'Sanskar Ka Dhoka' Seriously???

So there seems to be a lot of posts regarding the SwaSan confrontation making waves in the forum, all with mixed views. I wasn't able to go through all of them so I'm unaware if someone else brought up what I want to discuss.

So as you all must've already guessed by the topic itself, I want to bring up how Sanskar's feelings towards Swara were continually labeled as a betrayal throughout the episode. Starting from the voice over in the beginning of the episode to the confrontation scene itself. it was all about "Sanskar's dhoka" and frankly, that just bugged the hell out of me.

Personally, I feel as if the writers are going about this plot the wrong way. I don't understand why him falling in love with her is being portrayed as some sort of heinous, unforgivable crime. What exactly did Sanskar do wrong to deserve such a harsh verbal lashing form Swara? Not only that, she basically said adios to their friendship for good. It's not as if Sanskar deliberately fell in love with her, or tried to force her into reciprocating that love. He merely confessed to his feelings in a heated moment under the influence of alcohol. Yes he went about it the wrong way but I'd hardly consider that a betrayal to their friendship. Swara isn't foreign to the concept of love. The way her love ended, she should have been the most compassionate towards Sanskar's feelings. Not throw those feelings back in his face the way Lakshya did to her.

The mature thing for Swara to have done was to have sat down and shared her feelings with Sanskar regarding this matter. It's understandable that the whole thing shocked and upset her, hell it would freak me out too if I were in her place, but she had plenty of time to process the whole thing, even will all the other drama ensuing. She could've told him she was feeling uncomfortable about the whole thing and wasn't ready to discuss it. Or at the very least she should have explained to him how she cannot think about love so soon after one failed relationship and wants them to remain friends and try to put this all behind them. And then the writers could've shown all the awkwardness that would follow in later days of them being together, in the same room, acting like husband-wife with the wall of Sanskar's love ever present between them. Her snapping at him the way she did, and this total misuse of anger towards someone loving you, a trusting friend no less, seems to be extremely out of place. They're adults. Surely they can handle a little talk about love, even if both parties don't feel the same way.

I'll never understand why Indian shows create a mountain out of a molehill about such petty issues, but when it comes to correctly portraying more serious matters, they are swept under the rug. Take for example, Adarsh's infidelity. Apart from Durgaprasad showing his disappointment, I didn't see Adarsh bearing the brunt of his actions. Where Sanskar was being slapped around and insulted for a crime he didn't commit, Adarsh basically got out of his problems Scott free. Is infidelity such a basic matter for the makers of Indian television? Is it so important for them to portray their women as the noble mahaant ki murtis who can only ever be kind and forgiving in the name of family? I was extremely disappointed with the way this issue was handled. Adarsh deserved at least one slap. Not Swara's claims of posing as a united front for him. Lovely wasn't the only participant in this affair. She wasn't the one who was married. She wasn't the one who walked out on her vows intentionally. I hate how infidelity is shown as a mere "mistake" . It's so not a mistake when you are doing something under full consent and willingly.

Anyway before people start to assume I'm bashing Swara, I am so not bashing her. I am just not seeing eye to eye with the way this track played out. Especially coming from someone as rationale as Swara. I understand her anger, but being harsh this way because someone loves you and you don't reciprocate seemed a little over the top to me. They should have instead made Pareenita snap at Adarsh. Now that would have been a well deserved verbal lashing. But alas, dare the Indian shows ever deviate from showing their women as anything more than merciful sati savitris.