Is Love a Necessity? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Get-Lost

Interesting post Sona. I felt that its more of a love vs arranged marriage debate that would probably define this issue better. Your last paragraph indicated a typical arranged marriage situation where you start off with respect and care and eventually love creeps in.

However, the issue with NaiRan is slightly different. As @Namita pointed out physical relationship is important no matter what kind of marriage you are in. And that's what Meghna is more worried about..bemaar aadmi ke sath zindagi. Naina is damn sure that Karan would heal; even Karan himself isn't so sure so how come Meghna would buy that? Also, I think there is a moral issue too with Naina-Karan's marriage- lie and deceit. Naina ignored it, Meghna didn't. Fair enough.

Respect, care, friendship can last as long as you keep on rekindling them. I don't think there is a mathematical formula for a successful marriage. Absence of love doesn't guarantee a long-term relationship and neither do presence. It's probably a mixture of everything; love, respect, care, physical bond.

Today's episode hinted that Naina has something more than just care or respect; Karan's reaction was purely concern but Naina has gone beyond that.

Originally posted by: .Sona.

Thank you for this! Really insightful!

What I meant was not that she will be perpetually wanting to help him. Help if needed and that to in the early stages. Then it can be a normal companionship, where both of them mutually respect and care for each other, providing support whenever the other needs. So it won't remain a rescue relationship forever. At least thats what I think. Don't know if I am making sense.

I personally feel love is necessary too. Also, I do think she has started falling for him already. 😆

Originally posted by: -Namita-

I'm really impressed ladies. Such well rounded posts on love and relationships. What a mature bunch of girls.

Originally posted by: malikakas

Problem is right now Naina is assuming that the dynamics of the relationship will change but there is no way to guarantee that or whether they change in a way that's acceptable to her and that's what's dangerous.

Even if she is okay with lack of romance what if Karan gets better and falls in love with someone else and realizes that he wants more. Just because she helped him, is he obligated to "love" her? Is she going to be okay if he stays because of obligation? We know that's not going to happen but how does "she" know that's not going to happen. The problem is this kind of relationship comes with a lot of areas to develop insecurities. That's why I feel they need to be very clear of what they are doing and why.

Originally posted by: hosnraj

Sona...👏Love ka toh pata nahi but you post is really a necessity for us..😆,

ok first I would ask what is LOVE, is there any solid definition, for the word love. everyone have their on elaboration for the word..

now if you express love as a physical relation only then I would say it's a requirement but not a necessity

but for my version of love I would say yes it is a necessity...

I agree with every post on this thread so far, Naina has moved up from duty and now she wants to stay in this relationship, not because she is already married and there is no other option, but because she is happy with Karan, she realized Karan's goodness and now she wants to spend her life with him, and for me this feeling is also love..

well this is too deep😆..

I am better off with my GutterMind...🤣

Originally posted by: .Sona.

Aww thank you!! :)

You are actually right. I think what I described in the post is pretty much on the way to love itself so it won't really be too much for her to fall in love. She has started already.

Thoda zada deep aur philosophical ho gayi na aaj ki post?😆 I should probably control my random mind. 🤣

Originally posted by: .Sona.

I agree. Though I was imagining a situation where Karan would also agree to it actually. Even then there is no guarantee for later. But then there is no guarantee for any relationship for that matter. Okay, i just went too philosophical I think. Should stop. 😆

In fact, I keep feeling that the scenario you mentioned would probably be something that Karan can take to push Naina away later. I don't love you types.