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Posted: 10 years ago
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I watched last 3 episodes of this show and observed few things.
The Gada family had decided to legally adopt khushi but after reading khushi's mother's letter,they changed their mind and decided to solve her problem and hand over khushi to her.Great!👍🏼After all that's what we wanted.
Next what do they do?They take khushi with them and roam around the city in search of her mother.What was the need for them to take khushi to take to the temple and to the hospital?They were roaming with her from afternoon till night without taking any milk or diapers.They could have left her with one of the ladies of the society.No wonder she was looking so tired.
In today's episode,khushi's mother,Surabhi's family didn't turn out to be as bad as I thought.They are narrow minded and conservative,i agree.Surabhi has a 7-8 years old daughter and looking at her,it didn't seem to me like she is being tortured or something.In fact she is being sent to school also so they are spending money in her education.What bhide didn't like was they were not ready to send her to tuitions.😆And the way bhide was reacting as if children get education only in tuitions and not in schools.😆According to bhide,they did not wanted to spend money in sending surabhi's elder daughter to tuitions that's why they are bad.😆This crackled me up!
Surabhi's mother in law's dialogue was hilarious.She said that "ladki zyada padhi likhi hui toh uske saath koi shaadi nahi karega."😲🤣I was like yeh log kis zamane ki baat kar rahe hain!🤪
Still it was not clear why did surabhi abandon her daughter.Unless and until they have threatened to kill khushi,she might not have taken such an extreme step.But why didn't she go to the police or take neighbor's help?
This serial shows fraudsters like gulabo filing fake cases but not people like Surabhi.
Anyways,looks like this track is going to end next week.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Funny my cousin took ages to get married because she wasn't working, nearly everyone was looking for extra income.

The family didn't seem that bad the girl was still being educated and when she's older she would probably rebel and do what she wants, get the feeling it was all surabhi's idea to abandoned kushi thinking she would have a better life outside the family seeing her first daughter's state.

They kept the first daughter, they would have kept the second one too.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Umm.. in the underprivileged classes Subha, educating a girl child is a bit problem because they don't manage to find a perfect match for her. It goes with the general notion that the wife is suppose to be less educated than her husband.
Bhide was always a problem. He think tuition class is the most important thing in the world. Same goes with the GD wasis. Remember the samman samaroh after Tappu sena results ?

About carrying Khusi everywhere,wasn't it a valid reason of not registering an offcial report? Khusi ro rahi hai, khusi thak gayi hai...😆
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: dey.bh

Umm.. in the underprivileged classes Subha, educating a girl child is a bit problem because they don't manage to find a perfect match for her. It goes with the general notion that the wife is suppose to be less educated than her husband.

Bhide was always a problem. He think tuition class is the most important thing in the world. Same goes with the GD wasis. Remember the samman samaroh after Tappu sena results ?

About carrying Khusi everywhere,wasn't it a valid reason of not registering an offcial report? Khusi ro rahi hai, khusi thak gayi hai...😆

But they ARE educating the gal.They are spending money in her education.When bhide kept on telling them to send her to tuitions,they started talking about how expensive the tuitions are nowadays(which is quite true) and what's the need to spend so much money on a gal and blah blah blah.
One thing was clear.They might not spend money in the gal's higher education.But the dialogue "nobody is going to marry her if she is well educated" was really 🤣
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Posted: 10 years ago
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One of my classmate got married when she was barely 16. We are expecting our board results when we saw her getting married. As per family's beliefs matriculation was enough qualification for a girl and they gave preference to matriculation because the pass certificate helps in identification.
Some families believe women should not be earning because it diminishes the role of men in a family. Girls therefore should be sent to school so tht they can count numbers that will help her running her family's monthly budget and she should be able to read and write letters. Spending more money on a son is like an investment. For a girl, its a waste for she will be sent to someone else's home

In some remote areas, there is a huge problem of co education. They will rather kill their daughters then to send them in a co- educational school. Girl school if any will be kilometers away. Following lack of communication many drop their education midway

In small towns and villages, girls are by birth 'mothers'. They will be looking after their young brothers and sisters on behalf of their mother. Who cares about education ?Also, lack of awareness will make a couple have at least 5 children. Who will pay for them all.

Then there are wide variety of socio- economical factors that leads to this problem.

As for this family, what they meant is the girl should hide her talents. She should never boast she is studying or anything. Her education should be limited. I believe the people of her community or at least most of them share the same mentality. You won't believe there are people who will treat the educated women as outcast. During the old days there used to prevail a superstition that a married women who will learn English will be widowed. I believe superstitions as such easily prevail in today's world too ,especially in a closed, orthodox community.Thus, this dialogue sounds pretty convincing to me.

In Savdhan India, a case was shown about a child bride. Her gauna was still awaiting and much against her parents and in-laws wish she went for her board exam . She was later beaten black and blue because her husband was a school drop out. Her parents-in-law will not tolerate a bindni who is more educated than their son. Its a typical mentality

Lets not blame the poor or illiterates for it. Last time I met a Govt officer, family friend. who said he won't be buying a home because he has two daughters. Why uselessly waste money on a home that will be inherited by the son-in-laws. Can you believe it ?





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Posted: 10 years ago
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completly agree with dey.bh.In small towns people still dont want their daughter to study heighr. I dont know wether i should write this here or not.. But me and my sis were not allowed to go for heigher studies becoz according to our grand pa.. Passing high school was enough qualification for us to get married..ladki jayaada padh likh jaayegi to ladka milna mushkil hoga..ye bhi vo maante the.or.. Ladkiyon ko jeevan bhar kuch do ya na do pr shaadi dhoom dhaam se krni jruri hai.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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My cousin could get higher education and pass her driving test but her parents wouldn't allow her to get a job. They are quite well off but her not working meant it took her ages to find a husband who wanted a housewife. My parents thought it was a waste, getting really educated if they weren't going to let her get job. They thought it was waste of education and she wasn't allowed to fulfill her potential.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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in my whole family only 1 girl has completed her education nd working in a company..other than her..nobody has gone to college or has completed studies...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I am well aware of all the problems that women face in india.I know that not just in villages,even in metros,some people have such narrow minded and sick mentality.
When I was in intermediate,one of my friend's elder sister eloped with her boyfriend so her parents discontinued her education and got her married forcibly because they thought that my friend too might elope with somebody and they blamed education for this.And this happened in Mumbai.
In Hyderabad,when I finished my graduation,i remember in my class,there were at least 80 unmarried gals.By the time I completed my graduation,I was the only unmarried gal in my class.Even in a big city like Hyderabad,gals are married before they are 18.When I was in my 2nd year of graduation,one of my friends who was married at the age of 16 was burnt alive by her husband and her in-laws because of the dowry issue.She was continuing her studies after her marriage and her father used to incur her studies ka kharcha and not her husband.🤢
I know there are still some people who don't value gals education and that's why I was laughing at such people.It's really strange that even in 21st century,people still believe that well educated gals won't get good husbands.
And nowadays even well educated working gals also face problems in marriage.Some people want a gal who must have done engineering or MBA or MCA but they would expect that gal to become a housewife after marriage.🤢
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Poor mindset is the biggest problem in India.
Mangalik girls are married to trees or goats but for a mangalik boy search for a saubhagyawati girl or another mangalik girl. What nonsense!

Even the show has it. Matriculate Jetha insults Daya for she is seventh pass. 😆

Daya has to serve the whole family, even if it means pouring a glass of water.

Laugh at Bhide because he irons his wife's saree. You don't laugh at Daya when she irons Jetha's shirt. How is it so obvious thing for the women ?



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