Originally posted by: medena
Mislim da ce se oni zbliziti vremenom, a da joj se nije svidelo da je on ne dotakne to se po njenom licu procitalo,a mislim da je to i primetio i Sh da se An nije dopalo sto je on nece dotaci.
Naravno da ce se zbliziti s vremenom, oni su vec sada poprilicno blizu, samo ona to jos ne shvata. I sigurna sam da nece dugo trajati to njihovo zblizavanje, uskoro cemo mi videti potpuno drugaciju Anandi. Nego, ne znam koliko vas cita ove postove na forumu, naisla sam na jedan koji bas detaljno analizira trenutni odnos izmedju AnSh (potpuno se slazem sa svime sto je tu napisano) pa cu vam to ovde iskopirati, ako vam se da da procitate, pa mozda nekome promeni misljenje. Mislim da je nama poprilicno tesko da razumemo devojku koja je prosla sve sto je A prosla i ciji je odgoj poprilicno drugaciji. Ovaj post je napisala devojka koja je odrasla u gradu i modernih je shvacanja.
Right now AnSh's story is a remarriage track of a CHILD BRIDE. How easy it is for us to be angry at Anandi, to bash her for using Shiv, for not caring about Shiv, for caring more about his family, but do we ever actually stop for a minute and put ourselves in her shoes ? Think about it, she was made to marry when she was a child, she grew up with Jagya in the same house and later fell in love with him and accepted him as her husband, so can you imagine the emotional scars she must still have after he betrayed and hurt her so badly ? It is because of these emotional scars that she is unable to give in to physical intimacy at this point which is very very natural, especially in the case of remarriages. Her fear and hesitancy is not because of her leftover feelings for Jagya, its mostly because for a woman, it is not easy to physically intimate with another man, especially someone she has known for only a few months. All she needs is some time and space to get used to Shiv as her husband and life partner, for her to realize her feelings for Shiv, which she already has, but her fears ad insecurities about herself and her emotional scars are not letting her move forward with Shiv, because we can't forget that AnSh's wedding was followed by her divorce and her mother's demise, she already had a lot of her plate emotionally and then to marry someone at this stage took a lot of guts and courage, so to expect her to consummate their marriage on the first night is a bit much for anyone to ask, ad that is what the message the CV's are trying to give to the viewers that it is very natural for a women to have this hesitancy, to let go of her past and to move on when they are remarried. With times and Shiv's unconditional love and support, very soon she will not only love Shiv, but will give in to him and surrender herself to him, mind, body and soul, because she already cares for him, the fact that was feeling miserable about saying NO to him made her feel guilty is proof enough, so once her emotional scars are healed by Shiv's love and understanding, she would have no issues or fears left.
As for Shiv, I could not believe, some of us are bashing him for being such a gem of a human being :P Like any other guy madly in love, he wanted to express his love to Anandi in all the ways possible, and physical intimacy is one of the expressions of love, but he is not the sort to force Anandi to do anything she not comfortable with as yet, so it was necessary for him to make her open up to him and talk out her fears and hesitancy, because it is quite right that he knows her more then she knows him, why wouldn't he ? He loves her, and one tends to know everything about the person they love, but for Anandi who had so much is her emotional palate already, it would take time for her to get to know Shiv as well as he knows her, and she would get to know him, but like every newly wed woman, she needs to adjust to being married again, especially to a man as wonderful as Shiv, because her previous experience wasn't all bed of roses. And its not as Shiv didn't know what he was getting into, Anandi has been honest and forthright about everything from the start. She had told him early on when she asked him to marry her that
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