Originally posted by: Mahisa_22
Bold: That may be true when we look at specific examples, but it cannot be generalized. Look at Raveena, Madhuri and Juhi's husbands. All rich and highly reliable till now. Look at the Ambanis. Look at Kareena. She has a husband who was divorced with two kids. She's over the moon and content in her life.
You cannot judge everyone with two or three examples. Not every divorced celebrity is Karishma's husband.
If somebody has a bad marriage and divorced as a result, then how is it their fault? Let me say it again, we cannot judge people like objects no matter what. If I say, "XYZ man is so lucky he got a fresh, firsthand wife and not some done and dusted woman" then it will sound extremely offensive and uncivil, right? Well, same goes for a man.
Also, going through the motions or being excited during rituals does not really matter in a marriage. That's a very juvenile argument. What matters is how the marriage turns out later. Does not matter whether the groom is jumping like an excited pony during the rituals or not.
And yes, it is an insult when you say, "she's so lucky she got someone firsthand." It makes divorced people sound like less exciting options. And that's insulting. If someone is a known abuser, then avoid him. But don't paint all divorcees with one brush.
Being divorced is nothing to be ashamed of. Lets get rid of this outdated mindset. Shaming divorcees does a lot of harm to society, especially women. It's not only about political correctness. It's about being a civil and better evolved society.
Calling any human being second or third-hand is insensitive and crass, period. I rest my case.
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