Originally posted by: mango.falooda
I love papaG and mamaG relationship and I find them fascinating to watch. I joked in the DT that often in ITV, many of these oldie couples will hate each other but still want the next generation to get married. such irony. 😂 that said, much of their dynamics is fascinating to watch for many reasons. like you said, they are so far different from our initial impressions.
they are a team. so even when he takes decisions she disagrees with, she does not fight with him in the traditional way where it is antagonistic. instead, they are fighting together within the same circle.
so, mamaG is a woman with her own mind. I found it hysterical that she went off to her kitty party and her friends were laughing about how papaG is a cranky man. so they all know his character and is a bit of joke to them.
now, mamaG has a strong mind and can go meet aarav and katha if she wants. there is nothing stopping her and she is certainly not under papaG's thumb. but instead she respects the marriage and him and so steps back even though she wants to go. so what does she do instead -- stays by his side and fights with him.
for me, those are lessons to be learned there on how we can handle interpersonal conflict for example. she is showing him powerfully that words cannot be tossed out in anger senselessly. she is demanding respect without making him feel like a fool. instead, she is showing him with respect that he ought to respect her and she will not accept less. no demonstrations or lectures but very succint lines where she puts together her words like a weapon and hits him in the heart.
how is she able to do that? because she still treats him with love and so demands he do the same. so while they disagree on this very strongly and neither are necessarily backing out, it is interesting to see how their conflict is handled with so much more maturity precisely because of mamaG's approach.
I have mentioned this earlier in DT once but there are many parallels I see between papaG and viaan. so in quite a few episodes, we have seen that happen where we see contrasts between the two men and how they react in anger, hurt and grief.
here, we also have a conflict happening with katha and viaan. he feels terrible just as papaG. he knows he messed up but he does not know how to fix it. just as viaan decides to take it upon himself to visit her house, papaG hacks mamaG's phone to find her location because he is stressed. so both men go to a bit of extreme to find out where these women are because it drives them nuts in worry.
the differences are in how the women react. katha has no respect at the moment for viaan but at the same time does not want him to know about her. so she rejects him. but because of the one night secret, they are in a circle whether either of them acknowledge it or not. so there is a bit of tug and war where they are trying to push each other to show their cards.
on the other side, mamaG is not rejecting papaG at all and still loves and respects him. however, that does not mean she will allow him to disrespect her and so is instead teaching him to value her. she is staying within the circle of their relationship and unleasing the whip. it is fun and hilarious to watch. like I mentioned, there are lessons to be learned here!
Wow mango.. I am in love with ur writings 🥰. You write in so much detail with correct use of word everytime... Dil le lo to your writing 😘😍... Your perspective on different issues is a treat to read...
I have nothing to add here you have said everything.. I can just say that how this show is exploring different kinds of relationship and issues normally a women face in society is too good.. Feels like I am investing in something worthy and the forum talks also gives such different perspective to the same issue.. Pura brain khul jata hai sabke pov parhke.
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