Tanyaz, I agree that Savita's behaviour towards Archana is very bad. Maybe she even hates her-but is it totally unwarranted? I think she did hate Archana immediately after their second marriage, but since then I think she's mellowed down and accepted that Archana is part of Manav's life now.
Sowmya , what I saw was , in their last 2 meetings , Savita really really hating Archana ...She hates Archana so much that when she was told that Sachu was safe ....she was not looking relived even for one second , immediately she was angry because it was Archana who saved the baby ........
I know what yo u mean about mellowing ..she did seem a lot more calm but then the minute any crisis hits her ....every thing she can blame is she blames on Archana ..How can any one live in a house like this yaar ..Think yourself ...So much abuse Uff ....
I am keeping my fingers crossed that by the time Archu will move in the house Savita herself would be fed up of all this hate that is inside her and killing her family ..
She just wanted to know that her place, her relation with her son was still intact-when she asked Manav in a roundabout way about calling her to inaugurate his shop. Would he have lost anything if he said , just lied to her that he thought of it himself?
Yes , you are right .I do not dispute that ..Even though I sometimes feel very sorry for Manav ( he is hurting too you know ) I feel angry that he just cannot think sensibly and tactfully at times ...He should not have said that to Savita then ..He has played his cards wrong ....His intention was not bad ..he wants a proper solution ( I don't know , it seems at times that he is very scared to loose Archana ever again now that he has tasted happiness ) . But he really really loves his mother too , that I do not doubt for a minute . He desperately wants to move back in with his parents but he wants his wife to go with him and he wants his mother to get along with Archana ..Tha tis what he keeps thinking about ...
There is also this thing about responsibility and Manav thinks of Archana not only as his love but also his responsibility .
And frankly, if somebody I loved brought a person "A" to me and said you HAVE to accept this person, I would hate that person immediately.
Sowmya , it is not just A person ..She is your bahu .
Your son had a love marriage with her , Savita knows their history , how madly her son is in love ..She has seen everything . ..If you don't accept her then don't be so angry if yoru son is disappointed about it ...
can't have everything in life our way all the time ..OK ,if you hate her so much tell your son .Please live seperately ...You come and see me at times , and the times yo usee your bahu just try be civil for your son't sake ....
What is more important ...The love for your son or the hate for your bahu ....Sowmya I wan tSavita to be happy again and live in her home in a dignified manner with her son ...That is why I am saying all this ...
Even if "A" might have been the best person in the world. Savita knows that she will have to accept Archana, but cant she take some time? Cant she be a mother to Manav in the meantime? Maybe even if Damodar had supported her instead of Archana always, I dont think Savita would have hated Archana so much. But here,both her husband and her son are constantly telling her you should accept her, you should be like her, you're not good enough. Do you think it's unnatural that Savita hates Archana in this case.
I don't agree with her reasons for hating Archana but I am trying my best to understand her reasons for hating her ...still I think savita way over did it ....
And yes, manav and damodar to ohave played their part in putting savita down and bringing up Archana ...The y handled it badly ..Vandita was handling it right but she is hardly there ....
It is totally natural-it is definitely misdirected, Archana is not at fault here-but she is the one who Savita is being constantly compared to.
I have to say it is a rather complicated situation and very true to life ..Should be interesting to see how all this unfolds ..we here may have different point of views but are surely having a nice time discussing all this ....😆
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