Opinions? Who is right and who is wrong?

But on re-watch-- Meher's pain is very valid. 😭 She told him private things in confidence-- for him to expose it on national tv without her permission is a real violation of trust. 😲 He was trying to help her but he did the one thing that she didn't want him to do.

Obviously Meher needs to learn to see things from Abeer's perspective that even if his methods are wrong, his intentions are noble. But I think the bigger change needs to come from Abeer-- he needs to learn to see the bigger picture and not be so impulsive. He has this knee jerk reaction that tends to escalate situations instead of deflating them. I mean, there were ways of getting this information across to bua without making it a big scene on national tv.

I guess going forward-- can Abeer continue to talk about their personal details on the show especially now that everyone knows the story is about them?

I think we all felt a kind of knee-jerk sympathy for Abeer because we knew his heart was in the right place this time, and that his malice has been fading ever since he decided to move in with Meher's family to protect them (what's more, Bua really did need a reality check. I was amazed that she had the audacity to blackmail Meher even more after she heard what she did!). But we forget that this is information that he is willfully hiding from Meher, irritating her at every turn to conceal the fact that he is there because he cares about her and wants to protect her. I think this is a boy-who-cried-wolf situation for Abeer. Most of his actions since he and Meher crossed paths at Groove have been motivated by bitterness against her, especially the way he has been telling their story on his show. So how is Meher to know that this particular act came from a sincere place? When he moved into Meher's house, even his own mother doubted his reasons before he explained clearly because by then he had acted out of sheer vengeance so many times... more than this single act being right or wrong, it's the bad precedent he has set is coming back to bite him in his cute behind.

But what made this episode really beautiful was that it showed exactly how Abeer enriches Meher's life and precisely why she needs him in it. This is what takes this show beyond the cliched opposites-attract love story. Meher, Suman and Devki have grown together in struggle and for so long they had no choice but to be stoic and strong, because if they weren't they'd perish. Not only did they have to be strong, they had to keep each other strong as well and stay united against the world. That probably meant never showing your own weaknesses and not really confronting others'. Bua's weak spot is her pride, because that is what keeps her strong.That's why she lashes out so nastily when her pride is threatened. Meher and Suman know that and they indulge her even when she deals low blows, as she did in this case, because they see a blow to one member as a blow to the unit, and they wouldn't dream of such a risk even though they can afford it now. The fact that Meher, her child, perceived her pain goes against Bua's pride as an independent, self-sufficient provider, which is why Meher kept her determination to work for her Ma and Bua mostly to herself and carried it out silently.

Abeer, as an outsider to this dynamic, has a totally different, way less complex perspective... if Meher cares so much about her Ma and Bua, and has always put them first, shouldn't they know? And so he deals with a very delicate situation in a very indelicate way by blowing up their carefully arranged status quo... which turns out to be just what they needed to love each other even more. Even though this revelation it is a bitter pill to swallow for the three women at first, pills are medicine after all, and we already saw the effects begin.

I didn't think of bua pride as an independent self-sufficent provider and that Meher was trying to protect it by keeping her determination to herself-- but that is a great point. And I think that fits well with why she taunted Meher right back again about thinking everything as a favour. That idea hurt her a lot and made her feel like maybe she hadn't been a good enough caregiver. But I think she sort of gets that too-- that's why she wanted some time for self reflection.

I think you have covered everything so beautifully, and I would only add this. I am not so sure as you that Meher knows the truth behind Abeer's intentions this time. Otherwise, why would she bring up the fact that she didn't react to his previous behaviour, especially his big reveals about their relationship on the show? I think Meher came into the situation knowing that Abeer would irritate her, constantly try to one up her and try to break her stoic silence to prove that he still has power over her. That is precisely what she joined Groove for: to prove to herself that she could now withstand his worst and move past it. But this whole process was undergirded by a sense of trust, that there were certain lines Abeer wouldn't cross. She tolerated his accusations that she was a heartless opportunist who jumped at the chance to hoodwink him, but her weak point is her family and she felt like he impulsively trespassed onto that sacred territory for what ever reason he has been doing all of this, a reason that she still can't or won't fathom because it is too complicated. Sure, her gut tells her that Abeer means well but bitter experience has apparently proven her gut wrong in the past so she doesn't trust it anymore.

As for Bua, Abeer mentioned to Nissar yesterday that he bhelo-fied a lot of papads to hear Meher's "yes" all thanks to Bua. So I think you're right... she probably disapproved of Abeer and the idea of Meher falling in love and marrying so young but Abeer won her over, possibly during that 3-day period when he sat outside their house. Then when he left, all her doubts were proved right. I have a soft-spot for Bua too, and I think she is a fascinating character. On the one hand she feels superior to Meher and Suman because she has always put a lock on her heart and acted from her brain. On the other hand, because she never followed her heart (that we know of) she has isolated herself from a lot of experiences which make life beautiful and which make you stronger. You can't really brag about surviving the war if you never stepped onto the battlefield... and as Pat Benetar wisely tells us, "love is a battlefield" 😆

Bua is the strongest in the household intellectually but the weakest emotionally because she has never allowed herself the beautiful and terrible chaos that love brings. Even with her own family she is not expressive about her affection, choosing instead to manifest it through scolding and strictness (which are nothing but her deep concern). Abeer is that chaos manifest... all impulsive and unbridled love which is why Bua is so disapproving, but a dose of him is just what she needs to be able to actually express her love and pride in Meher. It's the kind of chaos this family needs after so many years of tense control. What Abeer did reading Meher's diary in such a public way was wrong, no doubt, but if you look at the bigger picture, it shows just how much he brought and can bring to her life and that was the highlight for me.

And now I'm greedy to see the other side of the coin... Meher vs. Kuber! 😲

You can really see why their age came in the way of them having a successful relationship. Meher has the maturity to handle Bua now, when Abeer busts open their lives with the best intentions, but did she then? And similarly, did Meher possibly behave insensitively with regards to the Abeer-Kuber tension with only the best intentions, that Abeer misunderstood? Only time will tell...

I agree that Meher knew she was playing with fire by taking that job. I don't know if she had that sense of trust that Abeer wouldn't cross lines-- like she said earlier that in his "ego, and stubbornness" he can do anything. Even in the first episode that Abeer came to her house-- she told her Bua that Abeer is going to talk a lot of crap and lies about them that people will believe but she wasn't going to run away.

But I think something has kind of changed between them while they've been living together. Repeatedly Meher has been telling him that he doesn't have the right to protect her, or worry about her happiness etc. She knows what Abeer has been doing, but she doesn't want him to take that role in her life anymore. The reason why I felt that Meher understood what Abeer was doing here was because she point blank told him: he doesn't have the right to act the part of her husband. That its not his place to decide what she chooses to hide from her family and its not his place anymore to interfere in her family dynamics. She would rather take thousands of Bua's taunts than allow Bua to feel bad about herself.

What ticked her off here wasn't so much that he revealed something personal--- but that her bua got hurt. It was an acute violation of trust because she told her husband something in confidence that she never wanted revealed to her family. (BTW-- can I just tell how much I love that Meher told him things that she couldn't tell anyone else. It speaks to volumes of what Abeer was to her and what their relationship was).

I was actually wondering if Bua had some sort of heartbreak herself. I feel like she has been really hurt in the past herself. She keeps up this stern attitude because she is afraid of coming across weak because for so many years she had to be strong for the family. She is still stuck in survival mode. Meher was saying that there were things that happened in the last 8 years that she didn't want Abeer to know about-- maybe the repercussions were more than just on the emotional front for the family? Abeer's dad could've found a way to destroy their livelihood or something? So Abeer represents that tough time for her family and that's why she is so harsh with him?

Ooh Meher and Kuber😆-- I think we have seen snippets of it when Kuber taunted Madvhi that she was speaking Meher's language. It sounds like Meher tried to encourage Kuber to be more open with Abeer-- explain things nicely and encouraging him instead of always taunting him. And yeah I see Meher trying to explain to Abeer that his dad isn't always wrong and Abeer being made to feel like she always thinks he is wrong. Kuber's own prejudices against Meher probably hindered things too.

From what I see so far it really was immaturity on both ends but its also circumstance. Meher is in a position now where she can give her family the life she wanted for them. College Meher had a sense of restlessness and anxiety-- Abeer helped alleviate that but her goal never shifted. And at some point unintentionally he likely became a hindrance to that goal. But now she has a sense of peace-- she is just in a better place to enjoy her life. To live life the way Abeer wanted her to all those years ago.

I can't wait to hear the rest of your thoughts! I love both Meher and Abeer. Normally in shows I am usually drawn to one character more than another but here they are both my babies! I love the fact that its an equal relationship. Its not that one person is always right and the other wrong. From their own perspectives they are both right and they both wrong at the same time. And they complete each other-- filling in the gaps that the other person lacks.