What if you married a schizophrenic?

we usually dont think that this kind of things can happen in life, but the truth is that it does.

This is the definition of Schizophrenia:

A mental illness in which the person suffers from distorted thinking, hallucinations, and a reduced ability to feel normal emotions.
one of the most complex of all mental health disorders; involves a severe, chronic, and disabling disturbance of the brain.

My question to you all is that what if the person you married is schizophrenic? What would you do?

This actually happned to my cousin resently. She had an arranged marrage. she is in india, a total village girl and the guy is from US. He has schizophrenia and his family never told her about his illness. She found out the night of her wedding. Every girl has dreams of the perfect wedding day. Instead her husbund took some injections and pills and went to sleep without even talking to her and she stayed up all night crying. Sometimes he dosent even know who she is. Her life is completely messed up. She dosent know what to do now. He is back in US and she is in India. She dosent wnat to spend her whole life like this, but she feels that she dosent have a choice. If she stays in india then ppl gossip will kill her and if she goes to US she will be completely dippressed.She also feels bad for the guy but she is more angry because they cheated her and basically runed her life.

So the question is what would you do? Would you end the merrage? Would you stay married because you have to make it work knowing there is no future?

Geez, I for one wouldn't marry any random XYZ person. I dont believe in arranged marriages.

Uma's aprents should have been a little more understanding towards her. To an extend , she had been pressurized into marriage , by her mother in particular, since "rishta achay ghar se tha...uff!! 😕 😡 "

hi..in my opinion,arranged marriage is not bad atall...because ur parents r responsible for wht has happened...i would say its her parents/relatives fault who has done it without even talking to the person she is going to marry...they r giving their daughter in marriage forever...isnt it?mustn't they see their son-in-law?i would say its the parents fault..my parents would never have given my marriage to such a person..whom they havent seen or talked for a single while...but ultimately iss abhagan ko sehena padega..i know how difficult it must be for her...but its not that u cant do anything...she shudnt live like this...usse talak dilbao...orelse usse kaam main engage kaardo..taaki woh relaxx kaar sake...wahan nahin rakho jahan logon kii tanne zindegi bhar sunne...thats wht i mean to say..in this whole episode she is not responsible..so why shud she suffer....let her live buddy...wht r her in-laws saying...tell them to put her into some business or work...so that she will be engaged for a little while....anywayz..thanks for sharing...take appropriate decision...my sympathy is with her.....hope everything will be fine.

I am really sorry to hear your cousin's situation, but I guess this is what we call: DESTINY. Anytime anything bad happen to us, first thing we do is try to find fault in other. As Sushmita said its her parents fault not her fault because it is an arranged marriage, but parents didn't just closed their eyes when they arranged the marriage. Her In-Laws didn't tell them anything. An pld saying is: Everything that glitters is not gold. Parents think that may be we are the happiest parents because our daughter is married in Rich family and she will be migrated to US. But parents cannot see the hell in front of their daughter. Its your cousin's destiny that brought everything together. It meant to be like that. Id you believe in KARMA then its is pur KARMA. But one thing for sure I can tell you that the day your cousin stop blaming herself and her parents for this situation and throw everything on God's feet, believe me, HE will look after everything. We should not lose hope. If tonight is dark, tommorrow will be another bright sunny morning. Its hard to deal with at the beginning, but slowly LORD will show her the light.
Sorry if I hurt anybody'd feelings. I didn't mean to hurt you but I had spent 5 years of struggle and finally GOD gave me so much courage and strength; now I live each and every day with no complains. We must accept the life as it comes to us. This is the easiest way out of it.

Thank you all for your replyes and sympathy

Good Topic! 👏 Firstly, I would'nt get married. If I were to get married then I would have to know the whole history of the person and moreover I don't beleive in arranged marriages. If I were in the girls place then there would be only 2 options, one is to run away and the other is to get the person to the right track. I don't think I have so much patience to get the person to the right track so probably I would run away because of frustration and depression.

Well..I feel so sorry for yr cousin. If she is not comfortable, then she better get seperated. Society and relations around us is all bull shit yaar. Its her life and she should decide.

if I come acroos such a situation, then I will talk to my husband's doctor and first know what r the symptoms and how serious it is. If I am sure that it is not dangerouns to me, then I might consider working over it...helping him out or something. its not as easy as I say though...but if I believe that its not my husband's fault, and if I know that he is not dangerous to me..then I might not want tp break up.

Coming to yr cousin's situation...when he husband is in the US..then he must be working somewhere....which means that he is intelelgent and is like a normal person most of the times. Schizophrania is not a disease in most cases...its upto how she feels...which is important.

Great replies !!

I agree with you Vinny rams - Its very logical to get separated rather than lead a life that one does not like

Neelam, destiny does play its part, but individuals efforts count too!!!

I think the cousin should know better and make an effort with medications, environment etc. If it does not work out, take a bold step and God be with her anyways

i firstly dont believe in arrange marriages. but if my parents do choose a guy for me i will want 2 meet him nd get 2 know evrything about him becasue if get married 2 some random guy who i dont even know nd he turns out b wrong 4 me it'll b my lyf dats runied. nd as far as ur cousin is concerned she should so wat she feels is ryt if she thinks its better 4 her 2 stay wid da guy den she should nd if she thinks dat its best 2 leave da guy den she could do dat. but da only advice i can give her is hav faith in god. god has put her through a test nd he'll help her get through it aswell. dats all.

cheers 😊

Originally posted by: Tehzeeb

we usually dont think that this kind of things can happen in life, but the truth is that it does.

This is the definition of Schizophrenia:

A mental illness in which the person suffers from distorted thinking, hallucinations, and a reduced ability to feel normal emotions.
one of the most complex of all mental health disorders; involves a severe, chronic, and disabling disturbance of the brain.

My question to you all is that what if the person you married is schizophrenic? What would you do?

This actually happned to my cousin resently. She had an arranged marrage. she is in india, a total village girl and the guy is from US. He has schizophrenia and his family never told her about his illness. She found out the night of her wedding. Every girl has dreams of the perfect wedding day. Instead her husbund took some injections and pills and went to sleep without even talking to her and she stayed up all night crying. Sometimes he dosent even know who she is. Her life is completely messed up. She dosent know what to do now. He is back in US and she is in India. She dosent wnat to spend her whole life like this, but she feels that she dosent have a choice. If she stays in india then ppl gossip will kill her and if she goes to US she will be completely dippressed.She also feels bad for the guy but she is more angry because they cheated her and basically runed her life.

So the question is what would you do? Would you end the merrage? Would you stay married because you have to make it work knowing there is no future?

ewwwwww..Thts so sad

i wonder how she is still alive..thts for sure a BIG BIG mental shock...😭

I would never marry anyone i dunt know..

i will marry a person i know

& i hope tht i will make a Good decision