family bonds

I feel like this is a recurring theme for a lot of shows on air past and present - the subtle message that couples that do love marriages can't pick the right partner. Though this is true in some cases but in a lot of cases that is totally unfair.

Just my thoughts guys - feel free to share your views!

he is equally responsible for the mess in their life.

first of all , i am unhappy with presentation of show , they fast forwarded shreya - bhushan marriage getting fixed as if they were in hurry to show girl from nuclear family how she will create problem in big too good for shoe joint family. after heart attack we see his dad perfectly fit n active in shadi next day !!

abhi unki shadi ko 1 month bhi nahi hua , avani roka drama , n worst sanjana -ajay marriage , all tracks r rushed ..

coming to topic

shreya is not just from nuclear family , she is only child that too pampered child . i know sumtyms they are insensitive towards certain issues but they are not defo selfish n vampish like our society blames them.

i have friend , she is physically weak , falls ill easily n only daughter in her 4 member family . being her best friend she is extremely possessive about me , once she invited me for lunch i went to her house with my younger sis . except for servent no one was there she arranged lunch for me with her in her room , n for my sis in dining room because she wanted to have private conversation with me , i was meeting her after long time . she was so focused to share things with me , she did not realize how my sis will feel to eat alone as guest ? u need to explain certain things , certain rules of society to them as they are not accustomed to it , very nycly without hurting them . they are not bad at heart , or want to insult others . they are just bit immature like a small child . shreya has better understanding i feel compared to my bestie😆 i love my frns with her flaws n explain her mistakes than she understands . to people she love , she is very caring , protective n adjustable . she slowly can adjust with other with guidance from family n friends , n she will adjust in her family after marriage .

shreya is newly wed bride , they did not have proper honeymoon too its natural she wants her space with her hubby.

she is insensitive wen she brings food for buhshan and does not even realize that other family member also work there . her mind is engrossed to make bhushan happy , forgets she is not just wife but bahu too

she rejects the gift of chachi /mami , she is brought up in modern environment where people ask the choice than give gifts , yes we do . so gift are not wasted . everyone in our community i see , ask recipient wat u need , wat is there already , wat r ur likes n gift accordingly as per own budget or simply gives money. this pov is also not bad. otherwise chaos happen , same type of gift /unwanted things are given to u by many people.

on other hand bhushan is not completely wrong , that chachi/mami is from orthodox values , she will feel bad . shreya could have taken the gift n later give someone else in house wen they needed it . this level maturity she does not have yet , its bhushan's responsibility to teach her , not shout at her or constantly compare to others n prove to her that u are unworthy. i can't blame her for being bitter now .

why our society always think that it's only girls responsibility after marriage to adjust in family , she should learn it from mother womb or magically after entering sasural , does husband have no role in guiding or helping? i feel husband should be more responsible , because girl leaves her family her comfort zone , it's ur duty to make her comfortable in your house without sacrificing your family . what bhushan did to make shreya fit in family ?

did he explained her rules of his house ? either u spoonfeed her how to to take step in each situation or correct her maturely when she commits mistakes.

see amar , did he shuts mouths of vinati when she complained about shreya ? no he explained her so nycly . she can easily fit in family as she knows amar is there for her, to confide her doubts. they said even she had adjustment issues , after 10 years of marriage , experience n assistance from amar she knows herself to balance in family.

all the things bhushan did for shreya , whether accepting goa trip or magic trick it was told to him by mother or other family members . literately wenever he is upset with shreya he needs to be pushed by someone , he does not inherits adjustment skills like his parents . he is unreasonable too .

first in honeymoon track , u guys are just married , there will be limited space in joint family . this 7 days could be used by bhushan to strengthen bond , relaxing their mind before entering stressed life. but he is interested in proposal coming for sister . she is mature , she has full family with her , its not major ceremony. yes u committed to stay with her in every step but u have duties towards your wife , u have commitment towards her also. in such case equally divide ur priorities towards your family and wife as per your requirement.

shreya also understood him in this case .she was ready to go back , though she was not happy about it , but he rejects than lies to go back agra !!

in petha competition , your wife made petha for the first time , she did so much of hard work. not for herself but for u n your family . she forgot her difference with vinati , they were happily united. but due to one mistake by someone ,entire work was destroyed. without even thinking , or finding truth based on circumstances he blamed shreya , others are trying to calm them , console them . but bhushan wat he is doing ? he made her feel unworthy !!

dadi / trilok r right , his childhood insecurities are still hidden in his heart , he wants shreya to be better/ eaual to vinati / mom.

he forgot his mother is not perfect , she can't even cook

he forgot his bhabhi is careless too , n mobile addict , adjusted in family after sometime.

bhushan is gud , caring hubby , he knows to be strict with his wife n pamper her too , not typical abusive/ jhoru ka gulam hubbies. but he should become shreya's best friend first , if he wants to make shreya best friend of his family.

he should not compare , discourage shreya but help her to improve from mistakes . she is shreya , she has her own identity she is not vinati

shreya loves her husband , she likes his family and want to make them happy, but she does not know how to deal complex situations. her issues with vinati are due to bhushan , he is comaparing u with vinati , he is putting u down not vinati . but her outburst is towards vinati which actually should have been towards bhushan . he is the main culprit here who is dragging u in competition created by himself .

i have another complain , it was told to us in various articles n interviews that bhushan n shreya are madly in love , compatible , nothing was shown how they fell in love inspite of coming from different background. so wen they are married why that love , compatibility is not reflected in their marriage ? makers are in too hurry to show this track , ok girl from nuclear family will have adjustment problem in joint family . hardly two weeks have passed after marriage . silly issues like destination , rejecting gifts , or loosing petha competition there are fights . if shreya can't discuss her problem with bhushan , if she has no idea about rules if he can't clear her doubts , if they can't forgive each other , if he can't help her to improve from mistakes , if he needs others to tell him to bring shreya , or bent for her happiness - than kaisa pyaar kaise compatibility

is it 2 years ka physical attraction ? in this 2 years they never sopke their heart out , issues they can encounter ? and how to handle them ?

better divorce now , bring new girl for bhushan who can beat vinati in ever field , let shreya marry guy from nuclear family settle abroad.

now no plot for hate -love of sanjan - ajay is developed they got married , ajay is married to sanjana to help them , he has helped them out of way , there is no reason for them to hate , have nok jhok , fight , n create spicy lovestory. makers will show them fall in love in another 2 week .

so make amar - vinati lead couple , they will make better pair. than above two

after settling this go for avani , ayush ,uptal track after a month . already barch rating is below 1 , show will close in 4-5 months.

i have quit the show 🤢 sorry neil n sreejita i love u both , u guys are my fav but i gave enough chance for this show.