@ AllBlacks1
I see what you are getting at , you want to know the age of that "someone" to make proper sense of "allowed" & ''extent of harm" , isnt it ? .. fair enough , its not an entirely invalid point.. however , Kalki's previous interview ( havnt been through it yet , just saw the link in this thread & i saw the words " i was abused" ) seem to suggest that she was indeed violated , so its safe to assume that it was someone older & it most probably wasnt a case of kids playing "doctor,doctor" with each other .. even so , what we know for a fact is that she felt abused..and it wouldnt harm to keep a proper check on things like "doctor,doctor" where two juveniles are involved in which case none can be held accountable per se but a lot of things could go wrong there too..
I do not think that the use of word "allowed" (when she was actually abused) was wrong in any sense & i have already given you reasons for why i think so.. i also do not believe that not divulging the precise age of that "someone" is irresponsible , though it certainly left a lot of things to assumptions , but 'irresponsible' is a big & harsh word to use here..talking about these things is already hard as it is & on a public platform may be Kalki was only focused on bringing the issue into limelight which could in turn help many who are struggling with the same issue..
@ atominis
First things first , yes i do agree that parents have a huge, in fact ,the most prominent/important role to play when it comes to their children's safety & well being .. however , what baffles me is that most of your posts ( except the last one) seem to ignore the fact that most parents aren't aware of just how to deal with issues of child sex abuse .. you keep talking about good touch-bad touch which is all well n good , but how many parents do you think actively discuss such things with their children ?.. most parents find it easier to believe that such things wont happen to their children, so there needs to be someone to tell these parents that the easiest way out is not the best way out , which is exactly what Kalki is doing by bringing these issues into limelight & spreading awareness.. havnt you heard of or seen cases where children actually do find a bit of courage to drop hints to their parents but parents act dismissive of such things & these are the parents whose world revolves around their children..no i am not absolving such parents of their irresponsibility , in fact when they find out what their irresponsibility meant to their child who was abused , they will forever carry that guilt , however what i am trying to do here is acknowledge the ignorance of parents..your initial posts in this thread seemed to suggest that every parent is automatically well equipped to deal with such issues since errr , they are parents & they ought to do it.. well yes , they ought to do it , but for that they need to be aware & be prepared to tackle such situations in best possible way.. believing that everybody knows of these things & knows exactly how to tackle these issues sounds like a flawed hyperbole to me.. (also ,just FYI- not an NRI here, pakka RI ð)
Moreover , i do feel that the whole NRI argument was totally unnecessary here ..i do not think anyone here was bashing India (unlike most of IF threads ð) but to each his own..
Edited by Mighty-Zeus - 9 years ago
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