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I am seeing a lot of anger against Kanak, She nodded No to a question whether she did anything that would be considered illegal against the Toshniwals. Technically that is true. She was genuinely respectful and loving towards Uma's family because she has a loving nature. Her battle was not with them and hence she did not misbehave with them. Maasima was often angry or strict but she took it in her stride. She even appreciated her sacrifices for the family & truly got fond of her. She was sweet to Uma's sisters. With Shiv, she bonded even more. She took care of Uma"s mother, bathing her & doing all the duties of a daughter in law with genuine care. She saved her life for God's sake literally putting her own life at risk. The argument is that she was deceiving them with the pretense of being a permanent member but did she harm them? On the contrary, she fell victim to Payal's tricks and faced quite a few humiliations. None of them with the exception of maasisa who would get annoyed at times, faced any problems due to her.
As for her equation with Uma, he married her completely against her will. He literally did abduct her. He expected her to completely accept the marriage. She was held hostage. The family members kept an eye on her inside the home and Gabbasa stood guard outside. It was a nightmare situation. She saw Ved being assaulted and did not want to get her family involved with a bunch of hooligans as she saw Uma and his henchmen. Hence she did not reveal anything about them. She was protecting them. When she saw the shop papers, she obviously thought Uma had gotten them thru fraud as she knew Bhabho would never willingly sell the shop. She escaped the suhaag raat somehow from Kerala. Went to the registration office. She found evidence of Uma literally cheating Bhabho. She thought bhabho would die of heart atrack if she even heard of this let alone deal with legal matters. She thought she would deal with cheaters on their own terms and would try to get the shop back. It was foolish of her to walk back into the lion's den but for Kanak who was willing to give her life up for Bhabho, this was an acceptable risk.
I am not fond of her little lies and games during Seeta Geeta track but I think that was her way to deal with the horrible situation by being someone other than herself. She never did lie to Uma that she loved or cared for him. The sharaab Jalebi was her ultimate misbehavior. She did realise that was wrong. She accepted the challenge of patni dharm. She tried to do it all with as much integrity as she could. Her Rambha act was of desperation but for Bhabho, she said if she had to annhilate herself, she would do it. Bhabho and her heartless behavior with Kanak, did bring Kanak to this. Kanak is being hailed as selfish. Would a truly selfish girl have gone thru all this for someone else? Let us not forget also that Kanak was engaged to be married. Mayank looked like a nice guy with who she could have lived a normal life. Much was taken away frim Kanak too at a very young age,
In the course of her stay, she did discover that Uma was not a total monster. By the way, she did not mistreat him. She followed all his rules however exasperating they were. She did feel bad about her deception even though it was well intentioned and done under genuine misunderstanding about the way he owned the shop. She confessed to everything before he transferred the shop. What more does one expect from her?
She knows that are they are poles apart, It could be bad for them both to stay married to each other, She told him nicely to go away. Considering how he turned her life upside down, she was going easy on him. He still keeps trying to force the relationship. He is giving her no time. Her brothers' anger is not wrong but they also are giving her no time.
To me Kanak gave more love to the Toshnivals than they did to her, Saras respected her, Shiv loved her but they are not going to be permanently scarred by her deception. She was a pleasant houseguest. She did not play underhanded games like Payal. As the antaryami little kid said, she did love everyone, especially his dadosa albeit unconsciously. That is Kanak. she has a loving and forgiving heart.
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