Why did Anupama never love Kapadia as compared to Shah

This is just straight Bull**** how can Anupama ignored kapadia who are loved and respected despite she wasn't even compared to their level. Let's be honest Anupama is no match for Anuj and kapadias family ,they were rich , classy ,broad minded and respect everyone. Despite all of this they loved and respected upma , Romil , CA ,Sara worshiped anupama , GK kaka and Mukku already accepted Anupama without meeting her for 26 years yet they accepted her wholeheartedly . Ankush learn from his mistake and cared for MAAN but she broke all her realioshp with Kapadias for the tamashah family 

I think she honestly is at a stage where she needs validation from her abuser (The Shahs, including Bapuji- he is the Dhritarashtra of the family) and ignores the people who genuinely loved and cared for her.

Jokes aside, human mind is more impressionable at a younger age and she has spent all of her youth with the Shahs so they are kind of in her reflexes and muscle memories.

Anuj practically didn't exist for her until she met him at the reunion. Devika had said that almost everyone at college knew about Anuj's feelings except Anupamaa. 

Plus there's the 26 years-vs-3 years thing.

She has tried very hard to give Anuj importance but logical thinking is always overridden by reflexes which is why she kept going back to the Shahs.

They were like a bad habit for her which she hasn't been able to fix till now, much like her inability to hold on to a career. It's possible that when she finally gives up the bad habit, the show will end as there will be no more conflicts to show.

A donkey doesn't have that taste buds to appreciate or value the flavor of saffron

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

Jokes aside, human mind is more impressionable at a younger age and she has spent all of her youth with the Shahs so they are kind of in her reflexes and muscle memories.

Anuj practically didn't exist for her until she met him at the reunion. Devika had said that almost everyone at college knew about Anuj's feelings except Anupamaa. 

Plus there's the 26 years-vs-3 years thing.

She has tried very hard to give Anuj importance but logical thinking is always overridden by reflexes which is why she kept going back to the Shahs.

They were like a bad habit for her which she hasn't been able to fix till now, much like her inability to hold on to a career. It's possible that when she finally gives up the bad habit, the show will end as there will be no more conflicts to show.

If shes so impressionable why she never worship kanta and bhavesh more than shahs 

she stayed 18 years with them no and they laways treat her nicely than all vanraj and shahs 

Even married woman who love their husband are not acting like her with in laws and hubby family like she does  

I feel anupama loves vanraj like juliet loved romeo or anarkali loved salim i feel 

Thats why shes obsessed with shahs and vanraj so much and that home even after vanraj married another woman or had affair with malvika etc 

Anupama first love was vanraj and you know first love cannot be forgotten all life all other hubby are just compromise 

If CA was born to vanraj even from kavya or malvika etc she would have worshipped CA like pakhi and toshu shes that kind of person 

But any other man other than vanraj or kids from them or adopted ones of those men she will not bother much as she do not love those men

I had a friend her mom hated all of her 4 kids born from her womb as she was forced to marry this man by her parents (not that she liked any other man she did not but she do not want that man as hubby thats all but like hasmukh, devika, vanraj all convinced anupama to marry anuj same happened with this girl mom too) . Out of family or society pressure people do marry but never really accept spouse as hubby or even their kids as own that happens in patriarchal society like india or asia where there is no freedom to women. Than women direct that hatred by ignoring kids of that man or abusing the kids or even hubby sometimes although outside they will show all normal in front of others. Similar to what anupama did to anuj and CA.

Such woman marry out of force or pressure but than neglect family or kids or hubby or house and are highly rude to hubby family, create scenes out of simple issues, leave house for silly things like anupama. Its a pattern

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

Jokes aside, human mind is more impressionable at a younger age and she has spent all of her youth with the Shahs so they are kind of in her reflexes and muscle memories.

Anuj practically didn't exist for her until she met him at the reunion. Devika had said that almost everyone at college knew about Anuj's feelings except Anupamaa. 

Plus there's the 26 years-vs-3 years thing.

She has tried very hard to give Anuj importance but logical thinking is always overridden by reflexes which is why she kept going back to the Shahs.

They were like a bad habit for her which she hasn't been able to fix till now, much like her inability to hold on to a career. It's possible that when she finally gives up the bad habit, the show will end as there will be no more conflicts to show.

While I agree to most of it, this theory falls flat under current circumstances. (Although, it may be correct to assume that if she comes face-to-face with any Shah, she will go back to her old self.)

Human mind has a tendency to restart when there is no option left.

Why did she live a life of a recluse in 5-6 years?

Now, when Spice and Chutney is the ONLY place for her and has no options left, she still has NO value whatsoever for it. She just can't seem to value her blessings at ALL.

This is not a normal sign.

That is why, when Yashpal asked her to leave, she shouldn't have been brought back. Just to see what she would have done otherwise. ALL her opportunities are a result of someone's generosity which she conveniently takes for granted.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

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I feel anupama loves vanraj like juliet loved romeo or anarkali loved salim i feel 

Thats why shes obsessed with shahs and vanraj so much and that home even after vanraj married another woman or had affair with malvika etc 

Anupama first love was vanraj and you know first love cannot be forgotten all life all other hubby are just compromise 

If CA was born to vanraj even from kavya or malvika etc she would have worshipped CA like pakhi and toshu shes that kind of person 

But any other man other than vanraj or kids from them or adopted ones of those men she will not bother much as she do not love those men

Does the show tries to show, "jo shaadi kismat se bandh jaati hain (arranged ho, love ho) pehli baar wahi sahi hoti hain, baki sab🤷🏻‍♀️. Second marriages kabhi tik nahin paati"?????

Just asking. Another concept being ruined.

What are the long running marriages on the show?

Hansmukh-Leela, Ankush-Barkha (even though there was no love left or infidelity in the marriage, it was an arrangement of convenience)