Originally posted by: zapdos
Well I was a silent reader of this forum for a long time, but now I seriously need to speak up on ragini's fake pregnancy track. Lot of senseless and idiotic bashing of ragini and ragya is happening because of this track which seriously needs to stop.
In my opinion, ragini did nothing wrong at all by coming up with this idea. On the superficial level, it may seem foolish and childish and opportunistic insecured haters haven't left any chance of bashing and trashing it down. However it has far deeper meaning and concern embedded in it.
Swara is the most insecured fool ever. She should be ashamed of herself for opposing ragini and trashing her down. She is not able to see what sort of sacrifice ragini was doing for her "step mother" and "half sibling", whereas in fact it should had been done by herself for her "own mother" and "own sibling". Lekin usko sanskaar ko chipakne se fursat mile tab na ... !!
First and foremost ragini had put at stake her maayka and sasuraal both by this idea. Just recently her in- laws had started trusting her, and she was taking this big risk, for whom, for her "step mother" and "half sibling". On the other hand she was also inviting the bitterness and resent of her dadi. She could had simply continued with her own life, romancing her hubby and enjoying the marital bliss. But she chose this path.
Now let me come to the point of fighting the society and making a change in their thinking. It may seem to be a very brilliant idea in the utopian lala land of airheads like swara, but the actual truth is far more dark and grave. How much will you fight with the society and how soon will you be able to get the desired results??? ... It will definitely take a lot of time and till that time the child's childhood is already lost. Change may happen later on, acceptance maybe obtained, but can the lost innocent childhood be brought back for that baby ?? The answer is a big NO.
Ragini knows her dad and her granny much more deeply than swara because it is she who has spent 20 years with them. She loves them and will not accept their faults in front of others, but inside her heart and her mind she clearly knows their shortcomings. She knows that shekhar will never be able to take a firm stand for his wife and his child. She knows that convincing dadi and showing her light is like banging head on the wall. That is why she took this decision because she doesn't want her "step mom" to suffer because of her weak dad and stubborn dadi.
People may say that the child should be raised by his own parents. It is true, but there can be exceptional cases where even the own house can become toxic for the child's upbringing. Which child would like to see his mom always being insulted and taunted by his dadi, while the dad just stands like a statue. So what wrong did ragini do by trying to remove the child from a toxic environment and bring him in another home where all the family members are eagerly waiting for his arrival, where he will be showered with tremendous unconditional love and where he will get all the happiness of the life instead of family tensions. Does someone have any answer for this??
The other important point is about the age of shekhar and shomi. They are middle aged now. By the time the kid becomes 6 to 7 years old, they will be even more aged. They cant give full energy to the child like in sports, going out on adventurous trips etc etc because they will be having their own physical and health limitations. If the child is getting such dashing and dynamic parents like ragya, then what the hell is wrong with it.
Besides the child would had got so many new playmates in the Maheshwari house in the form of ragya's own kids and swasan's kids.
Giving bhashans like swara is one thing, and taking up a life long responsibility is another thing.
It is not easy to take up the responsibility of someone else's child and that too your "step mom" child. Accepting step relations at younger age is still easy but accepting them when you are an adult is extremely difficult.
The person who should be most irked with shomi's pregnancy should had been ragini. How difficult it must be for a grown up married girl like her to digest the fact that her dad is having sex with her step mom at this age and impregnating her. The person who should had been offended the most by this pregnancy is in fact doing her maximum for the child at the cost of putting at stake all her own relations.
For a grown up girl, accepting a step mom is one difficult thing, accepting that your step mom is getting pregnant is even more difficult, and adopting your half sibling as your own child while staking your own every relation is something which just cant be described in words.
When swara was trying to unite her parents, that was for her "own dad" and "own mom". In a way she was even doing it for "herself" because she wanted entry in the gadodia house, wanted dad's love and dad's name.
But what ragini is doing is for her "step mom" and "half sibling". In return she was not going to get anything for herself, infact she was staking all her own relations and trust of in-laws.
Hats off to ragini and hats off to laksh for this. The amount of sacrifice which he was doing for his wife's sake and happiness is extremely commendable. I hope he keeps on supporting his wife like the best husband that he is.
When ragya have taken this decision in their full senses, then I dont think any other douchebags of Maheshwari house have any right to point fingers at them.
Its my sincere request to cvs to please keep away swasan and especially that swara miles away from ragya.
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