Shayari decoded - Page 7

Well, once I wrote here about how somewhere, many prospective romantic relationships start as an attraction, intensifies with time and culminates as love, while I was trying to decipher kunal's feelings for Nandini. But people were busy bashing kheer and rain dance as the reasons for kunal falling for nandini. Atleast wahan pe woh toh tha lekin yahan pe woh bhi nahi hain. For a minute if we keep aside the marital status of both the couples and analyse their feelings, mishti - ruhaan's case seems much weaker. The story should have been written in a better way for us to empathise with the feelings of the characters. I don't understand any character's love for anyone except veer (he seems genuine to me) and arnav. Mishti is nothing like her parents like how pari is unlike her parents. Pari seems to be more genuine and transparent atleast. She deserves to be happy irrespective of whoever she ends up with. On the other hand, the initial young mishti who was more innocent and sweet than pari is no where to be seen now and ofcourse people change with time and when they have to shoulder responsibilities but she does not seem to be true to anyone at present, not even to herself. Being in confusion of not being able to interpret one's feelings can't always justify one's actions. Her fights with ruhaan are quite repetitive now. Being snappy and angry most of the times aren't going to work. If there is no real guts then she shouldn't have agreed for that dare stunt at all, which is the beginning for all the mess between her and ruhaan. Hope the story develops in a solid way hereafter

Originally posted by: TeluguAmmayi

We all are attracted towards others though we are in a commited relationship / marriage/ love or whatever.

Like for example, We get attracted to a hero / heroine. We get attracted to a serial character whom We adore. That doesn't mean we are cheating our partners.

I adore Shabir. He is married, I am married. He doesn't even know I exist. I like him that doesn't mean I am cheating my husband.

Shabir is just a serial actor. I like so many other Heros.
I used to love Atharv of Jana na Dil se door serial. I used to wish for a partner like him.
I like kohili. I find him very handsome. I am sure meeting these men will make me feel butterflies. That doesn't mean I will cheat my husband.

So attraction is common but that doesn't mean we will cheat our partners and go around sleeping with people who we are attracted to. That's cheating and it's a crime.

How we deal with our attraction and how that affects a relationship if not dealt people is what we have to see.

We may get attracted to our fav character while watching a movie. We will be in aww with the character for the 2-3 hours we watch. After coming out of the theatre, we are out of the attraction.

Imagine if that fav character we like is in our real life. We do get attracted. How do we act on that feeling and how that attraction develops matters.

Originally posted by: TeluguAmmayi

We all are attracted towards others though we are in a commited relationship / marriage/ love or whatever.

Like for example, We get attracted to a hero / heroine. We get attracted to a serial character whom We adore. That doesn't mean we are cheating our partners.

I adore Shabir. He is married, I am married. He doesn't even know I exist. I like him that doesn't mean I am cheating my husband.

Shabir is just a serial actor. I like so many other Heros.
I used to love Atharv of Jana na Dil se door serial. I used to wish for a partner like him.
I like kohili. I find him very handsome. I am sure meeting these men will make me feel butterflies. That doesn't mean I will cheat my husband.

So attraction is common but that doesn't mean we will cheat our partners and go around sleeping with people who we are attracted to. That's cheating and it's a crime.

How we deal with our attraction and how that affects a relationship if not dealt people is what we have to see.

We may get attracted to our fav character while watching a movie. We will be in aww with the character for the 2-3 hours we watch. After coming out of the theatre, we are out of the attraction.

Imagine if that fav character we like is in our real life. We do get attracted. How do we act on that feeling and how that attraction develops matters.

Originally posted by: PranPriye

I have a crush on on Leonardo Di Carpio. But that won't make me feel uncomfortable when my husband hugs me. It also won't make me doubt whether I love my husband or not. Truly how we act on our attraction is what matters.

It may not be the same if you have leonardo di carpio next to you and you hug him, kiss him by mistake.

He is doing all good things to your family. He helps your brother / sister.

Again, it depends upon your bond with your husband. If you love your husband truly it is different but if you don't and you are just being with your husband for a commitment mistaken it as love. Things may not be the same.

Misthi is not to Ruhaan as you are to Leonardo.

Originally posted by: TeluguAmmayi

It may not be the same if you have leonardo di carpio next to you and you hug him, kiss him by mistake.

He is doing all good things to your family. He helps your brother / sister.

Again, it depends upon your bond with your husband. If you love your husband truly it is different but if you don't and you are just being with your husband for a commitment mistaken it as love. Things may not be the same.

Misthi is not to Ruhaan as you are to Leonardo.

Originally posted by: Heisenberg23

Same, everything has become so dramatic and stereotypically ITV. Ruhaan being there to "mend the sisters, Pari giving him puppy eyes all the freaking time, Mishti being caught in a love triangle and being undecisive. They introduced Pari as this straightforward no-nonsense girl and have now made her this lovestruck mess. Ruhaan's character has been butchered for me. I liked the characterization of Mishti, Pari and Ruhaan in the first episode but they have all been compromised for the "love story.

Originally posted by: PranPriye

Agree with you there. It depends on whether I love my husband on not that will decide how much I act on my attraction to Leo. Not how much my husband loves me.

Most people are mostly good. Chances are that many times in my life I will see people being good and helpful to my siblings and family. Doesn't mean I will fall for them. Especially when my husband is also equally a good man.

Neither is Misti to Ruhaan as you are to Shabbir.

I know Misthi-Ruhaan is not me and Shabir. That's what I mentioned in my post too. I told clearly it will be diff if the person we adore / attracter is with us for real.

The pOint to be noted here is that your husband is equally a good man. For Misthi, it may not be the same.

(Again You May find Ruhaan and veer Same, I differ here and find Ruhaan a lottt better than Veer.)

I disagree if you say that it only depends upon the love you have for your husband. It also depends upon the love your husband has on you.

They are people who take divorces after years of marriage due to misunderstanding on mutual basis. 😆

Originally posted by: PranPriye

Agree with you there. It depends on whether I love my husband on not that will decide how much I act on my attraction to Leo. Not how much my husband loves me.

Most people are mostly good. Chances are that many times in my life I will see people being good and helpful to my siblings and family. Doesn't mean I will fall for them. Especially when my husband is also equally a good man.

Neither is Misti to Ruhaan as you are to Shabbir.

Originally posted by: TeluguAmmayi

I know Misthi-Ruhaan is not me and Shabir. That's what I mentioned in my post too. I told clearly it will be diff if the person we adore / attracter is with us for real.

The pOint to be noted here is that your husband is equally a good man. For Misthi, it may not be the same.

(Again You May find Ruhaan and veer Same, I differ here and find Ruhaan a lottt better than Veer.)

I disagree if you say that it only depends upon the love you have for your husband. It also depends upon the love your husband has on you.

They are people who take divorces after years of marriage due to misunderstanding on mutual basis. 😆

Originally posted by: PranPriye

In the show it is not shown how Misti and Veer got in a relationship. What qualities she saw in Veer, what were the circumstances, etc. That's why the 'may' you used was correct. For Misti it may not be the same or it may be.

Sorry, to bring you in this further, but in your post, I find your crush towards Shabbir and others very innocent and normal. I don't feel the same about Misti, which is another difference in our point of view, I believe.

As divorces exist, so does one sided love. So, I don't agree that it depends upon the love the other has for you. Love comes from within. Either it is there or not.

I am just saying break ups, divorces and falling out of love is common.

It only depends upon how the person acts on it.

In the same show I saw a man fall out of love and cheat his wife by sleeping with the other woman and also making his wife pregnant.

If Misthi does the same, I will hate her too like her dad. But if she falls out of love with veer, fall in love with Ruhaan. If she does it in the right / legal way.

It's nothing wrong for me. Attraction isn't a cheap thing or a wrong thing.