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I did not watch the episode fully due to workie-workie and deadline ki talwaar hanging on my head but whatever I caught of it - I have just two things to say.
1. Riddhima can never ever repay the goodness, kindness and compassion of Shashank and Sid. The least I say about her and her treatment of the two , the better it is.
2. Sid-Yuvi-Naina -JP-Jiggy. My post is about them and a small effort to understand the clay feet of human relationships when the time comes to rise to the occasion.
So, today , like always both in reel life and real life - a group of friends refused to even listen , forget believing that what their ostracized friend had to say.
Riddhima accused Sid of rape on All India Radio and all eyes narrowed in his direction in a disgusting fashion. It is alright. Expected. Human beings are human beings, victims of the shortcomings of mortal nature - so it was okay if they doubted Sid. It is a natural reaction seeing a woman go so hysterical and shattered over a sexual attack even if it is hallucinated.
But wait a minute.
When we are accused and blamed for something that we have not even done , who is the first person you expect to come running and envelope you into a bear hug? Who is the first person you want to throw your arms around and cry that 'I didn't do it, please believe me.' ? Who is the first person you believe will make everything okay by taking your hand and saying that they understand? - Your family and friends.
Sid is all alone . He has no family here and the only people he can fall back on are Yuvi, Naina , JP and Jiggy - his friends, the only people he gathers in a group hug. Today , they let him down - a second time round. Again. I don't expect anything from Riddhima and the likes as far as fair justice for this man is concerned because she is an outsider who doesn't know what kind of a man Sid is....... but his friends? They have been with him for so long - seen him , known him , been with him - don't they know what Sid is made of?
And I guess..... Real Life relationships are no different either.
Our friends - most of them and most of the time end up letting us down when we need them the most. They punch us in the gut when we least expect them to . They fall short of our humble human expectations and as we look at them in shock , they either hang their heads in embarrassed helplessness or just look away saying that they are sorry - they couldn't be there for you. It hurts and it is terrible - I have known people who have married twice over but.... but never made a friend again in life after being betrayed once. That is the extent upto which a man or a woman has a capability of hurting you.
It is not that all your friends out there are vile cobras who live only to play kitchen politics with you and demolish you. No. It is just that they end up being victims of mortal nature - sometimes due to a behavioural drawback , a basic humane courage deficiency , insensitivity , lack of both IQ and EQ, inferior love and trust , our friends fail in their basic moral duty towards us.
We get hurt - confront them , fight with them , pack our bags and go out of their lives. And in case we don't tell them what paper roses they have been , we continue paralysed friendships , clinking champagne glasses , getting pictures clicked but there is NO HEART in those friendships. You stop caring from within and you will never go running to wipe their tears at 3.30am ever again.
Faith , love and healing are an emotional need of any relationship and it evolves the most beautifully in friendship because friends are those kinds of people - whom you accept and hug as they are without setting red lines like in other bonds. And the day you realize that your friends did not stand by you because their suspicion won over their faith in you , their impulsive emotional reaction won over their love for you - you are shattered and you never smile at a stranger again.
Yuvi, Naina, JP and Jigster should not have believed everything in case Sid told them what happened - that would have been blind faith. But that they did not listen to him at all , did not shake him up and ask him what happened - that is being BLIND. This is just a serial- tomorrow they all will be partying again. But if it was real life , then, Sid would have never believed in friendship again , no matter what.
We may forget what our friends said or even what they did - but we will never forget how they made us feel at that heartbreaking moment.
The best thing is to be emotionally independent and understand that everything is rosy today - these are my friends, i love them- but tomorrow can be different - they can hurt me, I can hurt them - not that we are fickle , it is just that we are mortal. At the end of the day..... I am my own friend. Rest is just a walk in the clouds and am smiling through as long as it lasts.
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