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Posted: 9 years ago
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Even after being born with my parents married, I would never want my mom to live in this kind of marriage.
What is Swara think?. She and her mom are forcing themselves on a man who is happy and satisfied living his life without them.
I understand Shehkar's state of mind right now. Ragini is born and bought up right in front of him and he only sees his innocent little girl...nothing else, so I will not criticize him about believe in Ragini...because this is what Swara has too (her mom) unconditional love and trust.
The only reasons we are mad at Shehkar's blind trust is because we see behind the scene. He doesn't ,so I dont blame him

My question only goes to Swara and her mom.
Swara is leaving Laksh forever because after knowing her for 3-6 month months, he still doesn't trust her and their love, but she is ok with her mom staying with a man who doesn't trust her even after 40 years+. Really?
I really wanted her mom to find a better man, and Swara should have better siblings.

Why do we force people to stay with us or why do we have to stay in a relationship that hurts us?

.YOU MAY NOT BE HAPPY ALWAYS, BUT LOVE DOES NOT HURT (except in case of death).

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Posted: 9 years ago
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agree with u
but its not swaras fault
frm childhood she craved for a family seeing others,she always wished she had a family,a dad,siblings all that
so as soon she found out abt her dad she didnt even think a sec to accept them as her family that is y she always insisted laksh to be with his damily and even with sanskar she was ready to forgive him when she knew abt his truth even after fake marriage whn she was going away she told him to put blame on her and be happy with his family
frm starting for swara it was always abt family
the fault here is of shomis she still loves shekar and want to be his wife only
she herself said this to her mom when dadi brought the divorce papers but prior to that she herself said to dida shekar doesnt trust her nor accepts whole heartedly swara as his kid for him ragini only matters not swara next day when dadi brought divorce papers she changed saying she loves him and its not his fault bcz he doesnt knw whole truth
so even after knowing he doesnt trust her and he doesnt love her or trust her daughter she still wants to be with him and still loves him and will do everything to keep the dead relation alive
so when after facing all the insults bashing from her youth when shomi can still love and want to be shekars wife
i dont expect much or find any fault in swara wish to see her parents and family together
but in real life no daughter would want her mom to live with such a husband who doesnt trust her nor can stand for her respect
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: muktha_cute

agree with u
but its not swaras fault
frm childhood she craved for a family seeing others,she always wished she had a family,a dad,siblings all that
so as soon she found out abt her dad she didnt even think a sec to accept them as her family that is y she always insisted laksh to be with his damily and even with sanskar she was ready to forgive him when she knew abt his truth even after fake marriage whn she was going away she told him to put blame on her and be happy with his family
frm starting for swara it was always abt family
the fault here is of shomis she still loves shekar and want to be his wife only
she herself said this to her mom when dadi brought the divorce papers but prior to that she herself said to dida shekar doesnt trust her nor accepts whole heartedly swara as his kid for him ragini only matters not swara next day when dadi brought divorce papers she changed saying she loves him and its not his fault bcz he doesnt knw whole truth
so even after knowing he doesnt trust her and he doesnt love her or trust her daughter she still wants to be with him and still loves him and will do everything to keep the dead relation alive
so when after facing all the insults bashing from her youth when shomi can still love and want to be shekars wife
i dont expect much or find any fault in swara wish to see her parents and family together
but in real life no daughter would want her mom to live with such a husband who doesnt trust her nor can stand for her respect


great points. Swara loved the idea of being with family...great!. But she always had a family...maybe not large but they were happier before their joined Shekhars family.
Maybe the show should lead the way for Swara to understand that having many people physically with you doesn't necessary defines you all as family.
As for Shomi, I have no words. She is just like an abused woman who comes back for more. I understand that she loves Mr clueless, but can't she stay away for a while until he finally gets some clue?...I mean its just 3 steps away...so stay with your mom! In fact, when she is away, he shows some longing eyes...but now, its so much hatred!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Swara have seen how her mom yearned for husbands love and for his acceptance.. If Shomi ever expressed her love for ex hubby Swara would have done everything possible to unite them.. She is doing this not for herself but for her mom... She can't let their relation break coz her sister have gone crazy and selfish..Plus she want to prove to everyone her mom is right her upbringing is best one could ever have Do I sympathize with Sekhar since he is misguided this time??? No I don't. Do I blame him for whatever is happening in this relation?? Yes I do.. why because he was always this way... he never stood up for Shomi.. For his mom he rejected Shomi infront of whole society no one misguided him that time. Oh his dad was giving him dhamki's it did show who mattered to him... and Like Ragz he have seen Swara too growing up infront of him... they were not in same house but she was infront of him always.. problem is he have this gurur about his upbringing and his false pride will never make him accept that his upbringing was wrong..

this doesn't mean I agree with Shomi and Swara they should let this man go once truth is out... He don't deserve them and they should understand they deserve better ..
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I agree, Swara should want better for her mom and really her mom absolutely deserves MUCH better than a man like this. He's a weak and disgusting man, I mean if I a guy had treated me like that I would've been so done with him.
I think in Swara's mind though, yes her father is being stubborn and extremely abusive in his treatment of these events - he should trust these people a little more than that. But the main reason they're separated is because of Ragini's lies and manipulations. Her father needs to be made aware of these circumstances and if then they decide that they still can't be together fine, but he's running on blind faith. It's as much for her father as for her mother.

Her father's whole worldview needs to be challenged and that's what Swara is trying to do here. He can't always be right, sometimes people disappoint us, he needs to have more faith and trust in his relationships.

Plus what others have said, she's always wanted a family and while yes she should be happy that she grew up with an amazing family or extremely strong women around her - who really needed no man - there's that child in her that still yearns for her mother's happiness with the man she loves. For her father to be her family.

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