Love Marriage Or Arranged Marriage - Page 3

While I'm no proponent of marriage, there might be a slim chance I might get married someday. However, me getting married the arranged way has a snowball's chance in hell. I have already turned down few "suitors" since I have been single and have told my parents not to even bother. I don't understand arranged marriage, it does not fit in with my scheme of things or ideologies for that matter. I just can't fathom how you see someone over tea and snacks and/or a few dates and then decide to get married to that person. Marriage seems like such a life long serious commitment to be made so hastily.I'm not being condescending towards believers of arranged marriage. If it works for some people, more power to them but for me to trust myself with someone for the rest of my life, I'd have to test that person emotionally, mentally and yes, physically as well and for quite a long period of time to boot. Therefore, by default it has to be love marriage, there is just no other option in my POV.

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

I don't think I understood the hindi lyrics much .. but I think I see your point.

Wishes will always falls short..

Well you know what.. that's what I kept telling myself .. and I settled for what I had. In a way I am glad I did, 'coz now I know exactly what I want in my man .. and guess what, if I don't find one with all the qualities I want, I just won't get married 😆 I'm perfectly happy with my life and in no hurry to get married ..

Originally posted by: King-Anu

Only point I didnt get was how you became gran before being born. lol

Yes you were born as an aunt so that is your baseline. Now when your niece who is eder to you delivered you became a grand aunt. In 20+ year time you will be eligible for the title of great grand aunt.

Yes I think its time for good night sleep. lol.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

Yes you were born as an aunt so that is your baseline. Now when your niece who is eder to you delivered you became a grand aunt. In 20+ year time you will be eligible for the title of great grand aunt.

Yes I think its time for good night sleep. lol.

Originally posted by: Gumrah...

No marriage.

A happy marriage that lasts would be good enough in this day and age.😆


I think either are fine.
But I do think some people who have love marriages are more naive than those that have arranged marriages.
Some who have love marriages only ponder the good things about life with their partner, and don't realise that you still have to make an effort in your relationship, and that's why so many marriages fall apart these days. Plus love seems to have little meaning for some people these days. People give up on it too quickly. My belief is that if you can't fix your problems in a marriage, then you never really loved each other much to begin with.

When people have an arranged marriage however, they already know that they will have to work at this relationship and build up that trust and love. They don't take things for granted. Plus since they don't get married just for love, they stick together when things go wrong due to mutual commitment and respect, and they get back to a happier place.


Maybe I'm just too cynical because of where I live. Here in the UK so many 'love' marriages fall apart, and people seem to move on within weeks. Surely that can't be love?

why go through the hassle of marriage when you can remain Single

Love marriage comes with the security of knowing what one is getting into. It is an informed decision one takes and reflects individual autonomy in deciding who one wants to settle with. But love can be blind too 😆 . So it leaves to arrange marriage where one blindly commits to an unknown person trusting the decision taken by family. Apples or Oranges I guess. Still the option for love marriage seems more alluring.

At the moment - completely turned off from the idea of marriage, so neither :P