GOPI- The Ideal Bahu or Ideal Doormat ????

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I have always been a silent reader on the forum and since Meera's death didnt watch this show. I just followed written updates, but this weeks episodes just made me go ballistic. What Kokila and her feeding Bottle baby son have been doing, amounts to mental torture, and the sadist Indian audience loves this shit.
There is also one another crap-fest where the lead abuses his wife in every possible way, and she still madly loves him. What kind of message do they want to give the society, that its the right of a family to abuse the DIL, she can be stomped, accused, physically tortured and still the max she should do is cry or pray to GOD, and finally one day all misunderstandings get cleared and they hug and make up.

An independent woman, who single-handedly raised her daughter, still feels that those two monsters, who never understood her pain and loss, will stand by her just because she cooks a sumptuous meal... utter bullshit. I know she is staying there for Vidya's sake, but what is making her to listen to those petty abuses.

I just so want, once the truth unfolds before everybody, the crying volcano should explode and she should make the Modi's burn in it. If you look at Ramayan, even Goddess Sita, was not ready to join her husband and at the end renounced the unjust world (including her husband).

For ages woman are shown to be epitome of endurance, and these stupid dramas are reinforcing that same cliches, and sadly majority of audience still love this kind of sadistic dramas.

There is not even one progressive story without the SAAS BAHU DRAMA, that can project a strong self made woman ,who knows how to stand for herself and for others. A woman who can fearlessly and assertively put her point forward, even before her in-laws, one who calls a spade a spade and does not cry buckets of tears.

I think 80's and 90's fared much better in terms of content and portrayal of woman on TV. We had very strong female characters. Some of them were widows, single mothers, police officers or even housewives, but all of them had their own mindset, and they articulated their thoughts too.

If this is what we want our next generation to be, decked brides, with no brains of their own, follow instructions, listen to abuses and bear the torture silently then damn Indian Television. My sincere condolences to the audiences and brilliant CV's who creatively create these ultimate brain-drainers..

Sorry for any harsh words. I now this will not change anybody's views or will change the mindset of the audience or CV's but nevertheless RIP Indian Television ( I miss old days)...

Thanks for reading
Pallavi
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Pallavi, that was a very well articulated post👏

It is sad that Television today defines women as strong when they take abuse, physical and mental from their homes. She is called strong when she does not make her point and accepts the atrocious behavior of her in-laws and the extended family. That is what makes TRPs we are told..

This is not just privy to this particular serial though.. Tune into every serial, it would start out different but at the end of the day, they all have the same thing going on..

The worst part is that the torture would go on for months and then one fine day, things will get cleared and the lead woman will forgive and forget as though nothing happened. It is stupid..

I wish they showed women actually standing up against this crap. Social messages, my foot.. What they are showing today is just the perception that existed 50 years ago. Woman have to shut up and let others abuse them and then should be magnanimous to forgive
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Posted: 12 years ago
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But the whole point is we viewers still watch it... and if we check the TRP also the episode where lead cries the most TRP is more... so can we blame CV's alone for portraying women this way??No... are we audiences esp Indian audiences ready to move away from typical Saas bahu drama??? Answer is big No... extension of these soaps to one more day itself show how much audience also love watching this saas bahu torture...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@just like that. Thanks for understanding. What really scares me is that the airheads, who patronize these crap-fest expect similar kind of behaviour from the woman in their houses and brand the people who don't toe their line, as valuless. I have seen my friends suffer due to these regressive story line. Rishta wahi such nayi my foot,..

That's plain disgusting.. There is no change coming to Indian television industry any soon..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Leki

But the whole point is we viewers still watch it... and if we check the TRP also the episode where lead cries the most TRP is more... so can we blame CV's alone for portraying women this way??No... are we audiences esp Indian audiences ready to move away from typical Saas bahu drama??? Answer is big No... extension of these soaps to one more day itself show how much audience also love watching this saas bahu torture...

That's what precisely I was trying to say that Indian audience enjoy the sadistic pleasure they derive when they see the lead crying. They support her subsiveness and like her agresiveness when she fights the evil, but not when she stands for her rights, dreams or aspirations

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Posted: 12 years ago
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@Leki, you are right!

People watch this behavior because it kinda strikes a chord somewhere.. And soon it becomes a deep rooted need to see such behavior in women.

About 10-15 years ago, there was really great ideas coming out in television from great directors and writers. People genuinely wanted to see good serials, great concepts, different ideas, radical and path changing..

That was a time when you had maybe a couple of channels and DD was one of the main channels that worked. Soon this changed into the extension of the entertainment industry. Cut throat competition kicked in.. And somewhere there was this idea of the 'ideal' bahu in the family..

Soon this spread and now every channel follows the same thing. They have data that if they show something different, it does not work.

Women want to see other women cry. They want to see them bitch and fight each other.. I mean really? Is that what we want to see? Is this because this women they show is the fantasy of everyone? A submissive, coy, all forgiving woman who will never complain?😲

If that is the case, I shudder to think of the consequences

The regional channels are much better. They are not exactly great like a few years back but they atleast don't go to the extremes!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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it kind of give sadistic pleasure to see others suffer i guess...
how many serials with different concept have been accepted ... evenif they try have to change it to saas bahu saga to survive... unless and until we change our mentality we will get more of these type shows/ tracks where ideal bahu being tortured yet she being mahaann forgive and forget evrything🤢

i so dislike this extension my Fav show was axed for this😭😭
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Posted: 12 years ago
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The only strong character on Tv so far I have liked actually loved is Tulsi Virani and Simran of Asthitva.. Other than these two, all women are shown to be weak and men and in laws can take anything on them and they just bear it all.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ani_gr

The only strong character on Tv so far I have liked actually loved is Tulsi Virani and Simran of Asthitva.. Other than these two, all women are shown to be weak and men and in laws can take anything on them and they just bear it all.



You forgot Pooja of Kora Kagaz.. and I love Radha and Devki from Tu Tu main main.. If there was a sweet saas-bahu relationship, this was it..

The 1990s and early 2000s were the good time. Loved the concepts that came up for serials and movies. Women were shown strong and sincere.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Justlikethat1



You forgot Pooja of Kora Kagaz.. and I love Radha and Devki from Tu Tu main main.. If there was a sweet saas-bahu relationship, this was it..

The 1990s and early 2000s were the good time. Loved the concepts that came up for serials and movies. Women were shown strong and sincere.

Oh yea loved Radha and Devki... 😃.. fabulous.. I dont think I watched Kora Kagaz.. will look for it..
Yes totally..😃

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