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The only Black and White is her love for dad. Her want to make him happy (from her viewpoint his restaurant health) pushed her decision. 

Definitely grey area - or should we even say Trisha didnt even think thru about herself / her future after even 3-5 years.

Totally agree with you Nisha - there is no black and white only.  Infact I feel it 1% Black - 1% White and 98% grey all in the middle. Not bcos it is right or wrong but the situation people are put in drive those "grey" areas

Why did the Shanbag Jrs run away 😕
Still a big question mark ? Waiting for you to unravel the truth.

If we are bitching about the female lead here we must also be honest about Jayadev's faults

Jas

Jayadev - has been supportive in certain ways.  Not in her "revive" the restaurant plan.  He believes that is in tall order. This puts her off a bit when he makes physical advances. I think she does think back how Jayadev gets her a saree from OT payment or how he spends time with her dad when she goes away. But is that enough to hold a relationship ?

Given her mental state, she is all set to make a difference in her dad's life (Although he might have taken a step back/ given up) at whatever cost. She feels more pressure as she believes that there is no one else in her dad's life that can make that change. 

She doesnt know business, she doesnt know finance/banking, she doesnt know restauranteering but she is very clear about her high level end goal.

She is also very clear in her "wants" from Ashvin.  She is attracted to him but doesnt expect anything from him as a "wife"

Beautifully knitted Nisha 👏

In fact there was no guarantee Jayadev would have ultimately married her. Mr Shanbag was under the impression that everything was locked and sealed since he too is poor and struggling.

Thanks Nisha .

Sri, I just feel that Jayadev only took advantage of Trisha as much as she did. I would just say that more than them being immature , theirs was just an immature relationship that failed because they after a point looked for something in the other person that he or she did not have.

BTW I have a doubt. Ashvin is not even thirty? I actually thought he was in his mid thirties . Then if Trisha
was eighteen 10 yrs bk then Ashvin should hv been barely nineteen, twenty.
So His grandfather is giving him this much grief for what he seemingly did at 19? ! Oh my God Nisha!! That's too long a time to be paying for his so called sins!!! Gosh!! That feels harsh!! Whatever did that boy/ man do 10 yrs bk that's got the monkey on his back since then!!Edited by Errantnomad - 6 years ago

Nisha, I agree about your "Jayadev" sentiments.  A person like him choosing to pick a weathly/better looking girl has a probablity closer to 1. 

As you said, in an arranged marriage, the parents (groom or bride side) make a pick based on religion, region, caste, color and social status.  So the boy is left with mostly to say yes or no the girl based on her external look or character. 

If you hypothetically think about Jayadev's parents, they wouldnt have accepted the proposal - citing no mother for the girl, no brothers to support, low finanical income.  They will feel that Jayadev will be burdened by this "restaurant" recovery.

So we dont even know if they would have tied knot !

Edited by jaschick - 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

Thanks Nisha .

Sri, I just feel that Jayadev only took advantage of Trisha as much as she did. I would just say that more than them being immature , theirs was just an immature relationship that failed because they after a point looked for something in the other person that he or she did not have.

BTW I have a doubt. Ashvin is not even thirty? I actually thought he was in his mid thirties . Then if Trisha
was eighteen 10 yrs bk then Ashvin should hv been barely nineteen, twenty.
So His grandfather is giving him this much grief for what he seemingly did at 19? ! Oh my God Nisha!! That's too long a time to be paying for his so called sins!!! Gosh!! That feels harsh!! Whatever did that boy/ man do 10 yrs bk that's got the monkey on his back since then!!

I feel so attached to Trisha character.  I am able to feel that parallel ! Why I dont know; there is absolutely nothing in common but the love for dad; may be I miss my dad and can know do crazy things if i can get him back. 

Trisha taking advantage of Jayadev - are most of the relationships symbiotic Kalpana ? How many are selfless - even a best friend or a spouse ?  Selfless is a parent-child relationship.

A teen mistake; a ruffian college kid caused trouble or caught in trouble ! What do we see after all these years - a 30 yo old mistake or is it ?

Waiting for Author Sihiba ...
Edited by jaschick - 6 years ago

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