How to deal with people?

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Posted: 12 years ago

How to deal with the high headed ones?

How to deal with the misguided ones?

How deal with the deaf, dumb and blind ones? (who refuse to see things as they are?)

How to deal with the good,kind and sweet ones?

How to deal with the fake ones?

Different kind of folks, so different kind of treatments? Or same treatment to all? Whatever the other person is, you remain the same to all or you change per circumstance?

Most of all, how to deal with family members and parents? How far should you listen to them and do what they tell you and when to put your foot down?

Is the ideal way to deal with people is not differentiate them on their characteristics given we do not know their experiences and upbringing, so should treat all alike or be a little partial to some?

Be good, because you need people for a lot of things. So depending on the situation be extra good to one as you have work with them? Isn't it opportunist? But if you do not give some good, they won't give another good in return.

So the liking,care and affection are an investment? Given, so that you can get them back? Wouldn't that make one look selfish and not-so-good in one's own eyes? Are we liking, helping, loving,caring and doing things for people so that we get some in return? If yes, then is it ok to deal with different people in different ways?

I'll be good to you, if you are good to me. That is it? Does that bring down ethics and morals of humans? Does that take you away from what religion or spirituality preaches you? What is the best way to be?

Edited by drummedup - 12 years ago

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Posted: 12 years ago

Just be yourself, that is what i do. If they like me for being me, then that is brilliant they can join my friend circle. If they don't like me/hate me for being me, then what can i do? You can't please everyone and best just to ignore people not on the same wavelength as you.

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Believe

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: drummedup

How to deal with the high headed ones?

How to deal with the misguided ones?

How deal with the deaf, dumb and blind ones? (who refuse to see things as they are?)

How to deal with the good,kind and sweet ones?

How to deal with the fake ones?

Different kind of folks, so different kind of treatments? Or same treatment to all? Whatever the other person is, you remain the same to all or you change per circumstance?

Most of all, how to deal with family members and parents? How far should you listen to them and do what they tell you and when to put your foot down?

Is the ideal way to deal with people is not differentiate them on their characteristics given we do not know their experiences and upbringing, so should treat all alike or be a little partial to some?

Be good, because you need people for a lot of things. So depending on the situation be extra good to one as you have work with them? Isn't it opportunist? But if you do not give some good, they won't give another good in return.

So the liking,care and affection are an investment? Given, so that you can get them back? Wouldn't that make one look selfish and not-so-good in one's own eyes? Are we liking, helping, loving,caring and doing things for people so that we get some in return? If yes, then is it ok to deal with different people in different ways?

I'll be good to you, if you are good to me. That is it? Does that bring down ethics and morals of humans? Does that take you away from what religion or spirituality preaches you? What is the best way to be?

Let me quote old saying 'If I am not for me then who is going to be for me?'

Nobody is here to fulfill somebody else's expectations...If you are feeling sad/happy, be sad/happy.. don't consider others, their expectations... Respect yourself... That does not mean that you become hard on others ... that simply means that you become soft on yourself. Be polite to others if sometimes you have to go against their expectations... apologise, bt don't pretend... This is one of the problems that always comes in relationship or between peoples, you have to consider the other, continuously, and he has to consider you, and both become false, inauthentic... One needs to be absolutely genuine,it may create a few troubles in the beginning, but only in the beginning...be for urself and only out of that can you be for others too, becos then you will have something to share, to give.😊

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Kankshita

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Posted: 12 years ago

That's a lot of people to deal with, dun you think? Then again, I see only one way of dealing with em, letting them be unless their thick heads are a major threat to the world. Such people tend to enrage me real bad. They put me under testing circumstances. It's basically a choice between smacking them on the head, giving them a verbal beating or actually containing the anger. I try to control my rage. Usually my treatment of different people varies but as far as thickheads go, I practice controlling my anger.

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boreddamsel

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Posted: 12 years ago

I think nowadays I just listen and respond when required and smile and ignore or even avoid the rest of the time!

Trust me, its much better for your sanity! 😛

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Krani

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Posted: 12 years ago

Just be yourself man, and learn from the mistakes you make in life.

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Posted: 12 years ago

^^ What exactly would be being oneself?

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Krani

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: zorrro
^^ What exactly would be being oneself?

How would you respond to certain situations?

Can you imagine your reaction, your thoughts?

Well there you go. That's one step in figuring it out.

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_Angie_

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Krani

How would you respond to certain situations?

Can you imagine your reaction, your thoughts?

Well there you go. That's one step in figuring it out.

Is it possible to be anything other than oneself?