Originally posted by: nividances
Hey Aarti! Thanks for the detailed character analysis of Rachna and Kabir. Interesting interpretations for sure...some I like, some I guess we don't see eye to eye.
You're right that Kabir handled this situation more "maturely" as he made the decision to "forgive, forget, and move on." I don't agree that he is emotionally stronger though. Every person is different in how they react to a situation, but that doesn't mean that one handled it in a better way than the other; they each handled it to the best of their ability. Also, the situations that Rachna and Kabir are reacting to are completely different as well. He is dealing with the truth about his family that had been hidden from him for so many years, while she, as you pointed out, is trying to deal with the aftereffects of a miscarriage that led to infertility. The two issues are not at all similar.
I agree with most of what you said about Kabir. He does appreciate Rachna's presence in his life because she gave him the element of love that was otherwise lacking in his life for so many years.
However, I have to disagree with what you said about Rachna. She loves Kabir just the way he is; she's never tried to change him in any way. She met and fell in love with Kabir at a time where everyone else had abandoned her so he is as significant for her as she is for him. He gave her the element of love when she was most broken. This is the foundation of their relationship: they were both incomplete when they initially met, but they both became complete with the love they received from the other.
As for her not being able to move past the miscarriage? From her perspective, a child is the biggest physical token of love between a couple and that is something that they will never be able to share because of her shortcomings. She feels the presence of a child to be a necessity in moving their relationship to another level, while he is happy enough to just share his life with her as they have continued to do thus far. They both love each other deeply, but they are not seeing eye to eye about how to express their love to each other; neither of them can be considered wrong though. He is happy just being reunited with her, while she still sees a child as the one thing that will show him how much she loves him. It's not a matter of who loves the other more but a matter of how they are each trying to express their love for each other.
Anyways, thanks for sharing your views with me. I love having discussions like this; it brings me back to doing Socratic seminars and analyzing books in English class.😃
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