Maybe its all of the above or maybe its not. Damon is not easy to comprehend because he doesn't talk. He doesn't talk about what hits him , what hurts him , what moves him. Nothing. He hides every ounce of his feelings - be it for Stefan or Elena or himself - in bubble baths , champagne and tall glasses of bubbly. You can't really say what is going on inside Damon at this point when he has lost Stefan to Klaus and is trying to take care of Elena and maybe everything , including himself. But two scenes in this episode - with Stefan and Damon alone in Stefan's room , ravaging it gave away the chinks in his armour.
I know many people thought it was Damon's dark sarcy humour when he just sensed Stefan , without even seeing him and smirked at him - you don't call, you don't write. Yes, he was smirking but he didn't have to say those words. He could have said something much worse or crude looking at what Stefan has become. But no. Damon used these words and it shows that Damon misses Stefan's presence in his life. A time when Damon and Stefan were beginning to rediscover what they had lost - when they were beginning to bury the dark behind them and above all , standing up for each-other and trusting each-other. A time when Damon had his 'family' back - BOOM! Suddenly , all that mending work was lost with one werewolf bite and one suicidal sacrifice. Of course it hits Damon that Stefan is no longer around him - not lurking around the house , not making plans with him , not talking to him and not sermonizing him. That 'You don't call, you don't write' came from that lonely elder brother who should be hopping around Elena now that Stefan is gone. But that is not Damon's character. Elena is with him , around him but Damon is spending his life trying to look for Stefan , tracking his every move , hoping against hope that Stefan can be brought back. And i refuse to belive the surface fact that he is doing it for Elena. No. He is doing it for himself and his little brother.
Secondly , when Damon entered Stefan's room , totally zonked by what he had seen of Stefan , he was ravaged by thrashing feelings and an emotional upheavel of hatred , guilt , remorse , frustration and pain. He feels guilty because he thinks that he is responsible for Stefan's state. Its not his fault that a werewolf bite with a dollop of a sexy Klaus twisted his and Stefan's destiny . But how do you live with the feeling that somebody is dying so that you can live. Somebody has gone and dived into darkness just so that nobody takes away the light from you? And in Damon's case , this 'somebody' happens to be his Stefan. Damon can't blow his nose into tissues or let out that sinking feeling to anyone and he can't afford to be weak either. Every day , ever second, he lives with the hammering thought that Stefan sold himself to Klaus for him. Somewhere he feels that Stefan is lost because of him and he must find him. But he cannot voice any of this. The anger that resulted in ravaging of Stefan's room was at Damon's own helplessness and Stefan's refusal to take any help. Just look at Damon's face when he is unable to break that guitar and stands over the lamp. Its his realization and accepted anxiety that what if Stefan , as in good Stefan delves so deep into the monster inside him that Damon never sees him again? And how is Damon supposed to help or save Stefan if Stefan refuses to be saved?
You know what showed Damon's love for Stefan in this episode? That entire route map and tracking of Stefan that Damon has been doing for months without fail and it doesn't even concern Elena. That Damon destroyed Stefan's room in an emotional lurch because he can't deal with this slap from Klaus that he has taken Stefan away from him. That the first thing Damon tells Stefan upon seeing him is-" You don't call , you don't write."
Ironic, isn't it? Damon always used to tease, ridicule and jibe at Stefan for being weak , for not accepting the devil inside him and for being a apology in the name of the vampire. And today when Stefan has become what Damon always wanted him to be , Damon can't deal with this version of Stefan for more than 5 miliseconds. Fate and its really dark sense of humour delivered to Damon.
We can scream Stelena , Delena and the blah because of that universal pull towards a man-woman's love and its tests. But lets admit it . TVD's greatest and deepest relationship is THE SALVATORES. A story of two brothers who were , who are and who will always live in each-other - in love , in hatred , in life , in death and beyond it.
Love and luck always,❤️
GOD bless everyone. 🤗