I am not sure if you have ever thought of it this way, but the world is NOT made of our characteristics. The world is regressive. It is dark and disgusting, as well it is progressive and beautiful in other parts.
You say that my comparison between Anupamaa and other mother is off. Why though? What exactly is wrong with comparing mother’s from different end of a spectrum? Please provide details of your argument for why my comparison doesn’t work, just stating it is off doesn’t exactly do the job of justifying your point of view.
And suppose that you’re right, one should forgive but not forget. It is possible to say that perhaps Anupamaa has forgiven Rakhi for her behaviour in the past, but hasn’t forgotten it. We don’t know what is inside’s Anupamaa’s head and memory. We only have access to what we can see or hear, but suppose that Anupamaa was a real character then of course it’s likely that she will not have easily forgotten what Rakhi has done, but decided to forgive her anyway for the sake of her son.
and no one is perceiving Kinjal as an object. This is a new view you have postulated here. We know very well that Anupamaa is not the kind of woman to conceive Kinjal as an “object” that she must achieve for her son. That is not why she has been insisting that Kinjal should marry her son. It’s rather clear that it’s because she knows they both love each other.
According to Jean-Paul Sartre, there is no human nature. All of our being-in-the-world is drastically different from one and another. We all experience our situations and their consequences differently. We all create different meanings. Study of Psychology has made it quite clear over the years that everyone deals with their life through different means. I cannot outline them all here, but there will certainly be a great deal of academic work that can make Toshu’s behaviour absolutely normal and expected. Some people are too deeply invested in love and that is okay. For over decades, we have had Romeo who killed himself for Juliet, there was a Majnu, there are still lots of people to date who probably do odd things for love. And if you’re going to say this example is off too because we are in a new world, I am sorry but you’ll have to say more to justify why Toshu’s behaviour is not reasonable.
You say that It is not love. It’s dependency. So what is love? If it isn’t some form of dependency anyway? Don’t people depend on each other for their well-being and happiness? Don’t they sort of rely on each other to look after each other in health and sickness? I personally am not the type of person who wants to be in a relationship, have a family or children etc, but I can totally see that people in love depend on each other for several things.
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