A mothers choice of jamai and fathers choice of bahu - Page 2

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@amru but there are many parents like anjana and wasim. That's why honor killing happens even now.

Shruti, I liked ur points. For me, Harsh's support for Zoya is more important than Roshna's support for Aditya because Roshna is literally a doormat in her own home. In Hooda house, Zoya will get support from the 3 men while Anjana will be left in the corner. Harsh loves Anjana but he loves Adi too and for him, hurting Zoya means hurting Adi too and he knows Adi will alienate himself from his family once again if Zoya is disrespected. Harsh will make sure to control Anjana atleast for Adi's sake.

Both are important subha. Yes harsh has more power. But roshna will remain a guiding force. A force that stopped adi from self destruction. If he had not stopped that day he would not have got his zoya.

 A valid viewpoint. 

But I am a bit confused as Zoya has also said she always wanted to be Abbu's good beti. But she wil always be a bit of Roshanaq as she was born of her and her jigar ka tukda. 

I am not sure I like to chose between parents. Both ideally should be equally important in a child's life. 

Other than that its true that mother's like to chose the D-i-l and father's S-i-l and in BP it is the reverse. BP has continued to break all the stereotypes consistently and that is what makes the show so special. 

Zoya thrown out of the house but steadfastly holding Aditya's hand in both her's.Grieving because Zoya has left under such sad circumstances but Roshnaq and Noor realise food is important. Abbu of course has already eaten because he needs to have his BP medicine !! Noor calls Arjun to enquire about Zoya but does not miss out on him not even saying Hello to her !  

There is a very nice WU by @Dragonfly88 on this topic which I am sharing here ' May the odds be in your favour' ...I hope you do not mind...for those who have not read it.

https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=5031275

Both are important alizia. People are wary of girls who doesn't conform.whom they feel change the status quo of family. With whom son will become joru ka ghulam. I come from joint family.  So more than ladka teek ya nahin I have heard ladki teek ya nahin. Getting a good boy was like lottery. Else it was accepted as fake. As girls anyways had to get married 😆. One of the things I had to fight. Just because a guy or his family tells they like me don't expect me to conform. I was called a rebel for that one statement. People have advised me I shouldn't be telling that way. Nothing affected and though arranged I married only when i felt my hubby was right for me.

@nayan ideally both parents should have a say. But in certain house like siddiques power equation is really badly tilted so one parent take charge. And hooda house hh and anjana has strange relation. BP does break many stereotypes.

 @shruthi I too come from a joint family and I too was a rebel with a cause. Teaching in a all girl's college and inspiring girls to marry only when they find the right man and not succumb to any pressure ...you can imagine how difficult life can be in a joint family , specially a rigid conservative one. But I rode over the opposition fortunately as my husband was very supportive. 

Zoya will have more than just support and it will be interesting to see her ride  over the tide. 

@nayantara @shruti how lucky you guys are to find supportive husbands.