Does Shiva need professional help (aka therapy)?

Hey All!

I usually create poll on either controversial episode or to troll for absurdity shown. However, today, I am creating a poll in hope that PS makers (knowing that they stalk the forum), will use opinions on here to consider showing mental health issues.

The dream Shiva head is not normal. His insecurities are eating him up, he's becoming too toxic, even if it's for Raavi's good and even subconsciously he was about to strangle her innhis dream and Krish in reality. He's going through a lot with no way to vent. Please show him going to therapy to sort out his issues. Bhabhi Ma and Ma are there, but clearly they fail to see his turmoil and give him benefit of the doubt to explain this side of the story. He needs an outside perspective, unbiased opinion, to sort out his issues.

I'm curious to see what others think. Do vote if you can on this poll. If you think he doesn't need help, please provide your perspective.

I personally think he needs help asap. I want him to figure out his issues and cut the abusive nature before he gets back with Raavi. Intensity ≠ abuse.

Thanks!

Originally posted by: .Sunrise.

The other options🤣

Lol had to include it for the makers because they have likely chosen the other two. And one of them is from today's episode.

ML, if I don't win this time, then I don't know what's happening 😭

I voted for: "Yes! Asap, even before Marriage Counseling!"

The first time I became uncomfortable with Shiva was post-NDE when he grabs Raavi's wrists. The poor girl was in visible pain, yet Shiva was grabbing her. I don't care if he seemed somewhat regretful afterwards... that's the first sign that therapy is needed! He needs to control his anger and learn how his actions affect another. Time, person, place, situation...

Grabbing someone's hand is not always wrong (i.e., Grabbing someone's hand to pull them away from danger), but grabbing someone's hand to make a point, despite knowing how hurt they are 🤕... a little bit of his character died that day for me.

Now coming to today's episode... CVs seem to be heading downward in their trajectory of even understanding Shiva. Dreams sometime reflect our subconscious fears and wants. The Shiva of the beginning might have just stared angrily at Raavi before throwing her out of the house (this could have been shown as Shiva pushing Krish off his bed). So, this uncontrollable anger is the first no from me.

The second reason I'm getting annoyed by all the episodes in general is that Shiva has not grown at all in the past few characters. We seem him push Raavi away... cry about loving Raavi... stay silent about his thoughts. It's rinse and repeat. He's bottling up so many of his feelings that even a therapist will have a mountainous task of getting him to open up. We don't even get scenes where he is about to reveal his thoughts... begins speaking, but then stops because he thinks his family would not understand. We just get his silence.

Whoever works with him needs to first present themselves as an unbiased outsider, who tells Shiva that they will hear everything he has to say no matter how silly, and they will wait for however long it is for him to open up.

He definitely needs therapy! He’s violent! In normal circumstances Raavi’s frnds or even Krish could have called the cops on him!

Whatever issues causing him to be so violent and have such extreme reactions needs to be addressed asap else he’ll become a danger to be around!
I want Raavi miles away from him till he receives the help he needs, even then she’s better off without him! She seems to bring out extreme reactions ( mostly bad) in him.
knowing itv he won’t get the help needed and hence will always remain a threat to her!

Sorry I’m just very pissed with this behavior!

Me too, Avi! I would be shocked if any other options win. But then it will explain why makers would show things that are unreasonable for us because it's what the majority of the people think.

That's a thought provoking post! However, the scene of Shiva almost smothering Krish was probably written as a light hearted comedy (?) scene.. I don't see the makers putting this much serious thought into the implications of it!

I also don't think the makers will show any character in PS seeking professional help.. such tracks sadly won't fetch TRPs. Instead mannats, emotional blackmail or the power of "love" are what will be shown

The best we can get is Rishita suggesting this before Dhara, Suman and the others shoot her down and her idea disappears into the void.. the same way it happened for the marriage counselling idea 😆

I voted for option 1.

It's the need of the hour for both Shiva and Raavi

Ofcourse the makers will not show anything this sensible🙄

Shiva is not opening up about his feelings to anyone and if he tried this stupid family doesn't listen to him 😕 he needs someone neutral who can understand him.

Same goes for Raavi I feel. Yes the makers are not showing her feelings but never has mami or anyone else asked her

What does she want, why does she want to be in this marriage.what does she feel

Arrgghh so annoyed with makers and so upset after reading the lu today 😭😭

I wouldn't call him stable. Since ITV does not focus into the part of therapy, all I can say is he needs some time and space alone. He needs a therapy though.

Shiva didn't have the opportunity to decide for himself ever since his childhood. This is a contrast to Raavi cause she does what her heart says unlike Shiva. Raavi is still doing what she believes in. It's not that easy for Shiva. That's why Shiva is being an explosive person.

Shiva left his studies for his brother. He got married for the sake of his family, now he is giving up on his feelings for Raavi's sake. The problem here is, in all the three occasions he didn't decide for himself, he decided for others. His assumptions have been fuelled by his family that's why he thinks whatever he does is for the sake of other's well being and it is right. At this point, he has low self esteem; staying around Raavi will keep bruising him.

This is also an arc that has been developed ever since their childhood. Shiva has been real with Raavi always. The emotional inclination is totally for himself whenever he is around her. He is extremely over protective for her at the same time, he reflects his emotions in a raw and extrusive way.

That's why he is extremely wild with Raavi. He somewhere knows that only she can put up with him. Where he is going wrong is in the control of his emotions. Years of bottling will burst dangerously one day. It has exploded for him. He is going beyond the right and wrong, he is infact being blinded. I will blame Dhara, Gaumbhi and Suman here. They never tried to understand him. They never tried to acknowledge his self neglecting tendencies. They believed he is like this and let him be that way.

We cannot expect Raavi to understand his change of emotions either. She just accepted her marriage after being horrifically left alone in the altar. Her dreams shattered and when she tried to pick herself up, Shiva's change of behaviour broke her again. She tried her best to talk through the relationship. She tried her level best to make this fine. How will she realise her love for him when she couldn't experience Shiva's thoughts at all?

Most of the forced marriages go through this rough path. This is the reality of forced marriages. The makers are not following the OG track but this track is giving us an insight to the emotional turbulence.

I will not say divorce is a solution. They are doing it out of rage and anger. They surely need to meet a counsellor. But even before that the family should give them the needed space.

Only a clear space will give them the idea of their thoughts. They will have a chance to settle down and decide what they actually want. Unfortunately, this society does not give anybody the freedom to do so.

I have zero expectations from them at this moment. The writers are either writing a big and better reconciliation or they are butchering the characters with toxicity. Only they know what they are going.

Even with TRP audience, if the show has a spunky character with a good dose of humor, I think the counsellor track could be accepted.

But the writers of PS do not have the depth to handle this 😐 I am scared that they will end up making a mockery of counseling- I'd rather they not show anything in that case. There is already a lot of misinformation floating around 🤪

Ideally, with better writers, they could show how the family is completely against counselling, raising questions as they did today. Rishitha, Dev, Krish and eventually Gaumbi would chip away on Dhara, Suman and finally Shiva.

At the counsellor's office, they can show a belligerent Shiva with a lot of misconceptions on counselling- maybe even angry that so much money is being wasted. But we have a cool level counsellor who dispels Shiva's notions and over time makes him comfortable enouhh to share, without being preachy.

This would have helped educate people who had misconceptions about counselling 🤷‍♀️ Gah its ITV- no one cares

I m just thinking shoe me cheezein itni jyada bigaaad rhe hai , Isko sudharege kese?? 😐

Mtlb, 1. raavi ko galat bola gya h ,usse maafi mangana chahiye , aur

2. raavi ne jo shiva jo galat bola , usse bhi samajh me aana chahiye

3. Shiva ka intention kya tha itna sab krne ke peeche ,

Ye sab ye log btayege ya kuch cliche, stupid sa accident type scene dikha ke sab bula dege🧐🧐🧐🧐

Koi bts ya upcoming track ka link hai kyaa?

Aage kya ho skta h ??