Just a few thoughts on Raman, a few more thoughts added on page 3!!

In my opinion, Raman attempted his best not to fall in love with ishita. But he did. I think he fell so deeply in love with her, that Shagun can't even compare. It's like ishita slowly turned his world upside down, and before he could realise what was happening he fell in love. Long before he started acknowledging what he was feeling, long before Mani instigated a jealous possessiveness, he started to fall for her. And as the relationship progresses, we have seen just how terrified Raman is of losing Ishita, whether that is to someone else or some catastrophe. Ishita, the classic over compensator, feeling like she cannot give the family a blessing most daughters in law do, I think took it upon herself to bring any happiness she could to the family. I think it his feeling of inferiority that drives the so called 'jagatmaata' attitude, at least when related to the family. But in a way, it is this feeling of deep insecurity Raman and ishita have, that makes them more alike then at first glance you would think, and makes them act the way they do

And I think it is this insecurity, in a way that lead to the catastrophe that gave way to the leap. 

In a way, Ruhi optimises everything that Raman and Ishita held dear. Ruhi brought them together, through her they found this all consuming undying love. Ishita fell in love with her daughter's father. Raman fell in love with his daughter's mother. Even though the 'surf Ruhi ke liye' phase ended ages ago, I think that tag also defined them as people. When it therefore suddenly appeared that Ruhi was gone from their lives, I think in the heat of the moment, Raman' s venomous words fuelled a deep insecurity. How is he supposed to be the man Ishita loves, and can look to for support, when he is no longer father to her daughter, a very defining quality in what lead to Ishita falling hopelessly in love with Raman in the first place. This is classic Raman.he lashed out in pain. His daughter has just died. Another entered the world. Things went horribly wrong. And the one person that can save him, may never look at him the same way. This was a common theme in the child swap track, what are Raman and Ishita without Ruhi? I think the answer scared Raman , and Raman being Raman, went into self destruct mode. His defence mechanism however, did the one thing he was most terrified about. It killed Ishita. He was terrified of losing her, and in his self destruct, he killed Ishita too. He imploded the relationship before he could see his worst nightmare; that Ishita wouldn't want him for him and would walk away herself. He used everything he knew would hurt her in a fit of grief, anger, rage, shock, and utter disbelief. In his own attempt to safeguard Ishita being the one to walk away, he ended up pushing her off the cliff himself for real this time. It wasn't a plan to save her life this time. It was a plan to end things his way before like his past, Ishita was the one to leave him. And of course this happened within a few minutes, emotions were rife, and I just think this is how Raman is. After shagun's betrayal we have seen time and time again when Raman fears Ishita too will leave he hurts her first.

I get why people think the characters have changed drastically, I do. But I think in this case, the stakes were higher and it was in keeping with What Raman does for self preservation. I just think it happens time and time again because Raman doesn't realise himself what he is doing. This is him declaring pre emotive war before the other person can defeat him.