Why is it considered to bad to have a child before marriage in India?

Someone please explain this whole idea to me and why it's considered so awful. Why is Swara being called illegitimate constantly? That's so degrading and insulting, she's human and has emotions too. I don't care someone is married or unmarried a child can never be illegitimate how can something so precious be seen as something so evil? Is it the religious boundaries around India? If so I don't think at the end of the day any God (If He/She/It) exists would regard this behaviour as ok. All other species have offspring without getting married we don't go and get on their case. So why is it so humiliating if two people have a child together in India? I've tried to ask my parents they didn't understand why it was humiliating either my grandparents however just said it was humiliating (they were born and raised in India, everyone is born here in Canada). Because the treatment Swara is getting is just so wrong 😡😡😡😡😡 It makes me want to break my T.V screen and scream. What her parents did shouldn't affect her! It's none of anyone's business. NO GUY should have a problem with this if she's a nice, educated girl.

Actually though I completely agree with the fact that the child should not suffer, the matter itself is the boundaries of marriage. I personally believe that sex should not occur outside of marriage because it sets a person up for much emotional and physical trauma. God intended for the union of man and woman in marriage so it is a defilement of the sanctity of marriage. It is never the child's fault, but it must be understood that if humans begin to define their own boundaries and ethics, there will be no scope for right or wrong.

It is a religious belief. There are several religions that state the heavy consequences of illetigimate children. It is a sin.





Edited by angelpureness - 9 years ago

Well, all religions were created by mankind. Therefore, religious beliefs reflect the attitude of the society's elders/society in general towards various moral and ethical issues.
Its all about the perspective of a society. Asian societies (specially the Middle Eastern and South-Asian ones) are yet to adopt a matured outlook on this issue and choose to stick to outdated notions.

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Well, all religions were created by mankind. Therefore, religious beliefs reflect the attitude of the society's elders/society in general towards various moral and ethical issues.
Its all about the perspective of a society. Asian societies (specially the Middle Eastern and South-Asian ones) are yet to adopt a matured outlook on this issue and choose to stick to outdated notions.

It is not a sin to breed outside of marriage nor is it bad. 

Originally posted by: soapbubble

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Yes, it is harsh on illegitimate children but each society has its own norms and it works for them.

Please don't pass judgements on what is mature and isn't, what is outdated and what isn't. Many eastern societies frown on promiscuity, some gently, some harshly. There are very good reasons for this - it causes a lot of trauma for everyone concerned. Just because the West is at a particular point in the 'liberated outlook' arc doesn't mean everyone has to be there.

That's a sweeping judgment-- "it causes everybody involved a lot of trauma". Trauma resulting from broken relationships has nothing to do with having had/not having had sex in that relationship. And that trauma has different degrees for different people. Some move on after a brief period of heartburn, some become depressed and have to seek therapy. Its all about the personality type of the people involved. No uniform rule here.

And btw, nobody was talking about promiscuity here. That's a different issue.

Thanks for Info guys. But nor do I ever, nor will I ever believe this is a sin 😆😆😆😆😆