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This is my very first post in debate forum but this is something very personal and something I strongly feel about. I would love to know what everyone here thinks so lets get it started..
I come across remarks like "You're fortunate your spouse lends a hand with the household tasks." And, I bet most of you have heard it too. However, what does 'being lucky' imply here? When asked this question and told that men usually do not partake in domestic work as women do, my response is obvious- persuasively prompting them to consider altering such stereotypical gender roles.
The differential treatment of boys and girls can originate in primary socialization settings such as families, as evidenced by the prevailing belief that one gender is more valuable than the other. This notion is usually mirrored in parental behavior towards their children with regard to gendered division of domestic labor. Generally, household tasks are segregated based on gender whereby boys tend to receive maintenance chores like lawnmowing or furniture assembly whereas girls are assigned cooking and cleaning duties. Consequently, this sort of chore segregation communicates distinct roles for each sex within a family setting.
Living in the same house, both parties have equal responsibility and contribution towards maintaining the household. Therefore, it is unfair to consider his chores as a favor done for me since we share common spaces and use the same laundry facilities. Although I enjoy cooking and he enjoys cleaning, people tend to overemphasize his contributions while belittling mine. Why is it that cleaning becomes appreciated but cooking remains expected of me? Furthermore, even when attempting new tasks like painting a wall which my mother-in-law voiced reluctance about my ability to do so rather than suggesting support or helpful advice; why should these actions be limited by gender role expectations?
Not long ago, we had a little girl over at our place who was surprised to see my husband in the kitchen. Her father explained that men help out at home outside of India. I found his statement quite jarring because why are we making distinctions based on countries? This is more about an embedded mindset than any specific culture. In fact, whether it's within or beyond India’s borders, gender equality needs to be normalized when it comes to household chores. Ironing clothes happens across genders too — for instance, if he irons my clothes then he's helping just as much as I am by ironing his own shirts. Deciding what tasks one will perform solely based on their gender has no logical basis and is regressive thinking!
It can be difficult to accept the idea of a household being managed by two equal partners, but working together as a team in domestic matters has significant positive implications for one's professional life. It demonstrates that both individuals are competent and capable of managing responsibilities in all aspects of life, not just at work. In turn, this allows couples to fully dedicate themselves to their professional aspirations without stress or distractions from home duties. This more productive career outlook translates into greater opportunities for career advancement and personal growth – it’s truly a win-win situation!
Share your thoughts on what you think about gender equality in the household?
Do you believe in gender equality in homes or believe traditional values dominate household?
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