Is Yug another Vrinda?

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Neetu2825

@Neetu2825

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Posted: 16 years ago

Okay guys, something has been bugging me for a while and I'd like to hear everyone's viewpoint on this.

Firstly, I just want to say that I'm a huge supporter of Yug. I have always been from the very first moment and will probably continue to see from his perspective till the end of this show...UNLESS, he undergoes a dramatic personality change like Vrinda. Then, all bets are off because he wouldn't be the "real Yug" we have all come to love.

Now, the thing that has been bugging me is Yug's passiveness. It seems like his personality is changing to a certain degree...he isn't the same guy we saw at the start of the show. I realize that he does a lot of things for other people's happiness and that isn't wrong. It is actually quite commendable. But there has to be a point to such "goodness".

Everyone around him has gone back on their words at one time or another. So, why he feels the need to sacrifice his happiness for their sake is beyond my understanding. He really shouldn't be getting married until he has had time to get himself together. IT HAS ONLY BEEN A DAY...and he has already consented to marriage. Isn't that REALLY REALLY FAST? I would think that if you lost your love it would at LEAST take you a couple of years of focussing on yourself before you commit to someone else. Yet, here he is getting ready for marriage.

I realize that Yug respects and values marriage for what it truly is. But by giving into other people's demand, he is simply acting like a hypocrite. He knows that he would not be able to give another girl Vrinda's place (at least, not right now), so why did he go up to VA and say "pick any girl for me...I don't care as long as I'm able to tell her the truth about my past first." By doing this, in a way, he is acting like Vrinda.

Let me explain. By saying that he wants to tell the truth of his past to a potential bride, Yug is not only being honest (which is commendable😊) but he is also putting the responsibility of marriage in another girl's hands. To a certain extent, he knows that no girl will marry him after hearing that he will never be able to love her...which would allow him not to get married. This will allow him to keep his promise to his family because they can't say that you are not trying to move on with your life...for he can just say that he is but no one will have him. But to a greater extent, if there is a girl who does take him and there are problems later in marriage where the girl says to him that she is unhappy and wants him to love her...he can simply REMIND her that he told her of his past and she still married him. So, now she has to live with her decision. THIS WAY, he is not only fulfilling his promise to his family but also living his own life. Isn't this kind of selfish? To displace responsibility onto someone else? I know that he is marrying Bharti now but I kind of don't like the idea of him entering a marriage if he is not ready to commit. It is simply not fair to the girl because no matter what anyone says, she deserves his love.

By simply following what everyone wants, how is Yug any different from Vrinda? She is also simply doing what is expected of her...as a daughter. And now, it seems Yug is following in her footsteps. Vrinda is such a bad influence😆

When we first met Yug, he was the guy who let nothing stand in his way. When he found out about Sharad's situation...he jumped at the chance to reunite him and Gritika. Even going as far as to kidnap her from the Mandir (though he took Vrinda by mistake, at least the attempt was there). When he couldn't stop thinking about Vrinda...he went to see her. When he decided to go over to Vrinda's house...he learned Hindi beforehand because he knew that presented a big obstacle...he overcame that. At Vrinda's house, he won everyone over...doing the impossible: Bringing together a family that use to be a family in name only.

At each point in time, Yug has always been able to overcome each obstacle in his path. He has never doubted himself. Yet, now everything has changed. Whereas before he use to be a man of action, now he is a passive character who gets pushed this way and that according to the whims of everyone else around him. What happened to his independent way of thinking? What happened to him taking his own decisions?

What happened to our old Yug?

I know a few of you may suggest that his experience with love has changed him...he's depressed now and so forth. That is totally understable. But, now is not the time to be passive. In fact, this passiveness is the main reason he lost Vrinda in the first place. If he hadn't simply stood aside and let RB worm his way into Vrinda's heart....she would be with him right now! He had too much faith in RB...in his goodness and so forth. HE HAD TOO MUCH faith in Vrinda...her love for him. Blind faith always leads you to your downfall.

Yug should have maintained his closeness to Vrinda...his mere presence would have been a constant reminder to her of what they shared in the past....their history...their love. Yet, he maintained distant to ensure no one suspected their future plans to be together. In doing so, he allowed more time between RB&Vrinda which only helped them to get close.

In a way, the creatives have kind of destroyed Yug's character too. Subtle as it may be...he has changed from a guy who knew what he wanted and wasn't afraid to go after it....to someone who simply does what he is told though he knows that it is wrong.

Tell me, how does that not sound like Vrinda?

Both are doing what is expected of them...for other people's happiness.

I thought Yug was better than that.

Edited by Neetu2825 - 16 years ago

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rabees011

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Posted: 16 years ago

hehe..what else can we expect from this kekta mayiyya yaar? Once she goes for a double displacement reaction (criss-cross and exchange of the pairs), she ruins everyone's character. Since she is going for a double displacement reaction, she will have to get yug married to someone and for that she doesn't want to wait. She is very beqaraar to see mera double displacement reaction kaisa rang laayega. So, she will go on to ruin yug's character and make us hate him along with vrinda. No matter how disgusting her trps get, she will still continue this criss cross exchange crap. There was even a protest in front of her office because of the wrong messages she gives out about relationships, in her shows. People were shouting in front of her office holding placards, " Gali gali mei shoar hai: saas bahu bore hai." Unfortunately, this public protest failed to weaken her spirit to show things that only exist in fantasy kingdoms. The only solution all our problems is, wait for a couple of months and get ekta married. Then she will know about the ups and downs in marriage, and gradually her views about love and marriage will change. Only then, we can expect to get our old yug and vrinda back. I don't see any other way to compenste for the damage that has been done to the characters.

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Farzana Kabir (Urmee)

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Posted: 16 years ago

some where i agree and somewhere i disagree.i don't think yug is behaving like vrinda.yuvi both r marrying but there are difference bitween the 2 marriages.vrinda now has accepted rb as her husband from heart.but yug is marrying bharti only name sake.he loves vrinda and always will love vrinda.bharti also knows that.and the main thing is,for whome yug should wait?when vrinda told him to wait he waited.but now vri told him to forget her and marry.vrinda is now rb's wife.she'll never come back to yug.so,waiting 4 her is meaningless.so do u think yug should not marry ever and spent his life alone in frastration.if he marry bharti than atlist he can have a friend to share his feelings bcoz bharti knows everything.vrinda is a stupid lady.she has no feelings 4 yug.why yug'll sacrifice always.i don't think yug's inocence has lost.he is still the old yug who has true love 4 vrinda.and vrinda said him to marry.this is another point.he's thinking if he marry than vrinda'll also be happy and will not think that she has ruined his life.yug is marrying somehow 4 vrinda's relieaf also.yug should be forward in life.he shouldn't become a devdas.i don't want yug to forget vrinda but also don't want to be sad all the time.don't worry.it's 100% confirm he'll never forget vrinda and never fall 4 bharti.yug is the only one who hasn't changed and will never change. i know it's wired to see yug-bharti.i also can't bear this.but now there is no other way.vrinda has ruined everything.i want vrinda to be jelous seeing yug-bharti.i want her to be punished.she deserves punishment.

i hate yug bharti jodi but i think a lot. i want revenge. i want yug to marry bharti to punish vrinda.

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Neetu2825

@Neetu2825

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Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: urmee

Vrinda is a lost cause. I never suggested he wait for her because that would be foolish. What I do suggest is that he not marry simply because that is what everyone expects him to do. Its what everyone wants but not what YUG wants right now. He needs to take time out to get over Vrinda and then get married to someone he can willingly come to love. Yes, he can love again. But, it won't happen if he isn't given enough time to recover.

Out of all the characters, Yug is the only one who understands the meaning of what marriage truly is to an individual. Yet, here he is doing exactly the same thing as other people. I don't think it is right of him to marry simply to put Vrinda's mind at ease and for his family. True, it is noble and all. But eventually, it will start to eat him up inside...being in a relationship that he never wanted...that he wasn't ready to embark on. As far as making Vrinda jealous, I don't think that will happen. Vrinda is happy with Rb and she is the one who is pushing Yug to move on. She will never be jealous of Yug/Bharti relationship as long as she has RB. If he was out of the picture, then maybe she will start to miss Yug again. Who knows?

My point for this topic was to illustrate the idea that Yug is marrying for the wrong reasons, just as Vrinda is staying with RB for the wrong reasons. I have no problem with him moving on but he should do so BECAUSE he wants to move on. Not because everyone wants him to move on and he is doing so to make them happy. Giving others happiness is a great thing but not at the expense of yourself. Sometimes, one should consider one's own happiness first, especially if one has gone through a lot of things in their life...like Yug has.