India in 2020 - Do You Buy This Image? - Page 6

Originally posted by: Believe

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Because she prefers to control the gene pool like the rest of us here on DM. She'd rather go for unknown gene pool and take her chances than settle down for a sure shot crappy one.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

You know Angel, sometimes you really remind me a lot of me. This whole don't want to get married etc. Some of it is so me.

When it comes to raising kids, I don't think married, single, age or anything matter. There are traditional conventional families that do a terrible job and raise messed up, unstable kids. But there are single moms and dads, teen parents, older parents etc who do an incredible job. Sometimes when the parents cannot be there for some reason sometimes siblings, relatives, neighbors etc also step up to the job of child rearing.

The most important thing when it comes to raising kids the most important thing is that the person/persons raising the child are mature, responsible, committed and ready for it. Responsibility means a lot of emotional, but social and fiscal responsibility too. They need undivided attention and sometimes other aspects of life get put on hold.

If a person is ready and is at a place in life where they can successfully raise kids, then by all means they should go for it. Some people in society tend to look down on single parents even if they are adoptive parents. If someone is a good parent, I don't think society should judge, especially when someone gives a child a home they might not have had otherwise. Actually, married or not ? I'm a huge supporter of adoption. More people should consider adopting orphans. But I do understand blood bonds and the sense of ones own child, especially carrying the child for moms ? so I get and respect why couples have a priority to conceive.

Personally, I hate the thought of carrying and pushing bowling balls. Technically fetuses are parasites. If I ever have kids, they will all be adopted. Or Angie can just gift me babies. 😆

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

I think what she means to say is that you never know when you might fall in love. You might adopt a child one day, and the few years down the road meet someone you want to marry and spend your life with. Hopefully, that person is comfortable with and accepting of your adopted child. Sometimes people are just not comfortable with adoptions, its challenging. If you can work it out great. However, you have to realize that once you make a commitment to a child, you might need to make sacrifices ? that could be giving up someone you love because they are not ready to be a parent or be part of your family. If you have a child and marry the wrong person ? it can be devastating for a child. Children are not emotionally stable and mature, if the grown ups in the household are not ready to work through challenges ?children can develop depression, aggression and other issues. Many divorcees, widows/widowers, teen parents, adoptive/foster parents face challenges dating and finding a future spouse because children take priority in their lives

Originally posted by: Angel-likeDevil

I agree with everything you said but the last line, can you please elaborate? I once read one of the posts on this section I guess, I think they were you're posts that said "fetuses are parasites"....

It got me wondering if fetuses are really parasites. I mean, they grow inside a human, they just "happen" as a by-product of love-making between two people whether called or uncalled for. And they make the pregnant lady suffer through morning-sickness, etc and other traumatic complications which can occur like in my mom's case when she was totally destroyed because I was inhabiting her tummy.

And after being born, babies are totally dependent on the "hosts" because of the way they are. One thing that completely blew my mind was when I realised how I needed my mom or dad when I was suffering in pain or for other needs, inspite of being 16 years old... I somehow felt like a parasite that makes use of parents for it's own needs.

Love happens between child-parent, but that's again a different issue.

Fetuses is are parasites is just one of my bizarre analogies. I'll let people make their judgement how tongue-in-cheek that is - or what a heartless soulless beast I am.

By definition a parasite is an organism that benefits from the host. A fetus is a parasite because it is an organism within the womb depending on the host for life, nutrition etc. Many children do continue to be a parasite for a long time.

However, ask a mom or even dads - they wont view their kids as parasites. There is a bond of love, compassion, caring that makes even the thought of such an analogy something horrifying. Ultimately, parent-child relationships even at the stage of fetus is a complex social emotional relationship that cannot be defined in any scientific terms. Its purely defined by the feelings of the parents which cannot be expressed in any words really.

My analogy was conceived out of my pro-choice sentiments. For many women who are not ready for a child, who accidentally happen to get pregnant - that fetus will be a parasite. Some form the beautiful mother-child bond, but many others will always view it as a reflection of a mistake, an accident, a poor choice - something they are just not ready to live with. I support the choice in these situations.

But I've had this argument so many times on this forum some people are just rolling their eyes and glaring - I think.....😆no I promise I wont deviate more. I'll keep mum. 😃

Zip!

Originally posted by: blue-ice

who in their right mind would think that adopting and showering an orphan with love will be bad.....the only thing is that you should be ready to give unconditional love to that child no matter what....u should be ready for the responsibility that comes with raising a child.......BTW when I was young I used to think like u...never to get married....infact I had a discussion with Mr. K on one of the threads how I didn't want to marry but in the end I had to...........but that was 19 years ago......I was young then and my thinking was a lot different...........but I know one thing that if my kids don't want to get married .........I will never force them..........I hate when people say that marriage and kids should be the final goal of ones life...........our life should be meaningful..........shaadi or no shaadi....kids or no kids......shouldn't matter....

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

So G ' what parts of the article do you buy or not buy?

Dont bother G then - she would be coping with old life crisis!!! jking....😆...

Originally posted by: blue-ice

ya right ...G would be facing old life crises then...but aapki ghadi(clock) kya ulti chal rahi hai Benjamin Button ki tarah😆

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