Originally posted by: Belly_Button
"I am lazy, the youngest, so I got pampered, by Appa, Amma doesnt... she made me cook two nights a week however busy I was, not weekend nights but
weeknights, she would say "this is EXACTLY how returning from work after wedding will be" II said
My affections for this ardent and speeding tale always find a mixed ground. Most authors find success by showing what it is rather than what it should be.
Mostly what it should be is in our heads. People mock when one says that a girl, if working doesn't have to cook, clean and cry. People mocked when VA Shiva Ayyadurai said that you can send a virtual message to people across globe using electronic mail.
Mock me.
Really? So a working girl has to work on the conditions that she still has to cook and clean?
I am not referring to this story in any way other than this because I haven't read it. I have had the pleasure of narrations, though. The author 'shows' truth. But women like Amma need a reality check. Pleasuring husband and the in-laws, not meeting your parents unless the people who own you now grant the permission, becoming pregnant because people want you to, husband regulating wife's money. All of this is true and NOT NECESSARILY in II's regard but in every other girl from a conservative background.
No I am not another freak who is obsessed with Deepika's "My Choice". I don't really support that either.
What I am saying is that II doesn't have to cook so she has a demo experience of her post-marriage reality. She can cook to help her mother. Appa can cook lemon rice. I am referring to all examples from the story, I hold no grudges against the story, I am happy to have been educated of all other stuff that I didn't already know of.
BEING A WOMAN DOESNT TRADEMARK YOU TO BE A HOUSEWIFE AS WELL.
And thats why they don't use the word HOUSEWIFE anymore. Its HOMEMAKER.
Nor is taking your in-laws shit a trademark. II's sister reminds me of that. As a pregnant woman too if you are supposed to be working, I wonder how far the limits go.
I am a firm believer of shared responsibilities and equal importance to both parents.
I see girls saying "Why to keep a job if homely duties will always follow as ghosts?"
Not all are perfect or lucky like II to nurture both or be granted leave out of it.
You can opt out of it.
If a wife works and does the home jobs too, its her choice, not her duty. What other life-ly pleasures does she hold when all her time is consumed in feeding her good-for-nothing husband; having sex and making his kids sleep? Woah!
I am a columnist. I came on IF to sit back and relax but well this stirred my wit so here I am.
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