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Posted: 9 years ago

guys... no misunsderstanding absolutely pls. we all are matured here and many of us married..

ok..coming to the point...well cricket is soul of dharas life. it is her oxygen. so for a while lets keep pt of Mihir Dhara on lines of cricket. ok !

else otherwise friends do u all find Mihir really sooo bad? i mean we dont knowwhat next in store but she is narrating story...But dont you all play his minor bads' are very much hyped and exagerated ??? I mean yes fair enough he has kind of dual nature also owing to his PR role... lets say point he said battery down when her fathers phone came..ok.. Friends..come on kya aaplogon ke husbands towards our maaykawaleys and visa vis does not happen ? many a times each dont want to that minute mood to talk so they mildly bluff off. next...do spouses not check at times each others mobile phone etc when just in some doubt. Come on we all trust but still...hota hai...Then...he doesnt like that next door lady smething like that alwaaays poping their house..

I mean ...my hubby also wont like alll time smone like that nor do i would like his any friend datwy popping in everytime...!

My point here is to say that...we hv serials like Saathiya; YHM which are worst and surely not real life situation type so ths serials we will just see enjoy comment and finish. They are absolute horrible ones...itna sab khoon jail day to day lafda hota nahin.

But serial like tamana...it is very close to real life ways ..so what i say is will unnecesary over stressing on mihirs bad points would not put serious heads on application in our lives...? Its quiet a possibility ??
Someone said what kind of mihirs parents are? They dont lnow him ?
Tell me guys how many of your parents in forum know what all u do and what all you write on forum :; whatsapp ; FB bla bla...

My ultimate say Hope mihirs small small points Should not be deeply and pshycicly exagerated

It could unnecesary ...lead lot of misunderstanding in
The minds of real life couples.

(Husbands do joke abt their wives with their friends; wives
Do talk gossip abt their husbands and inlaws wit their friends or their
Mothets . .)

So it needs to be v carefully discussed also...

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SStephy

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Posted: 9 years ago

The thing is Mihir is actually scheming and manipulating. Him faking his leg injury or asking his colleague to lie to his wife about having low bp... all these cannot be considered as small flaws or white lies. If he cannot be honest with his wife then what is the point? Yes, the lying about phone battery charge or checking Dharaa's phone can be brushed off as minor mistakes. But if a person fakes injuries or health issues to their spouse, then there is something seriously wrong in that relationship and it is difficult to maintain a relationship with such a person... there will always be suspicions and distrust.

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Posted: 9 years ago

helo S.Stephy & all others who hit like button for Stephys'-alone points... No issues. ok correct those are grave distrusts lying of low bp and injury fake on leg. v v bad correct...But plsss mark and pay some heeed to my points also...people started making biggg doubt on battery low excuse and some other v minor points and also he not liking constantly appearing next door gal in (at times) vulgar attires..

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croziaxx

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Posted: 9 years ago

may be some where u r right, people like Mihir r exist in the society and their partner and relatives live with him without complain but is not easy, problem is he is a big liar.. though he doesn't like cricket he gave permission for it not because his concept has changed but he want to keep her in his control he could say to her ' look i m not like it and after marriage u have to leave it he always knew that Dhara is not like that girl whom he want to marry she is not typical ganw ki ladhki but he did hid her true face and told her that my parents will not like it .. but reality is his parents r ok with that, his mom told to dhara if mihir is ok then they have no problem. he could have said to her before marriage that i m not like it if my wife play cricket i like typical house wife , might be if he said such as to her, dhara could have made some other decision .but no he gave her false hope .

basically he is self center and egoistic person he first think about himself then others he doesn't respect to anybody without reason ex in office he left to say sir to his old boss when he come to know that his new boss is about to arrive .. he told to his junior that he doesn't care if his old boss going or die, somewhere he is ruthless, he challenged to his colleague unnecessary .. he want to impress his boss at any cost .. in this process he will do whatever he can do ..he is image builder and he use his professional ability in the home he always making plan a,b, or c he think he can manage everything .. he is not honest with any body not even himself .. i think its very difficult to live with this kind of person about whom u cant say anything with certainty.

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kavita

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Posted: 9 years ago

Mihir got attracted to Dhara the first time he saw her. He gave her the false hopes only to get her yes. He says something and does something else. That is how people working in a corporate company are! They don't have 2 faces but multiple faces and they use them to get their things done. Mihir is one of them. Even if he makes a mistake, he successfully covers them up.

When Dhara went with Mihir on a date, Mihir caused a loss for that Gola wala and gave a reason about his friend to Dhara.

Secondly, when Deepak called Dhara while they were in Eden Gardens, Mihir told him that battery is low. The lie might be small but sometimes even that makes a big difference.

Mihir took her to the cricket ground and allowed her to practice. He also brought the best bat for her with Deepak's help but faked about his health to Dhara when it matters the most. She had to leave that important match because of him.

Now, when Dhara is going to face the male fast bowlers, Mihir told her to stay at home as his boss is going to come.

Mihir's parents are fine with Dhara playing cricket. It is only he who plays all these dirty games.

Mihir has only been too good to be true. He is a liar, self-centered and a possessive man who gives in one hand and takes it in other.

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AV25

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Posted: 9 years ago

Problem with mihir is his attitude and thinking. He expects people to act n behave according to him which is absolutely wrong and impractical on his part. His expectations on life partner was very clear to him and he was also aware that cricket is a very important part in her life and most importantly he saw that dharaa is not a submissive kind of woman and she will question when she sees anything wrong happening before her.

She is basically a strong woman who believes that trust, equality and mutual respect are very important in a relationship. Even after knowing everything about dharaa he projects himself as a very easy going guy with liberal thinking.

In other words he in fact cheated dharaa so no question of ignoring his so called minor mistakes. Those situations and mistakes show his real nature and thinking so one should analyse his nature and not how big or small is the mistake.

If one doesn't like any person or his/her dressing then one shouldn't say that he/she is characterless. No one has the right to call anybody characterless. And this is what mihir does in lavanya's matter. Whatever job she does or clothes she wear mihir is nobody to think or pass judgement about her character.

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Geetanjali Fan

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Posted: 9 years ago

<font size="3">guys... no misunsderstanding absolutely pls. we all are matured here and many of us married..</font>

ok..coming to the point...well cricket is soul of dharas life. it is her oxygen. so for a while lets keep pt of Mihir Dhara on lines of cricket. ok !

<font size="3">else otherwise friends do u all find Mihir really sooo bad? i mean we dont knowwhat next in store but she is narrating story...But dont you all play his minor bads' are very much hyped and exagerated ??? I mean yes fair enough he has kind of dual nature also owing to his PR role... lets say point he said battery down when her fathers phone came..ok.. Friends..come on kya aaplogon ke husbands towards our maaykawaleys and visa vis does not happen ? many a times each dont want to that minute mood to talk so they mildly bluff off. next...do spouses not check at times each others mobile phone etc when just in some doubt. Come on we all trust but still...hota hai...Then...he doesnt like that next door lady smething like that alwaaays poping their house..</font>

I mean ...my hubby also wont like alll time smone like that nor do i would like his any friend datwy popping in everytime...!

My point here is to say that...we hv serials like Saathiya; YHM which are worst and surely not real life situation type so ths serials we will just see enjoy comment and finish. They are absolute horrible ones...itna sab khoon jail day to day lafda hota nahin.

But serial like tamana...it is very close to real life ways ..so what i say is will unnecesary over stressing on mihirs bad points would not put serious heads on application in our lives...?

HELLO! I KNOW U R TAMANNA FAN AND I ALSO LIKE TAMANNA BUT PLZ DON'T ABUSE SAATHIYA

UNDERSTAND U BETTER UNDERSTAND

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: COOLJAZ

Trust me uuu rrr such a whhhackooo... who the hell is abusing saathiya here
I am diehard fan of SNS and hv bn watching from Day 0 u may hv not
Even been born then...r u crazy mad ?

Reead what i hv written
I hv said serials like SNS YHM hv things which are par beyond things that happen in
Real life...i used that to connect to reality normal routine types to Tamana household life.

U just whacko crack...🤣 😡

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Dolly-heart

@Dolly-heart

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Posted: 9 years ago

Good point about a sensitive discussion...

I can understand what you are trying to convey, but here the point is that Mihir is

doing all his manipulations from day one very consciously.

Mihir has not doubt that he wants what he wants is his way or the highway.

That is not only deceitful but downright dirty.

Yes, there are REAL life husbands that might do that , and it is a wife's job to clear the point with a truthful discussion of her likes and her freedom within their marriage.

If Mihir had made his intentions clear to Dharaa do you think she would have married him ? I doubt it.

Dharaa is the only one in this marriage that has been asked to make sacrifices while Mihir's idea of being married is ...you are here for my comfort and needs and your dreams and wants can go to hell. That is not fair or nice .

In a marriage if you let little thing go than they become big and if you do not have the freedom to honestly discuss with your partner, what upsets you and there is no clear communication without judgement than it is not a marriage of two loving and understanding couple but a clear "Dictatorship ".

And Dharaa did not go into her marriage with truth but a huge lie by the man that

manipulated her into thinking he was one kind of a man when in reality he was a complete fraud.

And husbands do joke about their wives but that too does not make it right.

It shows a lack of respect for the wife and also shows what the husband really thinks of his life partner.

Sorry for the long answer. Take Care.

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kavita

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: AV25
Problem with mihir is his attitude and thinking. He expects people to act n behave according to him which is absolutely wrong and impractical on his part. His expectations on life partner was very clear to him and he was also aware that cricket is a very important part in her life and most importantly he saw that dharaa is not a submissive kind of woman and she will question when she sees anything wrong happening before her.
She is basically a strong woman who believes that trust, equality and mutual respect are very important in a relationship. Even after knowing everything about dharaa he projects himself as a very easy going guy with liberal thinking.
In other words he in fact cheated dharaa so no question of ignoring his so called minor mistakes. Those situations and mistakes show his real nature and thinking so one should analyse his nature and not how big or small is the mistake.
If one doesn't like any person or his/her dressing then one shouldn't say that he/she is characterless. No one has the right to call anybody characterless. And this is what mihir does in lavanya's matter. Whatever job she does or clothes she wear mihir is nobody to think or pass judgement about her character.

They say that if a marriage is unsuccessful or breaks, both husband and wife are responsible for it. But Mihir-Dhara relationship is exceptional. Mihir has always been wrong be it home, be it office or even while going out. Dhara has always listened to him though she didn't like. Diwakar is a cricket fan and Dhara is a cricket player. So obviously they will be like-minded but Mihir doubts her when they talk freely with each other. If Dhara knew his reality before marriage, she would not have have accepted this proposal. Her only mistake was she forgave him for his behavior with that Gola Wala when they had gone for date. Her only mistake was that she didn't inform the family about it. Even if the mistakes looks to be minor, it does make a huge difference in the long run & that is what has happened.

Mihir wants to control Dhara as a puppet. He does not want her to meet Lavanya or anyone in the apartments as he is afraid that his secrets will come out in front of her & she will leave him.

Whatever dress Lavanya wears or whatever kind of life she lives, that is none of his business. Mihir has been insensitive towards Dhara & never thought from her point of view. He goes for work & is engaged all the time but what about Dhara? She does all the household chores which takes at the most 3 to 4 hours & she may watch little T.V if she finds some program interesting otherwise what she will do rest of the time? He has only been playing & toying with her feelings & emotions & utilized her for his selfish needs.

I doubt whether he even treats her as a human.

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