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Idlis and ideologies
"How would you be if u had to abandon something?" she asked still carefully avoiding eye contact
"Work or personal?" he asked hoping it would startle her
"Umm" she said... "Uh.. Umm ofcourse work" she said concealing her reaction cleverly.
He was beginning to debate between truths, half truths and harmless lies, when it came to her... he had three bins now... but went for the truth bin
"If I love something immensely I wud definitely give it a lot of thought before abandoning it" he said,
"Even for you is it definitely easier to give up before u take on the challenge or experience a thing ?" "Or do u grieve the loss of opportunity like some people do? (she classified herself as "some people" to distance herself from the lost opportunity of starting her own company??)
"I don't give up II, I do it if I want to"
He never grieved... if he wanted to do something he did it... there was no lost opportunities in his life thus far... he overrode family dissent very easily, he lived life on his own terms
"do u love Paris?" she asked suddenly changing topic
"I do" he said
...
I am just going to put this in context of him wanting to give up his shares and continue to work out of Paris.
He cryptically states if he loves something, he would give it a thought before abandoning it. He says he doesn't give up if he wants to do it. He never grieved as there are no lost opportunities for him. He has lived life on his terms thus far overriden family.
There is so much to explore here. Paris is both work and personal. Would he be able to abandon it ?? Would he even want too if we go by his statement of not giving up if he wants to do something . He has overridden his family but his family now includes his wife too,a career oriented ,ambitious one at that and therefore the playing field changes.
He loves Paris, he is himself here but would he grieve if he abandons Paris to work out of india as his base . Would he see this as his lost opportunity if he is the one who has to let go here!!. It's too intriguing and there are so many volatile moving parts. Or will his wife start something on her own.
You peeled a layer off her and let us know that she wanted to do something on her own too. Should we look at it as grounds for change??.
This is really intriguing but I will wait for the answers as you lay out it whenever appropriate.
Theirs is a love marriage but they begin as if they were to in an arranged one. They are warming up and beginning to feel the need to get attuned to each other's thought processes .
Leaving a plush job to work for non profitable charities is a double edged sword. Few are not able to thrive in cut throat competitive work atmosphere, and the stress gets to them, I know atleast a couple who couldn't handle it, they were fortunate enough to have inherited money , so went ahead to do something for NGO's. In this case, even their wives were not convinced. Their peers snigger that the charity initiative was also because of stress management issues..not all look at it positively
Of the two I am talking about , I feel one has found his calling, and the other one I feel, is just pretending that he has found his calling!! Then there are some who truly start out fresh off the block to do something for the society Each to their own!!
I was wondering if I should go ahead and post this , honeymoon la kabab mein haddi type post. Apologies folks.
"How would you be if u had to abandon something?" she asked still carefully avoiding eye contact
"Work or personal?" he asked hoping it would startle her
"Umm" she said... "Uh.. Umm ofcourse work" she said concealing her reaction cleverly.
He was beginning to debate between truths, half truths and harmless lies, when it came to her... he had three bins now... but went for the truth bin
"If I love something immensely I wud definitely give it a lot of thought before abandoning it" he said,
"Even for you is it definitely easier to give up before u take on the challenge or experience a thing ?" "Or do u grieve the loss of opportunity like some people do? (she classified herself as "some people" to distance herself from the lost opportunity of starting her own company??)
"I don't give up II, I do it if I want to"
He never grieved... if he wanted to do something he did it... there was no lost opportunities in his life thus far... he overrode family dissent very easily, he lived life on his own terms
"do u love Paris?" she asked suddenly changing topic
"I do" he said
...
I am just going to put this in context of him wanting to give up his shares and continue to work out of Paris.
He cryptically states if he loves something, he would give it a thought before abandoning it. He says he doesn't give up if he wants to do it. He never grieved as there are no lost opportunities for him. He has lived life on his terms thus far overriden family.
There is so much to explore here. Paris is both work and personal. Would he be able to abandon it ?? Would he even want too if we go by his statement of not giving up if he wants to do something . He has overridden his family but his family now includes his wife too,a career oriented ,ambitious one at that and therefore the playing field changes.
He loves Paris, he is himself here but would he grieve if he abandons Paris to work out of india as his base . Would he see this as his lost opportunity if he is the one who has to let go here!!. It's too intriguing and there are so many volatile moving parts. Or will his wife start something on her own.
You peeled a layer off her and let us know that she wanted to do something on her own too. Should we look at it as grounds for change??.
This is really intriguing but I will wait for the answers as you lay out it whenever appropriate.
Theirs is a love marriage but they begin as if they were to in an arranged one. They are warming up and beginning to feel the need to get attuned to each other's thought processes .
Leaving a plush job to work for non profitable charities is a double edged sword. Few are not able to thrive in cut throat competitive work atmosphere, and the stress gets to them, I know atleast a couple who couldn't handle it, they were fortunate enough to have inherited money , so went ahead to do something for NGO's. In this case, even their wives were not convinced. Their peers snigger that the charity initiative was also because of stress management issues..not all look at it positively
Of the two I am talking about , I feel one has found his calling, and the other one I feel, is just pretending that he has found his calling!! Then there are some who truly start out fresh off the block to do something for the society Each to their own!!
I was wondering if I should go ahead and post this , honeymoon la kabab mein haddi type post. Apologies folks.
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