Has A Father Wronged His Daughter?

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Aparna

@*dewdrop~pearl*

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Posted: 15 years ago

Has A Father Wronged His Daughter?

I know lot of people here might be confused with Suhana's dad's decision and might even be thinking wasn't it irresponsible of him to choose a guy like Ishaan for his daughter inspite of knowing his daughter's nature, behaviour, upbringing, lifestyle and standard of living. Dint he ever consider how Suhana would adjust in such a middle class joint family?

This is how I have analysed Suhana's dad and his actions...

He has always been shown as an emotional and loving person, more than a materialistic person. The way he still misses his wife who passed away 15-20 years back, the way he never fell in love with anyone else after that or thought of remarrying, the way he always keeps talking to his wife's photo when he is happy or sad as if she is listening to him, then the way he loves both his daughters, the way he tolerates Suhana's tantrums even if she crosses limits (only an extremely loving, caring, understanding, tolerant father & ego less MAN can do this). So from all this we realise he has always attached importance to EMOTIONS, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS in life. Maybe for the past 20 years, he would have always looked at happy familiies and envied them for the love they share, since that is what is missing in his life. Even though he has always satisfied all the materialistic needs of his children, he always seemed doubtful about himself whether he has been able to give his daughters everything in life (the way he talks to his wife's photo whether he is doing the right thing for his daughters). So consciously & subconsciously he knows the only thing he has not been able to give his kids is LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS.

Being a father, he knew Suhana was a sensitive girl and she always missed her mother and mother's love since childhood, even today. Thus since the time Suhana's mother passed away, as a father he would have always dreamed of his daughters' life filled with this one thing that he was never able to fulfil much - LOVE, LOVE & MORE LOVE!

Then finally when he actually met the Kashyap family who would have been a 'dream family' in his perception & desires, as a father he was so mesmerized by their simplicity, love & togetherness, he realised he finally FOUND just what he needed for his sensitive daughter - A LOVING FAMILY.

But unfortunately, when he was fulfilling all his daughter's desires, he dint realise his daughter had become more materialtic & gave more preference to external beauty. His dreams were shattered when he realised his daughter thought differently from him. He made a mistake in understanding his daughter's preference, he thought she also thought the way he did about MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS.

Then when Suhana never contributed towards groom selection and kept telling her dad that she is confident of him, he thought he was doing the right thing. He even kept asking her every now and then whether she is happy with the marriage, and she kept replying 'i'm fine dad'. Had Suhana told him beforehand that she dint want to marry Ishaan, even though he liked Ishaan, he wouldn't have forced Suhana.

Even today, though Suhana's dad is confident about Ishan and his family, sometimes he is still doubtful & confused thinking whether he made the right decision for his daughter, especially after hearing bitter words from Suhana about her father's choice of husband for her, and how her father has disappointed her!

So from my POV, I can totally understand Suhana's dad's actions as he just did what he THOUGHT was best for his daughter 😊.

Edited by *dewdrop~pearl* - 15 years ago

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vishmewell

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Posted: 15 years ago

Appu, you jotted everything is beautifully there's nothing much to add other than to accept and confirm your analysis.

KK did not realize his daughter has become very materialistic. When Ishaan visited KK for pug-phere, he was constantly trying to confirm his judgment about Ishaan from Sanjana. He is a shaken father all worried about his daughter and guilty for causing problems in Kashyap family.

Beautiful analysis Appu!!! 👏👏👏👏

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@-RD-

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Posted: 15 years ago

@ topic starter - Very well written , and i do agree with u cause once children grow up and have their own ideas they seem to hv a clash of views and expectations with their parents ....same is the case with suhana.....though on a personal level i believe that my parents know the best for me and will always do what will be the best for me .......

Suhana like most people her age is in a candyfloss world where she dreams of a husband who in all probability is like some hero of a film ....Mr Perfectt !!! .Her judging parameters for a perfect lifepartner are superfluous and are in no way going to help her relationship in the longrun where as her fathers parameters of judging a lifepartner for her have been based on core values of the person and not superfluous and frivolous things .......

Parameters and right kind of judgment comes with age and experience i guess and i guess suhana doesnt possess either .....where as her dad does...so i think he has thought well for his daughter ..........

On a side note i will always wanted to get married to a guy of my parents choice but what happened was totally the opposite but the saving grace was that my fiance took my parents approval before he put forth the proposal to me ......

-Pooja

Edited by rdfan - 15 years ago

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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

wonderful post...totally agree each and evry word of yours...

KK became confident that he has chosen the right person when suhaana said she trusts him...

i think both the father and the daughter din understand each other...father din realize how much materialiustic the daughter has become and the daughter din realize how simple her father was...

but i would like to compliment KK on his character as topicstarter said...he is a very rich man...but still he is down to earth...the one scene that really made me understand him is the scene where he first meets ishaan's family...he kept saying it was his mistake the accident happened...and the way he told ishaan that he is not going to drive scooter and first he will take him to the doctor...that showed hpw much caring he is....

i would just say...suhaana's father din make any mistake...he has chosen the right guy for suhaana...hope suhaana understnads her father....ilike when he said...he actually also spoiled the life o a family bcos of his decision...he thinks bout everyone...

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BeOptimistic

@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

Appu...... tune beautiful analysis kiya hai yaar.......👏

Firstly since this thread is for the character of Suhana's dad..... I would like to state I am a fan of Mahesh Thakkur.....I have watched his mature roles from the Sailaab days....again an understanding dad in Bidaai.... he goes on to give such life to the roles he plays....... I love to watch a serial which starts with him as he kind of gives me a positive vibe to be glued to the serial......so that's for Mahesh thakkur....👏

Appu..... I agree with all here.... especially liked pooja's statement ....the perspective is different when one goes ahead with the marraige matter.... Suhana's perspective did not match with that of her dad... she was never open about her own perspective to him and went ahead with it to just prove herself to be marraige material..... So i guess she is on the right track to prove herself to be one in the long run to come.... Well... it is more of a challenge for her now though it is not shown directly so.... How she handles the creeping of other members in the family for AC and disrupting her privacy are all going to be small ways of initiating the challenges she will need to face.....

So her dad though took the decision of marrying off Suhana without considering the status concept before....he is not wrong ..He feels strong that Ishaan and his family members can mould her well....👍🏼

Edited by laxmi_s - 15 years ago

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mj_applehead

@mj_applehead

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Posted: 15 years ago

i have a different POV.i dont think its wrong to be materialistic.when ur given everythin u asked from childhood till ur marriage and ur pampered like suhana was,its obvious their standard of living and their desires will be different from the middle class family.and it is possible to find love even in rich families and guys...not every rich guy is like sid.u just have to find a right guy..

its not realistic that a rich parent would even think of marrying his daughter to someone like ishaan who's standard of living is way below.am talking of all this from experience so i know how it is when u go from luxurious living standards to small middle class household.u wont be able to adjust.its just not possible.

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BeOptimistic

@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

Suhana's case is a bit different compared to a girl used to high standards of living. She never got a complete family and all the love showered on her by her father made Suhana a pampered child... I do agree she will def. find it difficult to adjust in Ishaan's house and is very naturally a human tendency.....As a matter of fact, every bride goes through these initial discomfort to get adjusted to the husband's house norms even otherwise...here it is more highlighted due to differences in standard of living....

Her dad gave her option to stay back..... which Suhana could have practically accepted as it is just these luxuries she is missing out in Ishaan's house and also hates the crowd..... Yet, she did not accept.....This goes to say that though her dad had not considered the living standards factor in the marraige....he presumed she deserves that family for the bonding they share..... This was the first family he was impressed completely with as is being shown..... otherwise even previously considered proposals with better standards of living cases had bombed when it came to Suhana....

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Aparna

@*dewdrop~pearl*

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: rishi_ganga
i have a different POV.i dont think its wrong to be materialistic.when ur given everythin u asked from childhood till ur marriage and ur pampered like suhana was,its obvious their standard of living and their desires will be different from the middle class family.and it is possible to find love even in rich families and guys...not every rich guy is like sid.u just have to find a right guy..

its not realistic that a rich parent would even think of marrying his daughter to someone like ishaan who's standard of living is way below.am talking of all this from experience so i know how it is when u go from luxurious living standards to small middle class household.u wont be able to adjust.its just not possible.

Here the topic is not about whether it is right or wrong to be materialistic. The topic is about the attitude and intention behind Suhana's dad's selection of Kashyap family for Suhana. We all know it was absurd that Suhana's dad selected a middle class joint family for Suhana, considering the kind of upbringing and lifestyle Suhana had. Even Suhana's dad himself is doubtful whether he made the right decision. But this is exactly what I have analysed in this thread - the real reason & mindset behind Suhana's dad's decision.

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Smriti

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Posted: 15 years ago

Suhana's dad saw a very decent, loving and caring family in the Kashyaps and he got completely sold on that.

He figured sending Suhana into a relationship-rich family would fill in the gaps in Suhana's life. I feel he completely underestimated the impact of the standard of living of this family compared to Suhana's upbringing.

He is beginning to realize what he did may not be without flaws, so he seeks reassurance from Sanjana. Everytime he meets Ishaan it confirms his initial response to the basic goodness of Ishan's family and Ishan himself.