Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
Anupama’s pagal hai means are you crazy to think like that. Choti did want to leave with Maaya, there was the scene between Anupama and Choti where Choti asks Anupama to let her go. Also, the question here is not whether Choti went willingly, it is Anuj’s silence for months and his living with Maaya out of a misplaced sense of guilt and responsibility towards Maaya. He obviously did not feel this same sense of guilt and responsibility towards his love of 26 years, to his dharam pathni.
Aren't you contradicting yourself especially talking about Dharma Patni?
Before leaving Anupama and Choti had a long drawn and crystal clear conversation. Choti Anu gives explicit reasons why she had to go with Maaya and that she believed (and Anupama never bothered correcting) that she was the reason for fights between Anupama and Anuj and the instances she narrated were evidence that Maaya was playing the emotional card to take her away.
This happened WITHOUT Anuj's knowledge and Anupama HID this fact from him. When Anuj retaliated, wanted to seek Legal help to Stop Choti Anu because she probably wanted to tell him something, Anupama pushed and LOCKED HIM in the room so as to not meet her.
Anuj went to Mumbai after this. So, no matter how much one tries to realign the sequence of events, twist logic, the facts do not change that Anupama let Maaya take Choti Anu inspite of FULLY knowing the truth. Anuj truly treated Choti Anu as HIS CHILD.
If we are drawing conclusions, it is only conclusive that Anupama, through this (sending Choti Anu with Maaya) despite knowing the emotional blackmail underlying it, conveniently got rid of Choti Anu and only then realised the extent of attachment Anuj had for Choti Anu.
So Anupama has duties to look for him, but Anuj has no duty to call and tell her where he is? Only she has duties, he doesn’t? He can bring Maaya, vest her with the powers of Maalkin of his house and do what his heart and his faltu dimaag pleases, but Anupama cannot?
Well, if he would have been run over before he reached Mumbai, none would have known, isnt it?
He NEVER called Maaya the Malkin of his house. Infact he made it clear at EVERY INSTANCE that he has NO INTEREST in Maaya. In fact Paritosh, Vanraj and Kanta, Ankush, Pakhi themselves are seen discussing that it is evident Anuj is with Maaya because of some Majboori and not love and that something is related to her health and that Choti Anu also is acting distant.
Infact, on every instance that Maaya tried to engage with Anupama in a verbal spat, Anuj not only sternly stopped her but eventually also fiercely defended Anupama which inturn triggered Maaya further.
Vanraj on the other hand, said that he wanted Anupama back in Shah House as the Malkin.
20+ or 50+ kids are your kids no matter what. That is how it goes, sadly and strangely.
We can go over this in circles for as long as we want but then, if we are equating a 7 year old to a married, adult then it is but pointless.
Religious functions like grahapravesh and other rituals are done by husband and wife. Marriage of the child is done by the parents of the bride and groom, not spouse but parent so the equation changes there. Maybe there has not been a precedent in Hindu culture as divorce was not common or widely accepted before so it always so happened that the parents of the bride and groom were married to each other.
Sorry, but that is not true. Even if only the bride's or groom's father is present, he CANNOT sit in the rituals. The right to sit with a Yajamaan is his Ardhaangi's ONLY.
Much as I dislike giving divine examples especially in cases related to this shitshow, since this is related to customs, here it is.
When Shri Ram wanted to perform Akshamedha Yaaga, he had to sit in the Hawan. A bronze pratima of Maata Sita was made since 1. She was alive and 2. She was the Dharma Patni.
In the current age, divorce is common, mixed families are common but the parental bond doesn’t change because of that, may expand to include kids brought into the marriage and living with you but ultimately parents even when divorced try to maintain a semblance of cordiality for the sake of the children they have jointly brought into this world. If we accept divorce and mixed families, then we need to understand too that the duties of a parent does not go away just because they have decided not to cohabit with their spouse any more, that parental duty continues ad infinitum.
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