SS 17 Scoops of ice cream on 105 - Page 65

Originally posted by: harshita27

I have read updates, I have read comments. All I'll say is that I believe in 2 phrases:
"silence is golden" n
"Online I see people committing 'social media suicide' all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you're never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don't warrant a response. This lends more credibility by driving traffic."
Someone once told me to timebox people, work n also emotions.. Thats the best way to deal with unnecessary hurt, stress as well as excitement n anxiety! I would suggest everyone to think about it. Before opening their mouth, one should think if there is a question or just a close ended criticism n opinion. I am no exception. Often times written texts dont come out exactly as how you would have intended since the tone is open for reader's interpretation. I offended Ashu once, even though it was in jest. I chose not to provoke or explain anymore than once. Coz all I'd do is explain myself, aggrevate the other n its not going to decrease the hurt. Giving it time cools down issues n you see things in different perspective.
We all are involved in the story, yet there is a way to put forward your opinion. N its for both parties. Thats why I say, am noone to review, I react to characters not the storyteller. Nisha should also think our reactions as separate from our opinion of her unpess it targets her directly. Not all fingers are equal, hence there will never be a case where its an all pleasing situation. Nisha anyway uses selective reply strategy, why not timebox any negative comments, ignoring just does one thing for me. There is less of my khoon being jalao-ed on things that I dont care about. Everytime I see people reacting strongly on this story, I feel, Nisha has the power of her storytelling to bring out such clear n distinct thoughts. In a day n age where our attention span works in seconds n minutes even for most important matters, she gets reactions which need minutes n hours(in terms of the amt of khoon ppl jalao). I think she should celebrate n open a champaign bottle, coz I think I would feel like "I have arrived!!" If I was getting soo much of attention, negative or positive. Afterall, internet is a free space. Jiski jalti hai wo thodi der n thode time bolega n then will eventually stop kyunki they dont get a reaction. Why not concentrate on happy comments. All I am saying Nisha should celebrate this fame.. Whether its infamously famous or famously famous, ppl are spending energy on her!!! Jinki jalti hai jale... Sanu ki!! 😆
N to your comment, I think there isnt too much crazy fight after page 52-55 maybe. I gave it cursory read. Life is all good!!

Edited by Hsp.canada - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Hsp.canada

Then all i have to say in my Pinglish😆😆

I'm afraid Ranjan is in spirit stalking this thread.. Kahi wo apne new found business shrewdness pe mitti na paa de... N starts to listen to Harish's trap!! 😆

Bade Bhalla saab ne aaj phatte chuk di😆

Originally posted by: Hsp.canada

Bade Bhalla saab ne aajphatte chuk di😆

Your goliyaa were saved😊

Am keeping an eye on him n his paplu taplu...galti kari toh bhoon daalungi inko!! 😉 😆

Originally posted by: harshita27

Am keeping an eye on him n his paplu taplu...galti kari toh bhoon daalungi inko!! 😉 😆

Edited by Hsp.canada - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: harshita27

I have read updates, I have read comments. All I'll say is that I believe in 2 phrases:
"silence is golden" n
"Online I see people committing 'social media suicide' all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you're never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don't warrant a response. This lends more credibility by driving traffic."
Someone once told me to timebox people, work n also emotions.. Thats the best way to deal with unnecessary hurt, stress as well as excitement n anxiety! I would suggest everyone to think about it. Before opening their mouth, one should think if there is a question or just a close ended criticism n opinion. I am no exception. Often times written texts dont come out exactly as how you would have intended since the tone is open for reader's interpretation. I offended Ashu once, even though it was in jest. I chose not to provoke or explain anymore than once. Coz all I'd do is explain myself, aggrevate the other n its not going to decrease the hurt. Giving it time cools down issues n you see things in different perspective.
We all are involved in the story, yet there is a way to put forward your opinion. N its for both parties. Thats why I say, am noone to review, I react to characters not the storyteller. Nisha should also think our reactions as separate from our opinion of her unpess it targets her directly. Not all fingers are equal, hence there will never be a case where its an all pleasing situation. Nisha anyway uses selective reply strategy, why not timebox any negative comments, ignoring just does one thing for me. There is less of my khoon being jalao-ed on things that I dont care about. Everytime I see people reacting strongly on this story, I feel, Nisha has the power of her storytelling to bring out such clear n distinct thoughts. In a day n age where our attention span works in seconds n minutes even for most important matters, she gets reactions which need minutes n hours(in terms of the amt of khoon ppl jalao). I think she should celebrate n open a champaign bottle, coz I think I would feel like "I have arrived!!" If I was getting soo much of attention, negative or positive. Afterall, internet is a free space. Jiski jalti hai wo thodi der n thode time bolega n then will eventually stop kyunki they dont get a reaction. Why not concentrate on happy comments. All I am saying Nisha should celebrate this fame.. Whether its infamously famous or famously famous, ppl are spending energy on her!!! Jinki jalti hai jale... Sanu ki!! 😆
N to your comment, I think there isnt too much crazy fight after page 52-55 maybe. I gave it cursory read. Life is all good!!

Edited by Nisha0604 - 9 years ago

Wonderful updates again Nisha.

It was nice to see the whole family being involved in taking care of Vandita. Amma missed having sons seeing Tan, Bala and Raman taking care of everything.
Loved the way how Appa felt bad for Vandu and Bala's financial struggle. So true. Just few weeks back , it appeared Vandita is the lucky one to have everything while Ishita got rejected by Subbu.
Now it appears Ishita is the lucky one. Little did he know that his younger one has her share of troubles ( Manny's and Chachu's accusations and her financial issues).
Chachu turned out to be real crook. He is all sugary when everyone is around, but shows his true colors when he is one on one.
Chachu family was clearly expecting Raman to never marry or marry a foreigner. Their hopes were dashed when he married II. Now he is trying to create rift between them.
He knew Ranjan is happy about getting a daughter in law like II . He did not hesitate to snatch that little happiness away from his brother.
I will be surprised if he has no part in the scandal. Even if he is not directly responsible, he might have milked the scandal as much as possible to gain trust from his brother. He must have twisted the facts and might have been responsible for Savitha's death too.
It is surprising to see how low can some people get to provide for their family.

Loved the way how you showed Ranjan as shrewd businessman with strong family values. I think Tan is also the same. Now we know Ranjan is not a complete pushover and he can give it back to people if needed, and that includes Raman too. 👏
Loved the end part where father and son texted each other. Totally unexpected and heart touching.
I bet Ranjan will be able to sleep peacefully without pills atleast for a few days.😛

Originally posted by: DesiUs_fan

Wonderful updates again Nisha.

It was nice to see the whole family being involved in taking care of Vandita. Amma missed having sons seeing Tan, Bala and Raman taking care of everything.
Loved the way how Appa felt bad for Vandu and Bala's financial struggle. So true. Just few weeks back , it appeared Vandita is the lucky one to have everything while Ishita got rejected by Subbu.
Now it appears Ishita is the lucky one. Little did he know that his younger one has her share of troubles ( Manny's and Chachu's accusations and her financial issues).
Chachu turned out to be real crook. He is all sugary when everyone is around, but shows his true colors when he is one on one.
Chachu family was clearly expecting Raman to never marry or marry a foreigner. Their hopes were dashed when he married II. Now he is trying to create rift between them.
He knew Ranjan is happy about getting a daughter in law like II . He did not hesitate to snatch that little happiness away from his brother.
I will be surprised if he has no part in the scandal. Even if he is not directly responsible, he might have milked the scandal as much as possible to gain trust from his brother. He must have twisted the facts and might have been responsible for Savitha's death too.
It is surprising to see how low can some people get to provide for their family.

Loved the way how you showed Ranjan as shrewd businessman with strong family values. I think Tan is also the same. Now we know Ranjan is not a complete pushover and he can give it back to people if needed, and that includes Raman too. 👏
Loved the end part where father and son texted each other. Totally unexpected and heart touching.
I bet Ranjan will be able to sleep peacefully without pills atleast for a few days.😛

Nisha one senses the pain you feel when such lists are pushed down your throat by moderators. The Nisha that emerges from the writing and her responses is whom i know. As somebody who has watched in awe at the writer and the empathetic woman who dons the multiple hats with such grace and ease i am taking this opportunity to share my thoughts. When I choose to respond I am trying to  understand another's point of view when I  react I choose to receive the criticism thrown at me. Harsh words or mean judgements are  a bait thrown at me if i bite the bait i am done...if i wriggle away i keep my baiters at bay. I know it is easier said but as Hsp Canada says social media suicides and harakiri seem common. Your creative energy is for better things dont stoop to the bait.
 I have never responded to anything even on So SY until recently your writing awakened me from inertia. I am sure there are a lot of us who are engaged with So SY and through that with you and each other. i am sure as Sakiv said in a post you must be the most read and recommended writer on the forum so definitely sometimes face unfair norms to conform to.
I love the amazing woman Nisha i have got to know on So Sy. I admire the Author. Await your next update😊😊😊😊

I know Nisha!! It hurt you coz you put your heart,mind,time n soul but why react re!!
It does what to you?? Bring you peace?!? Fatto-ing like that? Nahi na? Jaane de unko!! Jo jale wo jal ke bhunn jaayein.. You write... If u think a comment is negative, dont read further or just reply "Sanu ki!!" to that post if you dont agree! 2 words... But give u power!! I understand hurting is natural but duniya mei billion ppl are there, sabki marzi sunkar react karogi toh khud ki life kab jiyogi?!? You are writing, coz firstly you have the talent,secondly you have a story in yur heart n mind to tell,3rdly you
WANT to let people know intelligent n engaging way of storytelling exists n is supremely executed by you without being daily-soapish n dramatic n lastly coz ppl appreciate your work!! Aaj tak kahi bhi aisa nahi hua ki sabko sab jageh praise mili hai.. Tumko 50-60 ppl praise, tumko 2-3 ppl say strnge things, why waste energy on 2-3... Chachi-mami lagti hai tumhari ki character certificate degi?!? Nahi na? Jisko nahi pasand aaya, na padhey!! Tumko kya? Its their loss to lose outon such good story ... Baaki 50-60 ko reply karo na.. Baaki ko goli maaro...itna energy bachchon n pati pe kharch karogi(violent stemy makeout 😉 😉 ) , duaayein denge tumko wo!! Online nahi waste karne ka yaar!! Again, we are faceless stranger cum friends, if we get along its a good journey.. If we dont, there is always the door thats open for them to walk out of!! Tum kyu dimaag lagati ho!
By the way, I made 4-5 post aaj, masti wala... Tumko uspe ek line reply kar a nahi hua?? Yaha it a lamba khoon jalayi tum apna for a post that didnt need your attention even!! Bola na tumko tum tasleema nasreen N salman rushdie ke category mei ja rahi ho... Log vichlit ho rahe hain...kuch toh jale ge n kuch thoda curious comments karenge.. Tum likho toh khud ko khush karne ke liye likho coz its your hobby, not your living ki 2 ke bura bolne pe paise katenge tumhare.. Ppl who mind shouldnt matter n ppl who matter wont mind!!Edited by harshita27 - 9 years ago