I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of 9: Kalki K - Page 8

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

What do u mean by not in every case? No bleeding after penetration? a 9 years old girl? 

I thought being vigilant as well as teaching kids about touch was a part of regular parenting.

Only here I'm seeing these things being labelled as fabulous or exceptional parenting!

Like parents have no responsibility at all!

Originally posted by: GundayVedant

I agree

I dont wanna sound sadist but when celebs like Rnabir, Ranveer come in public claiming that they have lost their virginity at age of 12-13, trying to sound cool  - I tend to lose all the respect!🤢

Originally posted by: atominis

I thought being vigilant as well as teaching kids about touch was a part of regular parenting.

Only here I'm seeing these things being labelled as fabulous or exceptional parenting!

Like parents have no responsibility at all!

I was being facetious when I called it fabulous. My point was, not all parents are good parents. Even parents who are generally good parents may either not feel comfortable talking about these things or feel it isn't necessary because it wasn't necessary in their childhood. I was trying to say sex education is for the children whose parents don't teach them these things for whatever reason. Blaming the parents (even if appropriate) is no help for the children. Do right by the children first then worry about placing blame IMO is a better approach.

oh come on, even if her choice of word was not appropriate..it's clear that what she described was rape. And she is brave to talk about this. Not  every parent is educated and comfortable enough to have sex talk with their kids, but they need to know it is every important especially in the society we live in. Most kids get sexually abused by a family member or someone who family trust. So it is very scary for them to come forward and complain against someone who in their mind is considered an authority. 

Originally posted by: Enycedoll

do you know the avg onset of puberty for girls is between 9-14?

why is it so hard to believe that each girl can have her own different experience?

Originally posted by: dazzelll

oh come on, even if her choice of word was not appropriate..it's clear that what she described was rape. And she is brave to talk about this. Not  every parent is educated and comfortable enough to have sex talk with their kids, but they need to know it is every important especially in the society we live in. Most kids get sexually abused by a family member or someone who family trust. So it is very scary for them to come forward and complain against someone who in their mind is considered an authority. 

speaking about her experience is only going to raise awareness, which we def need. 

Parents can talk indirectly. Atleast some basic talk about touch.

If not sex education per se.

Also, parents have to build enough trust so that child can share anything with them without any fear. If the child is having to hide things then it means trust is lacking.

They have to be aware of their child too and a good parent easily observes change in child's behaviour and addresses what might be bothering the child.

A parent being this disconnected and unaware, is appalling and disappointing to say the least.

You can't hide things from parents or tell lies and they won't know. It's nearly impossible because often one himself ends up blurting things in exasperation. Lying or hiding things from parents and them not knowing it is very difficult. A parent would have to be really uninvolved and disconnected for this to happen.

Originally posted by: Resident_Evil

LOL. Ranbir and Ranveer probably lost their butt virginity to the local paan wala. NO ONE has sex at 12-13 in Asia unless they are molested, this isn't America or Europe. These celebs are wannabes and just wanna pass off as modern and westernized. 

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

Sex talk and some uncle did something me which is hurting so much... is diff. 

Only some most pathetic parents wud not notice if a 9 years daughter is been rapped. Or even school teacher, or even a 9 years old frnd. 

Given, it all gone unnoticed, What r Kalki's parents' reactions now? Isnt she old enough now to talk to them and then to media?