Why do women leave their marital home?

We have had a poll on this and most people felt that women are the ones to leave the house after a fight.

Divya pointed out that it is possibly because they have a maayka to go to. But, if the couple are living independently, the man also has a parental home to go back to. So, I don't know if this is a valid enough reason. And if they are living in a joint family, the chances of walk-outs are very less because the family acts as a buffer.

I want to try and understand why women walk out of their homes. I mean your home is your home. Why would you walk out of it? Even if there is disagreement, you can stay out of each other's paths or stop talking. Why leave?

Does this mean that somewhere a woman does not feel that it is her home? As in she does not think she has as much right over the house as her husband does? So if there is a disagreement, she has to be the one to leave. How do you feel you also have a right? Should the house be in their joint names if it is their own?. Of if it is rented, should it be a joint lease? What would make a woman stop leaving home? Because disagreements and nasty fights happen in the best of marriages!

Well i think irrespective of the 'my home' thing .. n 'our home' thing ... women r more attached to their families.. n when things get touf...they more often than not.. choose to go to their parental home..! The sense of having a support system to fall back upon . is more in them..!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

We have had a poll on this and most people felt that women are the ones to leave the house after a fight.

Divya pointed out that it is possibly because they have a maayka to go to. But, if the couple are living independently, the man also has a parental home to go back to. So, I don't know if this is a valid enough reason. And if they are living in a joint family, the chances of walk-outs are very less because the family acts as a buffer.

I want to try and understand why women walk out of their homes. I mean your home is your home. Why would you walk out of it? Even if there is disagreement, you can stay out of each other's paths or stop talking. Why leave?

Does this mean that somewhere a woman does not feel that it is her home? As in she does not think she has as much right over the house as her husband does? So if there is a disagreement, she has to be the one to leave. How do you feel you also have a right? Should the house be in their joint names if it is their own?. Of if it is rented, should it be a joint lease? What would make a woman stop leaving home? Because disagreements and nasty fights happen in the best of marriages!

i dont think walking out is a solution.. it would rather complicate things ... better to let things cool down...

Originally posted by: jayanti_dj

i dont think walking out is a solution.. it would rather complicate things ... better to let things cool down...

but when the situation arises. i think a woman leaves home coz may be she feels it isnt her home completely ... esp in the cases when she is dependent on the husband financially ...

i know this sounds a rather kiddish answer but then its just my POV ..

No...actually it is a very valid answer...this is why I say the house or the lease should be joint,...then neither will think of leaving...my daughter is chipping and saying that all the packing and unpacking should act as a deterrent by itself!

When I got married I was 22 married in a joint family and in Delhi,I am actually from Mumbai...there were many adjustments my husband was mama's boy when I remember my early days those fights,argument living with your in laws,it scares me but I never left my house nor did I complained to my parents...I had my son then the thought of leaving became more and more difficult.There are many ups and down in a marriage each one must be having their own I had mine,to handle my mother in law and my husband was very difficult but I managed now after two decades of my marriage I tell my husband i feel like leaving and going away to my parents but poor guy has to bear me,so leaving your house is not easy it's infact a very big decision..

Originally posted by: shalini.malik72

When I got married I was 22 married in a joint family and in Delhi,I am actually from Mumbai...there were many adjustments my husband was mama's boy when I remember my early days those fights,argument living with your in laws,it scares me but I never left my house nor did I complained to my parents...I had my son then the thought of leaving became more and more difficult.There are many ups and down in a marriage each one must be having their own I had mine,to handle my mother in law and my husband was very difficult but I managed now after two decades of my marriage I tell my husband i feel like leaving and going away to my parents but poor guy has to bear me,so leaving your house is not easy it's infact a very big decision..

Sujatha a very nice post,what Nidhi did was wrong leaving your house is not solution infact it creates more complications anyway this is just a show must treat it like one..

Shalini...this has nothing to do with the show really...it was more a generic question...and yes, I don't think leaving home can ever resolve anything...

My theory is leaving is acceptance of defeat...and given their larger egos, men will not accept defeat so easily!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Shalini...this has nothing to do with the show really...it was more a generic question...and yes, I don't think leaving home can ever resolve anything...

My theory is leaving is acceptance of defeat...and given their larger egos, men will not accept defeat so easily!

Exactly, I was wondering about this...
Why didnt she say, if you want you go out... after all, she too has equal right on the house...!!

Originally posted by: mudraswathi

Exactly, I was wondering about this...
Why didnt she say, if you want you go out... after all, she too has equal right on the house...!!

That is my question, Mudra...why does the woman walk...it is as much her house as his...if he wants to leave, let him na...why are you always itching to pack?