1. We have all agreed that homosexuals need not be impotent or sterile. They are very much capable of reproducing with opposite sex. But the problem is they do not have any affection for opposite sex. It will be a completely mechanical process. They'll have sex like machines. To a gay, sleeping with a woman would be akin to a straight guy sleeping with another guy. Now the question beneath this question is whether reproduction is the ultimate objective of marriage? I don't think so. Putting in simple words, Marriage is a bond of two people who feel that they are consensually compatible with each other and wish to spend their lives with each other. Unless we bring in religious interpretation, no modern law requires married couples to bear children or even be parents (by adopting). So I don't see any reason behind denying Homosexuals the right to marry according to their preferences.
2. It might seem odd to you, but there's no evidence suggesting that homosexual sex is exclusively infectious or injurious. Sodomy or anal sex is performed even by heterosexual couples. Kama Sutra is not a religious text. Its based on pure science and that text had provisions for anal or oral sex for both Heterosexuals and Homosexuals. I believe, and I think I am not incorrect, that any sort of sex - be it vaginal, anal or oral, is infectious if practiced in unsafe ways. Previously it was a myth that homosexuality is a sole cause of HIV. But that too was disproved by research. Everyone - be it hetero couples or homo couples - is equally vulnerable to HIV if they are careless.
3. Please don't suggest that homosexuals are unrealistic or that they don't know to live with reality. They are far more realistic and self sufficient than I and you can even hope to be. We can't even imagine how much pain they endure every second. And yet they live in this world, being different from rest of the crowd, with hardly anyone understanding, let alone supporting, them. Everyone, including their family, raises eyebrows at them, friends and neighbours laugh and deride them and shoo them away as if they carry some dirty contagious disease, they are barred from religious places, even the in the films and TV serials (made by so-called educated directors) they are presented as ridiculous comic characters fit to be made fun of. Can you possibly imagine their plight? Do you think you would lead a better life if you had been in their place? The best we can do for them is make their lives a bit better - give them a status as equals; as humans and allow them to live with their desirable partners who will completely understand them without segregating them from the society.
4. I have said myriad times, homosexuality can never be a wrong influence. This is merely a conservative social ideal and not a scientific fact. In many countries people/government allow public kissing, open discussion of sex lives, even nudity. But in countries like ours, we claim that all this will have wrong influence on us and hence these are criminal offence in our nation. We forget that in India, the world's first and most detailed sex-literature was written even before most other modern religions and faiths were founded. In Indian society, not just homosexuality, but public snogging, open discussion of sexuality and even nudity in art and architecture were very much prevalent. And in those days, India was World's largest and most prosperous nation.
5. A blind man sees through his ears and a deaf man listens through his eyes and a lame man walks with his hands. Every weakness is naturally substituted by a strength. So do not be so rash in deciding what is norm and what is unnatural. Every being created by nature with some intrinsic properties have some or the other purpose. Yeah their traits might be different from the majority and people might have difficulty in understanding them, but that need not mean that they are unnatural or abnormal.
6. Lastly, I see the only possible way to remove these narrow misconceptions in our society is Sex Education from an early age. Students from an early age needs to be educated about human sexual behaviour and orientation so that by adolescence they know about what they are going to face. Half-knowledge and myths shall always lead to a conservative and restrictive atmosphere which would have no place for liberal ideas. But unfortunately our pseudo-secular leaders who are more interested in pleasing various religious groups for vote banks rather than working for a better and worthier nation, will always be shy to implement this.
As the mother in that wonderful story said, its not our job to decide what is 'normal' and what is not. Our job is to help them lead a better life and be a good human.
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