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.Sarcasmazing.

@.Sarcasmazing.

Dazzler

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Posted: 10 years ago

Hello everyone! Yeah so today I made a Ragini centric topic for a change 😆

This is about Ragini's recurring sexual fantasies & thoughts which she encounters regularly in the show. Yeah I know we make fun of them but today I was thinking about this one aspect of her character & it got me intrigued.

Why does Ragini think about intimacy most of the times in the show? Why does she think a husband & wife can become one in all senses if they get physical? A traditional sweet girl (atleast in the beginning) like Ragini, why does she think of sex as the prime factor in a marital bond?

I know it's only human to think about intimacy & fantasize about sex. It happens to everyone & frankly is the most normal & natural emotion ever. But with Ragini, it is blatantly obvious. The girl legit craves for Lakshya's body. I know she is married & it's only natural for a newly wed bride to think like this but I've never seen a fictional character on TV being so blatantly obvious about it.

I think these desires from Ragini's side stem from the fact that she has been supressed to think of all this as a growing up girl. She had changes in her body, mind & hormones but she was always supressed by her peers & family who taught her to be an adarsh bahu ever since she must be like 12. So much so, that the girl was legit meek & shy to even talk to girls her age! When her family chose Lakshya for her & Swara entered her life, she must have felt a thrill, an excitement to live life, the way they did. It unleashed those deep desires that she had hidden inside her. A cool & happening guy like Lakshya Maheshwari was selected as her to-be groom, who she spent a lot of time & became best friends with. Finally a guy she had permission to dream all kind of thoughts about which she was thought were only reserved for a girl's husband. Who knows she might have had sexual fantasies about him ever since he was selected for her? Maybe that is why she wanted ONLY Lakshya & nobody else since it would be immoral for her to think about someone else in the same way as she did with Lakshya? Just maybe?

On the other hand, Swara is never shown having such thoughts even when she was with Lakshya, probably because she had the freedom to think & act the way she wanted. She might have had multiple crushes before Lakshya & so her hormones were never supressed by a controlling grandmother & Sanskaars (😆).

So yeah, this is how I seriously think of the various sexual fantasies Ragini's mind conjures. Even on her first night with Lakshya, she knew how distressed he was after losing Swara forever & instead of thinking of being as a moral support for her husband, even if faking it, all she was thinking about was Lakshya & her getting intimate together on their Suhaagraat. Please note that she might also think of suhaagraat as a night when a married couple get intimate for the first time & when she couldn't get the pleasure on her first night itself, she was devastated. She didn't think of emotionally securing her bond with Lakshya but rather physically.

I hope I didn't confuse you all. Just wanted to present what I genuinely and seriously think of Ragini's sexual side. It is actually true that when you try to control something uncontrollable, it unleashes & explodes with all it's might when finally given a chance to & that is exactly what is happening with Ragini here.

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The.Lannister

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Posted: 10 years ago

All of what you said and...

In her traditional mindset she believes physical intimacy will bind Lakshya to her permanently. It is also the way for her to get a child (remember the day she left Lux for what 1hr she mentioned about them never having children😆) , another important way to bind Lux to her permanently since in her world sex & children ensure a loving & devoted husband.

Also, since she is petty, I guess it is just another thing which she gets from her Luxji which Swara could never get🤢

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--Anna--

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Posted: 10 years ago

Love your post! 👏

I agree to everything you said. Till today, in most conservative families, girls are made to believe Sex/intimacy is one way to bind husband and wife together forever. Looking at Ragini, I feel, she is made to believe that if her husband aka Lakshya gives her the rights of a wife - she will be forever tied to him and no one will be able to separate them. Sadly, this is the reality in most indian families. I would not be surprised if Ragini wants a kid from Lakshya just to hold on to him for the same reasons. Its but natural in most Indian families. And I say this from personal experience. 😛

Also, you rightly pointed out Ragini being traditional or sanskaari has got a lot to do with how her hormones are raging now. She has been used to keeping them inside her and the first man she probably interacted with - was Lakshya. She started seeing him as her everything. Being taught, that it is right to sexually fantasise about only your husband could be the reason Ragini is so desperate. Though I would still say, she wants to bind Lakshya with herself and nothing else.

Swara on the other hand is definitely more modern and knows that Sex cannot bind people together. Look at her mom and Dad. Plus, she must have accepted it as a need of a relationship and not a necessity.

Ragini is definitely trying to secure her bond with Lakshya physically though he needs her emotional support at this moment and that is where she is failing as a wife at the moment. You make that emotional connect and physical connection with establish itself. But the way she is heading - she is heading towards a loveless marriage. 😊

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.Sarcasmazing.

@.Sarcasmazing.

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: The.Lannister
All of what you said and...

In her traditional mindset she believes physical intimacy will bind Lakshya to her permanently. It is also the way for her to get a child (remember the day she left Lux for what 1hr she mentioned about them never having children😆) , another important way to bind Lux to her permanently since in her world sex & children ensure a loving & devoted husband.

Also, since she is petty, I guess it is just another thing which she gets from her Luxji which Swara could never get🤢

Oh yes how could I forget the kid thing 😆 Absolutely spot-on! The traditional mindset of intimacy & a heir guaranteeing lifelong marriage even if it's futile & loveless 😆

Oh yes that too. I am actually sure that if she does manage to finally get intimate with Lakshya, she'll definitely brag about it to Swara next day & how finally she bagged Lakshya from her in all ways possible 😆 Maybe in the upcoming track, when Swara asks Lakshya to finally bang Ragini & he obliges, Ragini may come to thank Swara & Swara would feel happy for her sister & finally Rags will give an evil smirk to her & say she finally GOT what she wanted 😲😆

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_Payalj_

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Posted: 10 years ago

I agree to what you are saying.

I can explain this with my own experience .We were taught in a co-ed school and hence were very normal with boys whom we looked upon as friends. It was never ladka/ladki.

Then due to selecting a particular course, I had to attend a school in my 11th and 12th where boys and girls had seperate classes and was shocked to see the mentality. 90% of the time the girls talked about boys, marriage and what happens after marriage. The girls who were supposed to be sheltered were much more interested in sex than the girls who were taught in a co-ed.

This happens always. The forbidden apple always attracts more. Ragini here has been suppressed to the max. Since childhood she must have been told that even thinking about boys is Gandi baat. In fact she would not even have seen a movie with kissing scene in it. With all that repression and restrictions, once she got the chance to be free, she is unable to control herself and her desires.

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.Sarcasmazing.

@.Sarcasmazing.

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: --Anna--
Love your post! 👏

I agree to everything you said. Till today, in most conservative families, girls are made to believe Sex/intimacy is one way to bind husband and wife together forever. Looking at Ragini, I feel, she is made to believe that if her husband aka Lakshya gives her the rights of a wife - she will be forever tied to him and no one will be able to separate them. Sadly, this is the reality in most indian families. I would not be surprised if Ragini wants a kid from Lakshya just to hold on to him for the same reasons. Its but natural in most Indian families. And I say this from personal experience. 😛

Also, you rightly pointed out Ragini being traditional or sanskaari has got a lot to do with how her hormones are raging now. She has been used to keeping them inside her and the first man she probably interacted with - was Lakshya. She started seeing him as her everything. Being taught, that it is right to sexually fantasise about only your husband could be the reason Ragini is so desperate. Though I would still say, she wants to bind Lakshya with herself and nothing else.

Swara on the other hand is definitely more modern and knows that Sex cannot bind people together. Look at her mom and Dad. Plus, she must have accepted it as a need of a relationship and not a necessity.

Ragini is definitely trying to secure her bond with Lakshya physically though he needs her emotional support at this moment and that is where she is failing as a wife at the moment. You make that emotional connect and physical connection with establish itself. But the way she is heading - she is heading towards a loveless marriage. 😊

Thank you Anna 😳

Completely agree with your points, especially the kid being able to bind people forever mindset that is SO rampant among masses. I too have observed it around me, not just in small towns but a metro city like Mumbai. It is there in everywhere, the poor, the middle class AND the rich. Sadly it's not going to change just because it is so widely accepted by everyone & is passed onto the generations.

Yes she probably was thought that it is PAAP to think of guys other than your husband in such manner. When Lakshya was selected for her, she felt the first bloom of attraction for him in all senses & it wasn't even immoral for her to think that way since he was her to-be groom. She spent a lot of time with Sanskaar too prior to her marriage & still never felt all those for him probably because it was immoral for her. She really needs to connect with Lakshya at an emotional level if she expects this relationship to last & probably will when even finally after getting intimate, she still won't get him.

Swara is a very normal case. Normal upbringing & so she knows, the realities & the delusions of a lasting relationship. I hope she does think of Sanskaar in that way sometimes but 😳😆

Wonderful points & reply. Thank you 🤗

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medha

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Posted: 10 years ago

oh kavya could not agree more.

you are probably right about each bit of it.

she thinks of sex most of the time...because she is not familiar with the concept. nobody ever gave her the leeway to read about it in some book...or maybe even watch a movie with such stuff in it(i'm pretty sure that dadi did not), let alone watching po*n. and she probably studied in an all girls school...and never did talk to anyone else about it...(remember she has never had a mother to say things of this sort to..and somehow you cannot ask all this to your grandma...when during puberty your body starts to change)

maybe if she was friends with swara for some more time...she may have known.

so to her...its all kiss kiss bang bang..and kids...the way she has ever thought of it. also i think to her rather underdeveloped way of thinking and conservative mindset of arranged marriages...when you do it...you mate for life..and have kids and live happily ever after. only thing she may have ever read about couples is probably fairytales...which incidentally also more or less covers her way of getting her love---fight whatever comes in between your love...take it..and ride off into the sunset.

monster waiting to be unleashed. hungry monster.🤬

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.Sarcasmazing.

@.Sarcasmazing.

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: billorani123
I agree to what you are saying.
I can explain this with my own experience .We were taught in a co-ed school and hence were very normal with boys whom we looked upon as friends. It was never ladka/ladki.

Then due to selecting a particular course, I had to attend a school in my 11th and 12th where boys and girls had seperate classes and was shocked to see the mentality. 90% of the time the girls talked about boys, marriage and what happens after marriage. The girls who were supposed to be sheltered were much more interested in sex than the girls who were taught in a co-ed.

This happens always. The forbidden apple always attracts more. Ragini here has been suppressed to the max. Since childhood she must have been told that even thinking about boys is Gandi baat. In fact she would not even have seen a movie with kissing scene in it. With all that repression and restrictions, once she got the chance to be free, she is unable to control herself and her desires.

Hey I have a similar experience too 😆 I had to change 3 schools & 2 of them were co-ed whereas the 3rd one was girls only. The amount of bitching, virtual drooling over guys outside, talks about only sex were insane! I was actually baffled to see some of the girls behaving like this 😆 This is exactly what happens when you try to supress someone to such extent that they legit go cuckoo when finally given a chance. It's a pity really how friendship between guys & girls is always judged as something more which eventually leads them to break it off & then go berserk when finally given the chance to :(

I actually sympathize with Ragini now. People around her DO have SOME part to play for making her what she has turned out to be while ofcourse ultimately it's an individuals responsibility of their actions & it's results.

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.Sarcasmazing.

@.Sarcasmazing.

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: medhasarkar
oh kavya could not agree more.
you are probably right about each bit of it.
she thinks of sex most of the time...because she is not familiar with the concept. nobody ever gave her the leeway to read about it in some book...or maybe even watch a movie with such stuff in it(i'm pretty sure that dadi did not), let alone watching po*n. and she probably studied in an all girls school...and never did talk to anyone else about it...(remember she has never had a mother to say things of this sort to..and somehow you cannot ask all this to your grandma...when during puberty your body starts to change)

maybe if she was friends with swara for some more time...she may have known.

so to her...its all kiss kiss bang bang..and kids...the way she has ever thought of it. also i think to her rather underdeveloped way of thinking and conservative mindset of arranged marriages...when you do it...you mate for life..and have kids and live happily ever after. only thing she may have ever read about couples is probably fairytales...which incidentally also more or less covers her way of getting her love---fight whatever comes in between your love...take it..and ride off into the sunset.

monster waiting to be unleashed. hungry monster.🤬

Wonderfully put Medha! 👏

I SO agree with everything & especially with the "mother" point. She did not have a mother who could talk to her about this stuff. You obviously cannot be THAT free with your grandmom, especially one who has been so restrictive towards you befriending even girls belonging to other castes, forget about boys! Also Parvati was blessed with a boy so even she never had the experience of raising a girl till Rags came along. Even her entertainment sessions were probably restricted to daily soaps & Aastha channel with no free will to watch immoral stuff. Ragini is a good case study, I wish we could see these points in the show, kuch toh sympathy hoti usse 😆

Yes, her fantasies are a monster, a hungry monster, waiting to be unleashed when Lakshya finally gives her a chance to 😆

Edit: About the fairytale bit, absolutely. She probably thinks of herself as Prince Charming, Lakshya as Sleeping Beauty & Swara as the Witch so she'd go to lenghts to "protect" her love & get her happy ending. Aiyyyooo

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Lifez_Beautiful

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Oh dear, u just psychoanalyzed Ragz! 👏👏 Sigmund Freud will be proud of u and genuinely I too am!

This is actually a very refreshing thought! And yeah when ppl these days jokingly say, "must be a childhood problem" what they don't actually realize is that it actually might be true!

A both physically and mentally healthy childhood is what makes a person a balanced adult... even if one is slightly compromised... adulthood will be a disaster.

Well in short a great post! 👍🏼

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