This DC is so soona soona today! I tried to get on earlier and leave some thoughts but I was swamped by physics from all sides and I finally found some breathing room after submitting the assignment at midnight!
Anyways, Aparna and Indu very interesting discussion, in fact the whole analysis on the Arpita/Yash relationship is intriguing because there are just so many possibilities to it. There isn't much left to imagination with the Aarti/Prashant relationship because we know exactly how that ended, and everything else before that doesn't even matter because to us and even to Aarti it's all overshadowed by that last memory of him walking away from her life without looking back. The happiness she might have found with him all accounts to nothing because the end product was her heart being shattered into a million pieces by him, and that was how that relationship wrapped up.
But Arpita/Yash are a whole different story, we only know two things about that relationship, one that it ended with her dying, and two that Yash was obsessively in love with her. And both these pieces of information are either biased or incomplete. I say biased because so far we have only seen Arpita through Yash's eyes, and there she personifies perfection, which we know is not possible. But at the same time we can't blame Yash for the image of Arpita he carries with her because once someone who was extremely close to you passes away, you only want to remember the good times you spent with them and that's exactly what Yash is doing. Also it is after a person's death that some of those things that we found annoying about them start becoming endearing, and we learn a new appreciation for them just because it was associated with them (if that makes any sense)! So for Yash, whose entire world revolved around Arpita there is absolutely nothing negative to remember, because it seems in most of their flashbacks that he looked at her with constant awe like she was perfection personified, and this could have been another reason for an internal conflict in Arpita. When a person has such high regard for you, doesn't think you can do anything wrong, it's very difficult to uphold that image, and I think that is what Arpita kept trying to do. She knew that Yash's happiness lied in that version of her and so she went out of the way to be that person for him, giving in to his whims even though she wasn't exactly comfortable about them, ironing his shirts despite them being already ironed, she bore it all with a smile, because that is what Yash had come to expect of her and that's why she continued to rise in his eyes day in and day out. And I think because of this she felt like she was constantly losing herself, she was the perfect wife and bahu, but her identify, who was she really was, was being sacrificed in the process! So while she kept that smile on for the rest of the world, and I have no doubt that she was happy to some extent even if this was the case, there was a part of her that probably felt smothered and could possible have been one of the reasons for her untimely demise.
This also kind of supports Samana's point of view where she said that they were still in their honeymoon phase when Arpita died, and this is true literally and figuratively, as we saw in one of those flashbacks that Yash took them both on their second honeymoon to celebrate their first anniversary. Yash was still viewing their relationship with rose tinted glasses, where everything was all rainbows and butterflies, and for him that probably was the case. But a woman can only live in the honeymoon phase for so long before having to come to reality, especially if you were married in the Scindia family. Her role as a bahu and that too as an adarsh bahu forced her to face reality much earlier than Yash. Also, this shows that the word compromise might not have entered the dictionary of their marriage because compromise happens when a marriage truly stabilizes, when the honeymoon phase is over and both people start becoming more aware of the flaws and shortcomings of the other person that's when they learn to work together, to compromise with each other to build a relationship that equally favors both partners, but from what we have seen so far Yash never knew what that really meant, I mean getting his way with the dress, with the bed side, I know these are all small things, but they might be an indication of something bigger, and since we won't be seeing the entire Yash/Arpita relationship, some conclusions needs to come out of these small moments that we have seen them share!
And so this is where the true irony sets in. The Scindia's who in a figurative sense ripped Arpita from her true identity, her true self, were trying to enforce that identity on Aarti. They claim that by giving her their deceased bahu's name she will be able to take her place in that house, but the truth of that matter is there really is no identity left behind that name, and then in a way are responsible for them. If Arpita was truly the woman her mother described her to be, open minded, standing up for whatever was right, there is NO way she would have been considered an adarsh bahu of the house like she is often did, the Scindia's would have never accepted that side of her. So Arpita's true self was somewhere within the walls of the Scindia mansion so that only the name remained, not the vivacious girl behind it. And now they're trying to force that name on Aarti, a name that has absolutely nothing left to it, and we KNOW that Aarti won't take that name, that she is going to be one who is going to create her own identity in the house, even if that meant breaking every path and tradition created by the orthodox mentality of the family. She is going to be doing the complete opposite of what Arpita did and even though it might cause her problems in the beginning, it is this very thing that will win Yash's heart in the end.
So while Arpita tried so hard to be someone she wasn't to please Yash, Aarti will stay true to herself. She doesn't have anyone to please, not really, Yash has told her that he is not looking for a wife in her, she is just to be the mother to his children, and so she has no reason to try to be a good wife, that's not what she's there for. And when you have no intention to appease someone, that's when your true self shines. Aarti will be completely transparent in front of Yash, there will no facade, no cover up, just 100% pure Aarti, and it's going to be this honesty of her character that will enrapture Yash and keep pulling him towards her. She's going to keep it real, so when Yash ends up falling for her, it will be just for who she is and nothing else- this is something he was never able to accomplish in his relationship with Arpita, he was never able to see her for who she is and herein lies one of the main difference. And when falling in love with the person just the way they are, that is ultimately the definition of what true love is all about, knowing every flaw, yet loving it all, and this is exactly the kind of love AarYa will be all about!
Another aspect that will set AarYa apart from Yash/Arpita is that their relationship is going to start off with a string of compromises and will walk its way in the opposite direction to reach their honeymoon stage! AarYa will have seen the good, the bad and the ugly of their relationship by the time they find their happiness within each other. The state in which they find themselves entering this marriage, with no expectations from each other, they are going to have to strike a friendship first, and with that their level of comfort, understanding and trust on each other will increase so that there will come a point where they're going to know each other better than anyone has ever known them. Their first relationships were more about physicality so it's possible that they never got to share their true selves there, especially in Aarti's case, so here they will get that chance, and this mutual understanding and respect is what's going to the most important catalyst of their love story, making it one that will end up being able to weather any storm.
I think the physical relationship aspect of their relationship is actually the least of their worries, now that there are no more misunderstandings left in Aarti's mind, it shows that these two are in a mature relationship, one in which physical contact is no big deal. So far we have seen that Yash has no problem initiating physical contact with Aarti if the situation calls for it, or even when it doesn't, like putting his hand on top of hers to stop her from removing the kangan, he could have told her using words that he was asking for the keys, but he's more comfortable portraying his thoughts through his actions, so touches and physical proximity won't be a taboo for these two as it usually is in a lot of Indian shows, in fact we'll be seeing more communication through actions rather than through words, at least initially! And now that the trust factor has been established, Aarti has no problem with it as well. The very first scene of Friday's episode spoke volumes about that. When Yash gets hurt and Aarti instinctively grabs his hand apologizing, Yash is left stunned, and when Aarti realizes what she is doing, she doesn't drop his hand like a hot potato (like I was thinking she might do). No, they both had a whole moment, at least a couple seconds worth of eye contact before she slowly extracts her hand away, and even though there is a slight awkwardness after that, she doesn't hesitate to meet his eyes as she said sorry once again, and Yash reciprocates by looking straight at her and saying It's okay. The spark is already there between them, and they feel it every time they touch, I mean the mesmerizing looks speak volumes, and shows us everything that they don't want to see. But right now both of them feel safe in the security net of their exes, thinking that it will prevent any emotional attachment, but we all know that this wall of theirs is nothing short of a fluke, with everything working in their favor, to bring them together, they can only cling on to the past for so long, and it is when the past stops becoming strong enough an anchor to keep them grounded to their old memories, that's when everything is going to start to change!
Honestly, if you have managed to read all the way through, give yourself a pat on the back from me because that is truly an accomplishment. I have put in all my jumbled thoughts that I have had about the Yash/Arpita relationship for a while here, and I am sure most of it probably doesn't make much sense, but I needed to get it out there. Marbles have completely been lost for the day, so I sincerely apologize in advance if anyone got a major headache trying to get through this!
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