Originally posted by: IFLoveMe in bold!
Many of us are disappointed with the way Anokhi has behaved today.
Show me a person who isn't disappointed by Anokhi today? She went from Jugni to our sacrificial lamb. But growth has to start from somewhere......
I am too. But if we look back, she has always been like this. She listens to one side of the story, cooks up something in her mind without discussing with the right person and takes a decision.
She's soooooo smart and is a debate champion. But her intelligence in academics doesn't translate into real life. She doesn't see two sides of the argument. She is really stubborn once she takes a decision. Very frustrating to watch as viewer, but need to be understood due to her age and experience level.
She only heard Aastha's side of the story and believed that Shaurya was wrong and would lecture him to treat Aastha respectfully. She only listened to the gossips about Shagun in college, saw him with her and decided that Shaurya was lying to her. She heard the engagement announcement in Goa and decided that Shaurya betrayed her and broke up. Shaurya went missing and she decided that he has run away from the problem. She learnt about Shaurya's soch from Shagun and she decided he will be the same with her as well without discussing it with him. Shaurya behaves impulsively too, but he is willing to discuss at least after doing whatever he wants to do. Anokhi just doesn't want to discuss with him anything, neither before nor after the problem. Again, she has done the same thing. She was not at all out of character today.
Such great examples. I've said this many times already, but it needs repeating....all her decisions before were her own because she was single, but this time around she made a 'couple' decision on her own. Shaurya did this with the shaadi and we railed against it! It was frustrating before, now it's just disappointing. And Anokhi not listening is the cherry on this messed up noncommunicative cake!
And this is the journey now Anokhi has to take. She needs to grow up to understand what communication means, why it is necessary. Shaurya has learnt from his mistakes, he is supporting her in her ambitions, he is taking stand for her, he is "trying" to communicate, he is not leaving her alone! Every wrong that he did before the marriage, now he is trying to make it right. Today he also accepted for her sake that just putting the sindoor didn't make it a marriage! Now its Anokhi's turn to learn from her mistakes and work on it.
Such a great point. We wanted Shaurya's evolution on soch and we're getting it and now it's Anokhi's turn. I've been highly frustrated when she doesn't pick up his phone calls. And every time she does, it's been a Hallelujah moment for me. Maybe they're used to being on their own in this world that they don't know how to be together? But like you said Shaurya is trying. He called her to let her know he was coming and showed his support. He never said I'll take care of it. He wanted to walk through it together. I guess Shaurya is taking a different route to make her realize her mistake. "Jab ghee seedhi ungli se na nikle, to ungli tedi karni padti hai"
Anokhi's biggest issues are that she doesn't discuss anything with Shaurya, she thinks only her decisions are always right, she doesn't trust Shaurya enough to make right decisions for both of them.
We talk a lot about Shaurya's pride and arrogance and forget that Anokhi is just as bad. She has a know-it-all personality that loves to LECTURE others. Poor Shaurya has gotten used to being admonished by his personal lecturer. She believes that she's always on the side of the 'right'.
I don't mean to say that she has taken his love for granted but she is very secure about his love. Yes, she had insecurities about Shagun, but she was insecure about him being able to take a stand for her. She never had insecurities that he will go for Shagun. She very well knows how much he loves her and he will come to her, come what may! So she always takes the easy route of cutting off from him as soon as there's a problem. She is sure that this won't break there relationship, this will just get her some time for herself to think about it. She can take as much time as she wants and Shaurya is ready to give her that time always, all she should do is tell him that she needs time and once she has decided something, she should discuss it with him. Not talking to him and not letting him explain is not the way!
I love the way Shaurya loves his Anokhi. And I'm so glad she's finally secure in that, since their full mutual confession and him reiterating it with "wifey" "zindagi bhar" "saath janam" etc... He's in for the long haul and she knows it. He's been very upfront about choosing her always(which she wanted and asked for after the sindoor shaadi). Now it's being held against him. She wanted him to fight for her haq, like no one did for Aastha. What did she think the repercussions of that fight would be??? Maybe this is why Shaan couldn't stand up for Aastha, because of the fall out. But now Anokhi would rather send him back to that SH, than fight for the haq that she's been lecturing about since she found out Aastha was his mother!
With the upcoming jealousy track, she will realise what it feels like to imagine him really going away from her. Even when he was sick or kidnapped or even when he was found and separated by Badi Maa, she had seen him willing to come back to her only and so, she was still hopeful in her subconscious mind. But when she sees him choosing Shagun by himself, she will get that much needed jerk that he is not going to accept her decisions now. She will question him, she will try to reason out, she will try to discuss! Even if she took the decision now, she knows he will not leave her...and she is quite comfortable in that thought subconsciously. If the thought of leaving him too couldn't force her talk to him, him actually leaving her will only show her the right way! The reality of not having him to impose her opinions on will only make her learn to respectfully listen to his opinions.
Learning the lesson the hard way seems to the only way left! What options does he have? She won't speak to him and won't confront problems together.
Like you're saying, I hope she gets to introspect on how important he is for her existence. As she mentioned during Goa, that just like him, she can't stay away from him either. Sometimes you have to lose something of value to really understand its place in your life, and what you're throwing away with your actions.
There's always a huge difference in self-inflicted tadap and tadap inflicted by the other person. We feel for Shaurya's tadap because that is not in his control. Whereas, Anokhi's tadap so far has been self-inflicted where she decides to distance herself from him due to various reasons. Anokhi needs to go through this tadap to understand what it feels like when your partner makes decisions about your love life and doesn't consider your opinion, she needs to go through this tadap to reach that level of trust and confidence in Shaurya which Shaurya has in her, she needs to go through this tadap to feel that paglo wala passionate love for him. She herself is not aware of the depth of love she feels for Shaurya, otherwise she wouldn't have given up on him this easily, the way she didn't give up on her career. She needs to go through this tadap to understand that love should not be blind, yet it should not be subjected to any conditions, nor should any condition decide its fate.
@underline: great way to put it!!
I'm going to keep repeating it to myself. "We need this tadap" "We need Anokhi to evolve"
She values her education because she put it before everything else and had to fight for it against society's soch and expectations. And Shaurya's value will increase when she has to fight for him against society's soch of professor/student relationships and expectation of upper/middle class blending.
PS - Apart from this, I am obviously excited for this track to see Shaurya's swagger and his cuteness to make her jealous 😉
I'm not into two women fighting over a man or inciting jealousy in another.......BUT I will make an exception this time. And like you, I'm very excited to see what's coming.
Also, given the fact that Shaurya doubted about Shagun today, it means he is not blindly trusting her yet. Also, she was not a part of his team in the bts released yesterday. And above all, I trust Shaurya is smart and he would take all precautions not to get himself trapped in his own plan ending up with Shagun. So I am least bothered about Shagun's motives and her doing chance pe dance in this track. Shaurya along with his parents, Babli and Ahir has started a big game and it will turn the entire Sabherwal house including Shagun upside down. Jealous Anokhi, Shaurya's swagger, Shauhir friendship, Shagun's delusion crashing down, Kanchan having a last laugh at Devi, BM-BP falling flat on their face and Shaan Aastha sweeping their son under the nose of BM-BP...its going to be a track worth cheering for. Get ready with your pop-corns, Dramebaaz Shaurya Sabherwal's drama is going to unfold. Bring it on, cvs!!🥳
Sooooooo much in this track that we've been asking for!! My faith is in Aastha right now to look out for her son!
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